Get the coat hanger

Yeesh, why is everyone so strict to loyalty that you can't be forgiving and let her stay with you? One screw up shouldnt be enough to just kick her out. If I had a wife or gf that cheated me I wouldn't just dump her, its human nature to wander, and some its harder to not do it than others. If it did happen, I would forgive her and try to tie up any loose ends that may be broken, usually people cheat because they aren't getting enough satisfaction from their current relationship. If you boot her out its just as unloyal as cheating. You think you are the center of the relationship and that she must be loyal to you, but you forget that she needs attention as well. You could try to repair whatever needs to be fixed and fill what whatever is empty, but instead you leave her out to dry with even worse feelings. Loyalty is two way people. And you show it by helping each other get the kind of love they need, not expecting your spouse to never cheat. [b][u]EDIT[/u][/b] [quote]Yes beta is confirmed[/quote] [quote]oh my gosh I'm sorry[/quote] [spoiler]priiiiime example of letting my thoughts loose without much to base them on[/spoiler] I've never had a girlfriend, so this was definitely a shocker topic to think about. At first I had a vague idea (talking it out and maybe keeping her if she was honest and willing) and the plentiful comments that were various forms of "I'd dump the shit out of that bitch!" really took me aback. I was and wasn't surprised, but it still sort of scared me. I was confused, and I'm sorry if I offended you or said something incredibly ridiculous. After some conversation and intense thought, I basically simulated various situations of the fact being exposed. From a honest confession of a prolonged period to a secret pregnancy that slowly grew obvious. I am glad I got these solid ideas in my head, but I -like anyone- hope I never have to go through those sorts of feelings. I also now respect that any sort of disloyalty is terms for breaking up. Now I'm just talking about my legitimate approach to the situation. I guess to me, a week and a baby would be enough under my boundary to forgive her and keep her. If it were two weeks and a baby though, its borderline, and I would be very conflicted. Any more and I would send her off. I may be very forgiving, I dunno. I'm very forgiving now so I'm guessing I'd be forgiving then. The biggest idea I wanted to make clear that I thought nobody was thinking about, is trying to understand why. I would talk it over with my girl, pick her brain a bit, and see whatever it was that I didn't give that someone else could. Of course if she was just a lieing cheating brat that honestly didn't care less, I wouldn't hesitate a second to cut her loose. But if she was honestly sorry, and managed the courage to admit what was wrong, I would keep her. And my way of sending her off wouldn't be just "we're done, pack you clothes, there's the door," which is another thing that really set me off. Even if she was a lieing cheating scamp all the way through, I would try to be respectful about it. I would give her a blessing of love and happiness, asking God to help her. I would thank her for that happiness she has given me, even if she was faking hers. If she was honest and sorry, not a scamp, I would also apologize for what I could not give to her that whoever she is with now can. Thanks for making me think. Thats one big reason I love #offtopic. So many hot debates that make me think. Any of my replies post marked with a ****** is pre edit

Kick her ass out! She obviously does not love you, and honestly if she had not of gotten pregnant I can almost guarantee you that she would have continued to screw around with other guys. The only reason she is "sorry" and crawling back to You is so she has help with the baby. My opinion, she is using you. Drop her ass off on the nearest door step. Good luck on the decision you make though.

[quote]your gf[/quote] Hahaha! That's a [i]funny[/i] joke! [spoiler]I'm a loser >.<[/spoiler] Hypothetically speaking I'm very gullible, forgive people way too easily and accept apologies. I'm either really nice or I'm a chump. I would accept her back to me and have a baby! Obviously I'd have a big talk with loads of crying and shame first... [spoiler]I'd also implant a GPS chip into her.[/spoiler]

This is the most retarded question I've encountered on this forum. I would dump that bitch in a heartbeat, obviously.

Lol git gud grill

I'm married. If this was my wife, I would force her to get an abortion, and from that point onward she would have to suffer never being loved by her husband again for the rest of her life. I would not let her get a divorce.

Sounds like I'd be single.

Stay with her, and forgive her. The child needs a father in his life. Mine ran away because he was only in it for the sex. We all make mistakes, we are only human. She was obviously sorry about it.

She won't be on the street with a baby, that's what benefits are for. The bitch and brat would be out before they could blink.

-blam!- that bitch move on. I mean I'm all for second chances but not with cheating

Personally i couldn't live with someone who cheated on me. I would end the relationship. Even if we were married.