First off I would say 95% of the interactions I've had with other Destiny players has been incredibly positive. Just tonight I joined a raid group for Vault of Glass, pretty easy so it didn't require speaking into my mic. The group was pretty talkative to each other and seemed nice. Half way through my power flickered turning my TV off but leaving my One on. I spoke to explain I needed a second to turn my TV back on. That's when 2/3 of the men in the group started laughing and making inappropriate comments about me being a girl. They wouldn't continue the game until the party leader booted me, thankfully he was okay(not okay enough to defend me) and didn't just boot me. They said things like I shouldn't be playing destiny, I was probably not in college and working a low level job. They made comments about how I probably didn't have a boyfriend and was lesbian. They made sexually abusive comments and laughed at anything the others said. They didn't sound like high school boys either, they sounded like grown men. I got their gamer tags, not that that would do anything. But I feel horrible, I was already apprehensive to first speak to any group going into a raid and now I don't think I ever want to. Is there any way to counteract this? Should I preface every post for recruitment that I'm a woman and if that's going to be a problem not to add me? Not speak during raids? [b]tl;dr[/b] Raid group said unkind things and wouldn't finish raid when they found out I was a girl. What's the best way to make sure that doesn't happen in the future? [b]edit 1[/b]: To add better paragraphs and spacing for easier reading and added a tl;dr [b]Update[/b]: I went to bed at 300 replies after reading all those but upon waking up there's no way I can read every single response though I'd like to. I am appreciative of the kindness, I really didn't expect anyone to reply except to tell me to get over it. I will try to add all the people who messaged me to add them and I am checking out Dames of Destiny. I think avoiding random groups on the forums is my best move. I have already reported and blocked the players to Microsoft, if anyone could message me and tell me how to report them to bungie I'd really appreciate that. I'm not making anything up, I can't prove they did it but that doesn't mean it didn't happen to me. I am not grouping all men together, like I said 95% of players are awesome. I do need to get some thicker skin, it's the first time I've heard a group verbally abuse me instead of just seeing written since grade school. It was a hurtful experience but I recognize it happens to all players. Saying that, there isn't anything wrong with seeing out to share that experience and get advice on how to deal with the situation. If you want to make this into a menvswomen thing that's entirely your false perception and I never felt that way about the situation. If you'd like to get a direct response to me I'd say send me a message on here or xbox live(gt:Dance48) and I'll get back to you. Again, thank you for the kindness and advice I really didn't expect any of it and it makes me feel a lot better about what happened and what I can do so it doesn't happen again.