When you compare something in real life to a video game, it gives me (and a lot of other people) the impression that you have lost your mind completely. Am I asking to toss aside manners? Nope. I wish they were still taught. We both know that is hardly the case these days. But, what you are asking for is merely an extra menu away. (Or click. I guess it's different for XBOX.) If I had to compare this complaint of yours, I would have to say it is like you logging onto a messenger program, keeping yourself visibly available online so people can see and talk to you, and when someone does you say "I'm in a bad mood leave me alone." To which you do not change your status to busy or invisible, and you get upset when people keep bugging you. Why did you come online then? I want to talk to you, ask how your day was, and maybe show a picture. Same thing goes for a video game. "Hey, rooms open, got a slot open, lets see what this guy is doing." Shoot, the perfect solution to this is the same system in Monster Hunter. You create a room, and can set it to open, friends only, private, and (The best option.) Password. I get it. It's annoying, again I admit that. But again, you can't complain when you have settings you can turn on to prevent it.