Why even add people if you just kick them without even an explanation? Edit 5: Props to those who don't mind helping people get "free" gear. I think it shows a level of maturity. I always thank the people that help me and have no problem helping others even if I'm at the very end. Wish people wouldn't treat their strikes like it's their house and require permission to join even though they left they're fireteam open. My fireteam is always open if I have room so feel free to add me if you're the same way. Edit 4: I'm surprised how many people actually admit booting people at the and of a boss fight after getting help from that person. There's something very wrong with you as a person if you actually do that. I'll say it again though, CHANGE YOUR SETTINGS if you don't want people to join you. If you don't want to be bothered at a hotel wouldn't you put the "do not disturb" sign up? It's common sense really. How is it rude to join someone when you added them. That's like giving someone your phone number but get mad when they call. Loosen up people!! Other edits: [spoiler]Edit 3: So it seems some don't mind people just joining in to help(myself included) and some think it's just rude. That's fine, but why not just change your settings then? I also find it crazy that people compare a game space to their home and make that comparison. You're already in the comfort of your home, why so private and personal? Edit 2: There's a lot of people saying it's rude without an invitation or messaging first so why not change privacy setting. If you leave it open you basically inviting people. Edit: If you're waiting for a friend you could simply say so then boot. Also I've been in many situations on nightfalls when I join at the right time to prevent a wipe at the boss so sending a message would have been too late.[/spoiler]