First off, you were not banned, you were restricted and restrictions are temporary so get over that. Secondly, you were not banned because you were a girl you were banned because you had a poor connection and turned into the indestructible jumping Easter bunny on other people's screens. You got reported and thus you got restricted after they looked at the logs. Tertiary, a 5 Mbps connection is NOT enough to share and play two Destiny Crucibles on. The reason your husband didn't get banned is because you or he did not set your connection up properly. Most routers nowadays send priority traffic to wireless since it is what is used so heavily now. That means he was using a majority of the bandwidth plus with his packet loss,etc. from being wireless; it screwed the pooch on your connection. You need to configure your connection so that when both PS4's are on, that you get equal bandwidth across both. Then when you go into Crucible; you both can get restricted! Weeeeeee! As I stated, 5 Mbps is the MINIMUM for ONE player to play Destiny, but even that will likely not be enough because with only a 5 Mbps down, your upstream is going to be shite. You need a stable up and down connection (preferably at least 20/5) to avoid problems like these. Bungie has stated in MULTIPLE weekly updates and MULTIPLE Twitter postings that if you have a poor connection and impact the gameplay of others; then you will receive a restriction. Period. Repeat offenders will find more severe restrictions up to and include total lockout from the Crucible (trust me I know a person in that situation). This restriction gives you a chance to properly configure and hard wire BOTH consoles. But hey if you don't want to, everyone knows the definition of insanity...