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Editado por TheWowso:
8/3/2014 4:19:40 PM
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My Virginity
I'm 20 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I've dated but never made it to the "relationship" part.
I've been waiting to have sex until I'm married, with my wife (who would also be a virgin). But I can't date a girl who has had sex. I'd be fine with a non-virgin if I was one too.
What should I do?
Should I just lose my virginity so I'm free to date any girl?
Or should I save my virginity for my future wife?
Edit: it feels like no girl has the same values as me. Like girls that wait till marriage to have sex are rare. I just don't want to be single forever. I like the whole "romantic love" kinda stuff.
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1 RespuestaI can assure you if you haven't married by 20, you will not find a virgin who isn't a disgusting landwhale. Just get laid. Doesn't matter if she has already. If she knows what she's doing it'll just be better for you anyway.
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1 Respuesta[quote]What should I do? [/quote]You should stop having such ridiculous standards. It's not 1950 anymore.
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3 RespuestasEditado por Stupidnamium: 8/3/2014 3:44:57 AMIt's ok if you want to wait till marriage to have sex, but keep in mind that many girls will have had sex before, especially as you get older. Try the relationship part before you dump her because she's not a virgin. But hey, I'm 14 so what do I know? [spoiler]and no, I have not had sex before, before people accuse me of being too young.[/spoiler]
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Damn, you're life sucks
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Jesus. what are you some kind of gay boy?
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Try christian singles . Com?
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You could retain your virginity without necessarily needing your partner to be a virgin. Realistically, we're living in an age where your beliefs, as traditional and reasonable as they are, aren't as commonly held as in the past and even less kept than that. You can save yourself for someone special, and more power to you if you successfully manage to do so, but you can also overlook a person's past if you really think they're worth being with. I had an ex who was saving herself for marriage. I wasn't a virgin, but she overlooked that for me. It didn't work out for other reasons, but she was still willing to try despite the actions of my past.
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Last thing you want to do is wait sex sucks the first time around and you usually end up resenting who ever was your first. So, unless you want to resent your wife try to get laid.
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It shouldn't matter if she's a virgin or not, that's why you don't have someone.
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Virginity is no big deal. I'm in double digits and it hasn't turned me into a vile satanist. Until a few months ago I was in a very committed relationship with a girl whom I loved which sadly ended due to various reasons. And one day I'll marry someone and that'll be it. Having some harmless casual sex won't destroy your capacity to love. It'll enhance it if anything. Being intimate with my ex was more than just physical pleasure.
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Kill her
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6 RespuestasIt's okay. I died a virgin, and on episode 8.
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2 RespuestasEditado por Ninchiito: 8/3/2014 5:01:27 AMI'll say the same thing I told Ktan; Dogs and cats count, just saying.
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3 RespuestasEditado por PsychoWyrm: 8/3/2014 4:47:06 AMIf you want to wait because you think it will be some magical thing, you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Sex is awesome, but at the same time it's also not. There's so much at play. Being new to it you'll still be trying to figure out your own body, how to work it and what you like, while simultaneously learning the same of your partner. It's also rather judgemental to demand a virgin. If you're attracted to and have feelings for a girl who is not, is that really a deal breaker? Are you obsessed with being a girl's only partner? Because that comes across as narcissistic. Life is short. If the feeling is mutual, then enjoy one another while you can. Just remember the two most important things: safety and respect. Now if your issue was moral/religious in nature, I can't really help you with that. That kinda baggage can only ever be handled by oneself. Just remember, it doesn't have to be story book to be romantic.
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You're putting too much value into the whole virginity thing. All people attribute "virginity" to anymore, is inexperience. Especially when it comes to men. As far as society is concerned, it has little to no value anymore, unless you're a girl before her 20's outside of that, nobody cares.
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Editado por Rocket: 8/4/2014 5:20:46 PMHere's the thing though: People who have had 100 girlfriends and people who have had 0 girlfriends are on the SAME level. They both aren't married. Nobody is better than you for dating more or less, that's just another way for people to find something to gloat about. Life is a competition and numbers game to some people. Don't compromise your standards bro, I'm literally in the SAME situation. 20, never had a girlfriend. Its a searching game. I'm finally finding girls who match my values. You will too. May happen now, may happen later. There is a reason they are rare. They are to be treasured. But don't throw your virginity away for nothing, because most people I know who did, regret it to this day. You can't undo it. Stay strong, and believe that your future wife will find you. Don't settle for less, because less is what you will get my friend. You know what? I'll pray for you bro. Its hard trust me. But nothing is impossible.
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Here's the thing though: People who have had 100 girlfriends and people who have had 0 girlfriends are on the SAME level. They both aren't married. Nobody is better than you for dating more or less, that's just another way for people to find something to gloat about. Life is a competition and numbers game to some people. Don't compromise your standards bro, I'm literally in the SAME situation. 20, never had a girlfriend. Its a searching game. I'm finally finding girls who match my values. You will too. May happen now, may happen later. But don't throw your virginity away for nothing, because most people I know who did, regret it to this day. You can't undo it. Stay strong, and believe that your future wife will find you. Don't settle for less, because less is what you will get my friend. You know what? I'll pray for you bro. Its hard trust me. But nothing is impossible.
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In a similar boat dude I feel thine pain. Thought about making a post like this and decided against it.
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I can't tell you what to do. But I'm waiting until I find the right person.
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4 RespuestasWould you buy a car without test driving it? Would you buy a shirt without trying it on to see how it hits? The answer is no. What you marry a woman and commit the rest of your life without seeing if the vagina feels nice. Of course not.
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2 RespuestasLOL Scrub
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3 RespuestasCan I have your virginity? Like, I want mine back. So we'll do a swap
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The chances of you finding a girl your age that is not a virgin are slim to none. And by slim I mean less than 5%
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Keep your virginity. I was a virgin when I got married and so was my wife. And I live in Wyoming...so if it can happen for me, it can happen for anyone. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. We have been married for almost nine years and I don't regret it in the slightest. That said, you may find that you meet the love of your life and she may not be a virgin as well. I would not use that as the sole metric for choosing a spouse. There are many more qualities that make up a person than this one.
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In today's society you'll either have to suck it up and -blam!- then marry, marry someone that's fucjed, or marry a fat girl virgin.
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2 RespuestasLet it go.
