Didn't read the whole thing but you met a guy on Xbox live and complain he plays too many video games... I mean what did you expect?

Everything you just said, is almost word for word what I hear from every teen mom. I'm sorry, the chances your man is ready for a child in this society, at 21, is not high. From the way you talk about him, it doesn't seem like you think he's really the one, and he sounds like he isn't ready for the responsibility a child. That's why teen pregnancies are used as such a taboo in movies for upstanding successful families. And you should not be putting this kind of stuff on a forum honestly. Here's a secret: [spoiler]sometimes it can seem so difficult to figure out how to be better to each other. There's actually a simple principle beyond love, that keeps the flames burning on both ends.... Both of you must put the other first, at all times. Not for yourself, but for them. A strong relationship, really is, that simple. [/spoiler]

Sounds like your biggest problem is that you'd rather come here and talk about your problems then actually sit down and talk to him about it.

What's your favorite type of chocolate?

Firstly... A game forum is not really the best place to go to discuss an issue such as this. Secondly... You're both wayyyy to young to be in this situation. Neither of you have experienced enough of life to now be in what appears to be a situation neither of you were ready for mentally or financially. Thirdly... If he's not going to contribute like a man you should tell him to piss off. Short, simple and to the point. Based on this post, he's not contributing or stepping up to the plate anyway, so what have you got to lose by calling him out? If he picks up his act and starts being a man, then it's worth it, if he says farewell, you have one less child to look after. I'm a Dad, and I can't stress enough how weak he sounds. Tell him to shit or get off the pot.

What game did you meet on?

There is a “traditional” order in this world that sees men dominate the work world and not have much of a presence at home. It could very well be that he sees your situation in this way. Especially if you are currently not working. He likely considers every moment that you are at home, free time you are allowed that he is not. This is a constant battle I have with my girlfriend even though she works part time and has a 6-year-old child. I measure free time as the amount of time spent doing something that you choose to do vs the amount of time spent doing something that someone else tells you to do. If he is working 8-16 hour shifts and is getting up early to play video games, then that tells me he considers gaming to be something he HAS to do. Think of it as similar to chores. If he doesn’t finish something in the allotted time, it could be something that cannot be recovered. It doesn’t matter what you think is important and what you think isn’t important. He thinks it’s important and you are not going to change that. He obviously respects what is important to you, sounds like you should try to respect what is important to him. It also sounds like you should find something you enjoy doing that doesn’t involve him or the child. This will help with your resentment. If I could stress anything about this post it would be the last part so I’ll say it again. It sounds like you should find something you enjoy doing that doesn’t involve him or the child.

From reading through other comments and your replies to them, your partner doesn't seem all that bad. He works, he pays the rent and other bills and saving for things to help with your future (you mentioned him saving for a car to someone to help with your college?) and he still provides for his child, may be limited but he still does. Both your parents work also which does leave you as the main carer for YOUR child especially as you're the only one with unlimited free time at the moment. My partner recently lost his job and is living with me, only my income supports us at the moment, i work 70odd hours a week and he keeps the home in order and washing/laundry done. I understand a child is a whole different story but you can't condemn him for what he is doing when it's not like he's one of those fathers who sits home all day, no job and does nothing for his child. I noticed you edited since i last read this post and i remember you writing something about how your child likes you more or something than him? You are the primary carer and mother, you've bonded in a way that he could never so yes, your child probably does prefer you even if he interacted with it more, you would still be the one It would prefer. You also can't condemned him for playing computer games as his down time. It's nothing to do with his priorities. In all honesty, if you wasn't prepared for a child you shouldnt of had one. It's irresponsible but you have to work with the situation you're in and he is working to provide so i don't understand why you're painting him as the devil. If anybody warrants being called Ungreatful, it's you. You're not greatful for him paying for the roof over your head, the clothes and food for you and your child. As you pointed out, he cleaned the bottles, that's a sign that he is trying to help more and you've just shat all over that and still not happy, that's Ungreatful.

I'd start by not referring to him as your baby daddy. That just reeks of immaturity.

You were 12 and he was 15?

Damn baby daddies. They just don't make em like they used to..

Xbox relationship for you, but goddamn, if he works that much, give him a break.

I hope he lives away from schools!

If he washed the bottles it means he cares and is sorry. Give it some time.

Should've thought twice before getting yourself knocked up

You both are very young to be in the situation you are in right now. Take it from me I'm 33. It's hard right now but focus on creating a good environment for your child. At some point the he is going to regret that he's playing video games over being a Dad that your baby needs right now. Those will be precious moments he will never get back. Get yourself a job/get into college and fight to give your child a great life. It will not be easy and you two may break up but get yourself into a situation where you don't have to depend on anyone. It will make your kid's life so much better. Take care.

Don't listen to the advice of people here. Quite a lot of them seem to have no experience around this stuff. You both seem quite young so seeing a couples therapist, if only briefly, to clear up the situation could be helpful. Transparency and a good working relationship are essential. Otherwise, don't bottle up emotions. Let him know the problem before it becomes overwhelming.