She may seam like the one and maybe she is but you both sound young and people change and grow apart I just happens thee is no stoping it and there is no going back :( so say you do not join and you resent her for it or you do not and she leaves you anyway how will you feel also if this is an equal relationship why is she not supporting you did she have family that died in war or is it her controlling you there are a lot of things in play hear but what ever you decide sleep in it for one night before you commit as you're life will be different one way or other and for better or worse