My now ex (we were together for over 3 years when I joined) didn't approve of me joining the Air Force but agreed to try and work through it. When I got back from basic I felt like she resented me and didn't like who Id become and we ended up breaking up over it. Oh well it was for the better because it's what I want to do with my life. You need to do what's best for you and not rely on a woman.