JavaScript is required to use Bungie.net

Service Alert
Destiny 2 will be temporarily offline tomorrow for scheduled maintenance. Please stay tuned to @BungieHelp for updates.

#women

Edited by FoMan123: 10/9/2014 4:35:41 AM
261

Gentlemen of Destiny. We need to talk.

Preach.

1394

I am really insecure and women make me nervous.

181

BUT WHAT ABOUT NO GIRLS ALLOWED?!

185

...when you put it that way...

126

It's really sad, some of the behavior I see toward women. I want to say that this describes a loud minority of players...but that would be a lie. It's the majority. I just don't get it. MAYBE they are just extra hormonal guys hoping to meet a cool gamer chick who would be into them. [i]But aren't we all?[/i] No seriously, I think single guys don't realize that every (heterosexual) guy kinda hopes to meet a girl who is into the same things they are. At least in passing. And yeah, it would be really cool. Yeah, I find it really hot when my fiance sets dudes on fire and giggles about it. But in knowing that, you know that [i]the way to get a really great girl to pay attention to you, who shares a hobby with you, is not to just walk up and hump her.[/i] For example... say we were both into bowling. We're both bowlers. Cool, she's a bowler! We bowl! We can talk about bowling and bowl together! Great stuff! I sure hope this girl who bowls likes me, or at least gives me a chance! Hell, I'd be okay with being friends just to shake up the sausage fest formula on my bowling team a bit! It would be NICE to have a girl or two around, because it's NICE to have girls around. I like girls! They're cool! [b]LET ME GO SHOW THIS BY SHAGGING HER LEFT LEG, CALLING HER A SLUT AND TELLING HER TO GET BACK IN THE KITCHEN.[/b] See the problem? Not only will she tell you to -blam!- off, she'll probably think twice about bowling again. Everyone loses. She loses a hobby, you lose a chance to interact with someone who isn't drowning in testosterone and maybe, MAYBE, might be willing to give you a chance on another level. Here's more truth: I don't think male gamers want to admit the fact that they [i]like[/i] playing with women. I'm taken. I'm happily taken. But I still do like playing with women as much as like gaming with the boys. For the same reason I like playing with different people at all---they're different. The same old jokes get tired. The same voices get tired. Sometimes, I just like playing a game with a girl---because a girl is another type of human, and the same old humans get boring fast. That's the point of the internet. Who really makes this so difficult? The dick measurers. The same people who call everything Over Powered, the same people who rage when they get crushed in Crucible, or rage at bosses, or just rage. See, they can tell that their repugnant attitude repels women. So they see people with women in their groups, and [i]because that is more rare[/i] they either whine about not having it OR claim that women just aren't wanted. See: The common reaction to exotics. You either get rational people who get it if they got it and are happy with it and not upset if they didn't, people who rage about not having them because they don't, or people who try to convince everyone that no one needs them because they can't figure out how to make sure that they're the one with the thing not everyone has. They don't hate girl gamers. They don't want to be the gamer with no girls in their group, and can't figure out why they're the reason for that problem. Somehow it becomes a status thing, like almost everything else, while the rest of us out here who are reasonable are just like... Lolwut? ~Ricochet EDIT: Respondent said this needed a TL:DR. Here it is. [quote]Here, I'll do it for you: Be nice to girls. It can be fun to play video games with girls. Don't be mean to girls. Maybe if you are nice more of them will play.[/quote] ...and furthermore, it shouldn't be a hostile environment for women to begin with. Not cool, no matter what your reasons are behind behaving the way you do. EDIT: 4pm Eastern Standard Time, I'm retiring replying to people. Thanks to everyone who participated in this conversation!

Posting in language:

 

Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

  • Edited by DBb: 10/8/2014 8:43:45 PM
    0
    This whole post... so much fedora and m'lady. Edit: But really though, why do people base everything on the Bungie forums? Oh, it's a cesspool of trolls and has been for quite some time, but clearly this reflects the attitude of all males in gaming. Edit 2: And the poll... that's not biased at all. /s

    Posting in language:

     

    Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

  • "tips"

    Posting in language:

     

    Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

    1 Reply
    • Edited by Lach: 10/8/2014 7:55:52 PM
      You're preaching to a vocal minority, Richochet. Any decent person shows respect to others regardless of their race or gender. There's no point in even lingering on this topic. Respect your fellow humans.

      Posting in language:

       

      Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

    • I rage in pvp of all games (I suck at it and it's why I don't use a headset- sorry neighbors), but I'm still not an asshat to other people.

      Posting in language:

       

      Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

    • I want girls off games consoles and back to making sandwiches and taking the D in return for a shopping spree on Saturday. Not assed if she's getting laid elsewhere or doesn't love me. Just shit your mouth, make sure teas ready and then leave me the -blam!- alone. Do what you want. That's my attitude, got a smoking female in my house who seems OK to speak but is mainly good at takig the D, and leaves me alone when the boys come round for a spliff, footy or whatever else. Life's too short to devote all time into a women.

      Posting in language:

       

      Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

      1 Reply
      • Nice.

        Posting in language:

         

        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

      • Hoping to find a girl who plays any game is pointless. Stalking a presumed girl is always wrong. (I know pretty girls and know what they go through and it sucks) Even if you found a girl playing, so what.... She probably doesn't want to play with you, especially if you were looking for a "girl", and never if you stalk girls Now then, play your game, or go to college, you can do something useful, and there are girls there.....

        Posting in language:

         

        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

      • Hey dad, stop using all the internets.

        Posting in language:

         

        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

      • I'm a boy that loves to play with girls. That's why I have a wife and four daughters that are all gamers. Send me a friend request on Xbox360. I am Leatherneck - a girl's best friend.

        Posting in language:

         

        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

      • All women want is my Corvette and my GSX-R 1000..... They build their own reputation....

        Posting in language:

         

        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

      • Having read the majority of responces, in addition to the initial post, I just don't get it(on this forum)..... This belongs on a COD forum or any EA Sports game. For starters, who the shit is talking to anyone in this game? I have never been approached by anyone for anything other than a stupid dance here or there. Maybe I smell...... Maybe folks are too busy talking to everyone else.... I fully agree that children are annoying and kids are cruel. Even the adults that never reached maturity. That said, what can I, you or anyone do about it? Absolutely nothing. It all boils down to parenting and self esteem. With kids, vulgarity isn't at all shocking or out of place. How many kids, especially boys, swear around their friends but not their parents? Mom or dad ain't behind that headset. Those that grew up with inattentive or shitty parents tend to lack tact and common decency when talking behind a keyboard or mic. Getting lumped in with every negative guy you've personaly had to deal with isn't fair. Also, I was under the impression you were female, addressing an important topic(in the wrong place). But to find out, your a guy?! Please give me a moment to remove the knife from my back..... Now that I'm over the betrayal, I do agree with you to a point. But again, kids/asshats will be kids/asshats. Until I unlock this community chat feature you speak of, the Space Pope of the year 2088 will go silently into the cosmos, converting alien heathens with the fists of Jesus to a religion he doesn't even believe in.

        Posting in language:

         

        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

        1 Reply
        • I just use really bad pick up lines to be funny. "Aye girl. Are you a Titan? Because you got that storm grip on me."

          Posting in language:

           

          Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

        • In what universe did you think it would be a good idea, of all places, to post something like this. You do realize (i honestly didn't even read it) that 98% of the people on this site, do not/will not/can not give a shit about this post. I mean seriously i am sure you have good intentions, but preach this stuff somewhere else. You are trying to voice your opinion to a bunch of 12-18 year old boys, and they DO NOT care. Use your brain next time before you try to post something as complex as women equality in online gaming, onto a Destiny, MESSAGE BOARD.

          Posting in language:

           

          Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

        • Yo Hitch. Shutup.

          Posting in language:

           

          Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

          6 Replies
          • You... realise I can care less?

            Posting in language:

             

            Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

            3 Replies
            • One woman to another, please knock the sand from your boner garage.

              Posting in language:

               

              Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

              27 Replies
              • My wife and I played an MMO together, and she sure did get a lot of attention. Nothing super innapropriate (that we were married in actual life rather than in game helped) but she had a lot of dudes ready to help her with whatever.

                Posting in language:

                 

                Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                5 Replies
                • Edited by Gubzs: 10/8/2014 6:17:13 PM
                  My GF is a "girl gamer". She doesn't use a mic because she's shy and doesn't want, or like the attention. That said, if girl gamers don't want people to freak out, I'd suggest ceasing the production of "I am girl <3" emblems in Call of Duty, "xXgirlXxGamer" usernames, and general mic whoring for attention. I'm not saying all girls do this shit, but [i]damn [/i]do I see it a lot. And don't go all feminist on me and be like "I should be able to do this-..." because the only reason you would is to get attention. If you haven't noticed, most of us guys don't use open mics either. Pretty much everyone with an open mic in a non-party is an asshole in some way, be it raging, trolling, or a squeaky child on a game that outrates their age.

                  Posting in language:

                   

                  Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                  4 Replies
                  • My GF is a "girl gamer". She doesn't use a mic because she's shy and doesn't want, or like the attention. That said, if girl gamers don't want people to freak out, I'd suggest ceasing the production of "I am girl <3" emblems in Call of Duty, "xXgirlXxGamer" usernames, and general mic whoring for attention. I'm not saying all girls do this shit, but [i]damn [/i]do I see it a lot. If you haven't noticed, most of us guys don't use open mics either. Pretty much everyone with an open mic in a non-party is an asshole in some way, be it raging, trolling, or a squeaky child on a game that outrates their age.

                    Posting in language:

                     

                    Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                  • I made a female hunter, first time I have ever had a girl avatar in a game and holy crap do I get humped all the time haha, I laugh mainly because I'm a bald dude getting humped by what I am assuming are other guys. I rock the bald but not that well!

                    Posting in language:

                     

                    Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                  • I have a girl who plays games. But she doesn't go to the forum of the game Shes playing to be like "gurl gaemr heer! Aks mi aniii tingg lol" Its stupid when gender becomes a thing in games. No one cares She hates destiny BTW. Cuz I play it too much.

                    Posting in language:

                     

                    Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                  • Not sure why I read that but I did. Couple things, it is the minority of players who behave like that. The normal people avoid these types of things, to say the majority of gamers have that mind set is lumping way too many good folks with the dregs of society. If there are people who need to play with particular sex of player well, that sucks I guess. Just enjoy the game and the friends you meet whilst playing regardless of their gender/race/creed. Lastly you said "That's the point of the Internet" at one point. No, the Internet has no point lol but I guess that makes it a point, er whatever -blam!- it lol PS - you should remove this from the Destiny page and put it in Off Topic, being as there is nothing about the game itself in this post haha

                    Posting in language:

                     

                    Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                    2 Replies
                    • Edited by Greg McGregor: 10/8/2014 6:05:03 PM
                      I think it's probably erroneous to claim that the majority of gaming guys fit this bill. You dismiss the possibility that this is a vocal minority, but I think you should reexamine your assumption. I know it's bad practice to cite one's self as an example, but I simply don't feel the need to address the whole "women in gaming" issue simply because I don't give a shit. I offer the assumption that this is the norm.

                      Posting in language:

                       

                      Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                    • Edited by AbleBody91: 10/8/2014 6:19:17 PM
                      I don't see any girls playing video games. Is this real?

                      Posting in language:

                       

                      Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                      1 Reply
                      • I'm confused, this post seems to lose it's point halfway through. Also I have seen little to none of this on Destiny. Sure you have the "Dancing behind you!" shit, but to be fair people do that to male guardians, female guardians, NPC's....... I don't get the point of this post at all to be completely honest with you. Maybe in Call of Duty or halo, or battlefield.... Pretty much any game with a public open chat feature, but honestly not much in destiny. I feel like this is just preaching to preach.

                        Posting in language:

                         

                        Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                        4 Replies
                        • I bet you have some great points but you completely nuked the shit out of my attention span and I'm sure I'm not alone.

                          Posting in language:

                           

                          Play nice. Take a minute to review our Code of Conduct before submitting your post. Cancel Edit Create Fireteam Post

                          6 Replies
                          3 4 5 6 7 8 9
                          You are not allowed to view this content.
                          ;
                          preload icon
                          preload icon
                          preload icon