I'm just going to go out on a limb here and take a guesstimate that you've talked to him over the phone. The best way to talk to somebody today is still by having a good old fashioned 1 on 1. He can't brush you off when you're there in person, not if you let him. From the amount of times he's brushed you off, he's definately getting cold feet. But, what I'm about to say seems like the most likely outcome. If he's giving you this much trouble now, and even trying to avoid you, things likely aren't going to work out. You can approach him in person, and even force him to talk, but that will only agitate things further, leaving a bad taste in his mouth and yours. You've got three choices. You can corner him in person until the barriers come down, and speak your mind and get him to speak his forcefully. You've get to get ballsey and make your point very clear on this one. You can wait and endure things until he's ready to talk. Everybody has to talk sometime. And third, which would be the hardest, is to leave his ass. You even said so yourself, if he started up with that crap you'd dump him. If you do dump him, and show him how damn serious you are about things, it might even prompt him to come out and start talking. It doesn't sound like there's a nice way to go about things at this point. But the best out of all of those would be to hunker down and wait for him until he's ready to start talking. It's a difficult time for both parties involved, and no doubt, he's got his own fare share of thinking to do. His whole way of life will be changed because of this, and right now, he's sitting in a sort of flight or fight response mode. Right now, it seems like he's going for flight, but that may change if given enough time.