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3/19/2013 8:24:11 PM
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The Behavior of Married Men
I've had quite a few of you ask me "What would Mrs Charlie think?" when I post that I have a female body preference, like strip clubs or flirt with pretty girls.
How is a married man supposed to behave, in your opinion? Are we to become monks, our testicles locked in the wife's purse? Or into Ward Cleaver, pipe in hand, giving young Beaver fatherly advice?
I am still male, and a guy. I have stayed true to Mrs Charlie since I met her nearly 20 years ago, but I don't act like a priest.
So, please, tell us, what should a married guy act like?
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1 ReplyI'm married to my left hand, but I'm currently in an affair with my right hand. Don't tell my left hand. Sssshhhh!
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I was going to post a response...but I forgot what I was typing. Anyway, um, waffles?
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Edited by Chakas: 3/20/2013 5:17:48 AMI recommend you go with your beaver comment but spice things a lot with your wife. Try some new really nastay things in bed. Look them up if you have to. Try something new every night. It will keep your mind off of other women and give you something to look forward to.
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A married man should be married.
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2 RepliesThe sooner you get a woman who realizes isn't impossible to not be sexually attracted to nobody but her, the better.
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I feel the same way about guy with girlfriends. They're still guys, they're still going to look at girls and talk about them. However, there's definitely a limit. It weirds me out when one of my buds has a girlfriend and is constantly flirting with other girls, looking at them, and talking about getting with them. If you're in a relationship, you should commit to it all the time and not just when the other one is around. Basically, watch what you say and don't get caught looking.
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[quote]I am still male, and a guy.[/quote] 0.o I would sure hope so.
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1 ReplyEdited by IslocStarkiller: 3/19/2013 10:57:49 PMI believe that marriage is sacred; the husband and wife must remain faithful to one another in mind, spirit, and action.
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3 RepliesWorking in the healthcare field (both my wife and I, over 20 years each) we know that it is a workplace that puts both sexes together in order to get the job done. We also know, understand and accept that physical, even mental attraction is a fact of life. You can't prevent an attraction, you can decide how you are going to respond or react to it. Looking is just looking. Talking is just talking. Even flirting (to a certain degree) is a way of saying "I not only notice you, but I am letting you know that my mind isn't sitting here idly either". Verbal interaction, clever comebacks, double entendre and the like are a way of showing other people that you recognize, value, trust, appreciate and actually LIKE spending time working with them. I've looked, I've shamelessly flirted, I've never touched, never unbuttoned or unzipped, and no bodily fluids ever came into play. My wife knows this, trusts me, and I trust her. The one thing of attraction that I've not mentioned, and it is the trickiest of all, is emotional. That is a banana peel on an icy sidewalk with a strong wind blowing and you're wearing smooth soled shoes. Flirting (for me) is always kept to the verbal, visual and intellectual level. If there is ever a sign that someone's "feeling it"? Then it's time for a chat to clarify and apologize that I didn't realize it was being taken in that way.
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Edited by Jiggleslinky: 3/19/2013 10:17:02 PMThat's the real trick now, isn't it? Personally I'm gonna act like myself for eternity and the girl that likes me will come eventually. If not, oh well.
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2 RepliesSo much rationalizations in this thread it's disgusting. Reevaluate what it means to 'cheat'. Looking at a woman with lust or flirting is mentally cheating on her.
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Edited by Spinage: 3/19/2013 9:43:49 PMlol Twas just teasing. My gf knows I prefer Asians. So i check them out, even other peeps. Dont think i'll change mentality once I get married. If I have the chance to flirt with another girl I will. My GF does it im sure. Especially in Las Vegas. Those free drinks man. We both know where the line is. Im sure she wont cross, same as I. I know for a fact guys will always and forever check out other girls. Girls should know this if they dont yet. Its pretty much all Psychology. Its all natural. Girls do the same.
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Like a human.
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The flirting may be a bit too much, but I think that is something that would be fine if your wife is fine with it. As for looking at other girls I don't see the issue with it.
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My girlfriend has no problem with me looking at other girls, because she knows I'm going home with her. Nothing wrong with a passing glance at a pretty lady.
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2 RepliesI personally think it's just disrespectful. Flirting or doing those things aren't cheating at all, just disrespectful. I wouldn't want my wife doing those things. Of course if your wife doesnt mind then there you go its not a big deal, I mean some men even encourage their wives to sleep with other men.
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7 RepliesIf I was married wouldn't actively look at other women.
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3 RepliesA man can't stop thinking about other women, but keep them thoughts to yourself, and stay loyal. Otherwise why would you have married her? Not talking about OP, generally saying.
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Edited by Gamerz_Property: 3/19/2013 8:59:48 PMHonestly, all the power to you! The fact that you can look, and observe, but still go back to your wife and appreciate her for her own things. I encourage Travis to look and observe. Hell, I'm the one that's like, 'She has nice breasts, doesn't she? Ohhhh yes, I see you looking.' I know what he likes, and I know he's a man, and I appreciate that he has my feelings in mind, but I'm totally not affected by it. I know what I'm worth, and I have my own self-confidence to know that he wants me, and is attracted to me. I'm a flirtatious type, the guys know that I am totally not going to go there, but I'm quite flirtatious - Travis, not so much. He likes to look though, and I add commentary to it. If a woman / man expects their significant other to close their eyes when an attractive woman / man walks in front of them, that's horrible. -.- Edit: To add on a thought however: I was writing a reply and brought up some thought process that I had in myself. There's a difference between something on a girl that is attractive, and finding the person attractive as a whole.
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My parents have been married 19 years. They don't mind if one comments on the beauty of a man or woman. However flirting would definitely be a no no
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It's impossible to not look at attractive people, and a partner should at least try to recognize that.
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1 ReplyEdited by Mr Medicine: 3/19/2013 8:34:58 PMHonestly? I had no idea people were saying this to you and frankly do not care. But like you said, you're a guy. It's just a natural instinct and there is nothing wrong with it. No offence but heck, your wife will no doubt look at attractive males.
