Totally false statement. The guy who only wants her for sex? He's honest about his desires, makes her feel beautiful and desired. When you make a point to treat her with what you consider respect, you make her feel ugly. Then, look at your opinions. When you say she should be home, in the kitchen, you're saying that she's not valuable to society. The "jerk" that encourages her to work? He isn't trying to use her for money, he's making her feel valuable. Now, when you walk around doing nothing but complimenting her? By acting like she's flawless says that you aren't really paying attention. She knows she's a mess, and she wants someone who sees that too. Furthermore, by backing away from every fight makes her feel there's no passion. That you are just a friend. So, you are the reason she friend zoned you. You made yourself seem like a patriarchal, passionless sycophant, not lover material. Want to get her as more than a friend? Be honest that you want her, treat her like a valuable member of society, but also that she has flaws, and get into arguments when the situation calls for it. In other words, act like that guy. The friend zone is your fault, not hers. Women aren't magical machines that you put kindness coins in until sex comes out.