So I don't think is is ever ok to hit a female if you are a male unless she tries to kill you or something. However my buddy that lives next has been fight with his gf. She has been super crazy lately with accusation and I know this guy well. It's all in her head. Anyway he was going to stay at our place last night to let her cool down. Well she comes over late causing a huge scene in my yard. I tell her to go home and cool off. She shoved me twice( ok I can handle that no big) then she says you know my man -blam!-ed your wife. (Which is just crazy bitch speak trying to cause problems between my friend and I). Slander towards my wife is a line cross that can't be forgiven. Did I do the right thin by keepin calm or should she have got a firm backhand?