You answered the question [quote]people get angry when you say it in a derogatory sense[/quote] nothing is an insult until turned into an insult, and used over time negitavely, basically, you are saying that no words are bad, and we are making them bad, the thing is, you are shaming one way or another. The reason people get offended is because, " why does it matter?" Ex.s "dude don't order fruity drinks that's gay" " if you date him you'll look like a slut! " " I bet he has a small dick " "Stop doing that you look retarded." Every one of these terms is used negatively, when it shouldn't be, that's why people get mad when you use these terms unwisely. These things do not matter and you should use other terms if it's so necessary to mock others. -drops microphone-