If you have to jump out for a couple minutes thats fine. Obviously we're talking about when you're absent for a substantial amount of time. And once again, if it isn't so important, then just go run patrol. If your signing up for Vanguard Heroic strikes, have the time to commit.

It's not a raid. Having a child hinders your ability to utilize free time. So suggestions such as "play patrol" are sort of ignorant. If you are in orbit and you know you're gonna be out an extended amount of time, yes leave matchmaking. If it's mid strike, do your thing and change that poopy diaper.

I'm just gonna let you figure out what 'end game' means on your own.