You realize that some people have lives outside the game right? It takes a while to get enough marks for all that gear to be a 31 on Vanguard alone. Now realize that most people aren't grinding 200 marks a week. The stats show clearly that actually a MINORITY (like ~20%) have even completed a raid man. Remember, you were new to the Vault at one point too. Someone had to lead you through it, or maybe you were one of those guys who went in fresh with a group of friends. My point here is that while you have ever right to only want to be with experienced people, but people can only get experience through you know, actually getting invites.