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... Well from his position he's thinking he's doing the right thing, and trying to help you, also, he's probably rethinking everything you've done together as that it was romantically motivated, if he doesn't respond he doesn't respond, you'll both move on, friends aren't forever, they die, or move, or you just lose touch, it's just a part of life, so you'll have to just accept that if he doesn't talk to you again... [spoiler]not included in the DLC[/spoiler]

[quote](Its a long story, I’ll promise I’ll put a TLDR at the end) I’ve been friends with this kid since 6th grade. We were both weird, unathletic kids who liked Minecraft and broadcasting class, and he was my only friend for a while. The only conflict in our friendship was our political beliefs; he’s a Trump-supporting Catholic, and I’m a Dem. But besides from that, everything was fine, until today. Last year, I finally realized that I was bisexual, but I stayed closeted because I live in a Really conservative area and because I was still in school. I did tell some of my very close friends and my family, but I didn’t tell this friend because I was afraid of what would happen, and unfortunately, I was right. I told him today. He got upset, said I should’ve told him earlier. Then he told me that I should go to church with him, and that it might help. I asked him how it would help, and he started to go on this homophobic rant about how I was going to hell. This was a shock to me, because in all of our conversations he seemed to be very supportive of the LGBT+ community. I ended up leaving by myself and going home. TLDR: My friend went on a homophobic rant after I told him I was bisexual. It’s been 6 hours and I’m still not over it. Did I do something wrong? What do I do now? (Sorry if it’s written weird, it’s almost one in the morning here and I’ve been an emotional wreck for the past few hours) Edit 1: Going to bed now, thanks for all the kind messages (including those who sent pms) Edit 2: Wanted to answer a couple of questions: 1. What he said was homophobic, he told me it was disgusting that I could even think about gay you-know-what, despite the fact I told him i was more interested romantically than sexually in men. 2. I am an Episcopalian, who’re traditionally more tolerant of the LGBT community. I am not very religious though. 3. I’ve reached out to him, he hasn’t responded yet. 4. We’re both seniors in high school. 5. He said he couldn’t support my “lifestyle choice” and left. So yes, he never said the exact words “I don’t want to be your friend.”[/quote] Perhaps pray for the release of the deviant demons inside of you?

[quote]Then he told me that I should go to church with him, and that it might help[/quote] oof

When you say homophobia to him is probably just either the fear that you like him or he is concerned for your spiritual health. I don’t take it personally but if he starts treating you differently or not talking to you as much then you should probably just move on. It’s sad when that happens but some in this world are scared of change.

People like this often react too much. I can attest. My motto is this, and has always been this, if you are gay, bisexual, furry, or etc, that’s alrighty. Just don’t try to turn me into one or force me to look at your “private” stashes. If you can accept that, then it’s perfectly fine! Being bisexual isn’t bad as long as you know your limits. For example, I’m supposed to feel attracted to girls right? Yet every single time I see one I’m like “you again?” Actually, come to think of it, that’s generally my response to pretty much everyone. Huh. Anyhoo, let him cool down and explain to him when the time comes that it doesn’t matter because unless you want a “romantic” relationship with him, it changes absolutely nothing.

You move on. That’s all you do. Move on. Don’t reach out. Don’t try to save it. Just go about your life. This is not the first or last time this will happen to you. Your life just changed. Keep living it regardless of who participates in it with you.

I would be interested in knowing what exactly he said. Homophobia is an irrational fear and/or hatred of same-sex inclined people. There is a lot of territory between homophobia in its purest, ugliest, most vicious form (which I saw a lot of, having been a teen-ager during the AIDS crisis) and simply not being able to give one's blessing to a life choice that your religion declares to be a sin. If what you heard was the former, then you would be well rid of this person even if you weren't bi. If the latter, then in time he might be willing to accept you as you are, though he might dislike the choices that you make. My understanding of Catholic doctrine is that they are supposed to take a "hate the sin but love the sinner" approach. In that same vein, telling someone that a given life choice might send them to hell is not necessarily homophobia. What he said could very possibly stem from a genuine concern about your eternal fate. I'm not demanding that you convert to his beliefs, just asking that you understand that they are what they are, and they're very important to him. Imagine if you knew someone who was using hard drugs or driving drunk... wouldn't you try to warn them that they were going to kill themselves? They might call you a holy roller or some such nonsense, but if you are really this person's friend, you're going to try to warn them. Same principle, really. Finally, it is possible that what you have been trained to regard as homophobia by media and pop culture is nothing but. The prevailing wisdom in our society is to be intolerant of Christians because of their refusal to bless gay sex, and that is actually just as intolerant as the anti-gay abusiveness that was commonplace before the 1969 Stonewall Riots, and that reemerged 15 years later when AIDS appeared. Media liberals are very good at simultaneously complaining about an action done by others, while doing it themselves, and completely failing to recognize their own hypocrisy. I urge you not to fall into the same trap. I hope that whatever choice you make, regarding your friend, you can understand that it's very possible that he might have been upset when you spoke. I also hope you understand that he might have been acting out of concern rather than disgust or hatred. And finally, I'm not judging either of you: as the Bible reminds us*, that's not my job. *Matt. 7:1

Find a new friend, one that respects your sexuality

Here’s my stance as a conservative Christian on the whole lgbtq thing. I’m not going to support what you stand for. But I’m still going to love you and treat you as one of my own. For clarification I mean support as in donating money to that cause but I’ll give you money if you need food or something of the sort. What your friend did was wrong. The whole inviting to church is fine and I encourage it but condemning you to hell is not his job. You are loved no matter what you believe.

If that's how they feel then just forget about that -blam!-