you are right that its a "me" problem, but only because I simply gave up LFG completely, because never get any invites and I really haven't bothered since I would love to do some farming to finish Legend of Acrius quest, but after sitting for HOURS to no end waiting for a invite or someone to join, multiple times, over multiple weekends, finally figured its just 1 weapon, who cares the basic "normal" modes for NF/Raids should have Matchmaking anyway, let harder modes give higher light loot or make "special" weapon drops only on Hard modes and BAM! problem solved