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9/14/2021 5:47:50 PM
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Give me a reason
I’ve been frustrated lately. There is a certain sect of people that I personally have a hard time dealing with and I really struggle to give them the time of day based off of past transgressions.
They say they’re cool with me now or whatever the hell but I personally am still angered by what they’ve said and done. I’ve said my piece to them without personally attacking them whilst they personally attacked me.
My struggle is finding the will to forgive and forget like nothing happened. (I high key hope they see this lmao) not gonna make a difference if they do or not though.
They haven’t earned any respect back with me anyways. I do want what’s best for my clan but at the same time every time I’ve tried my best to do what I think is right I am constantly attacked for doing so. I am also losing patience at a rapid rate.
I wish it were something as simple as forgive and forget but this is the 3rd or 4th time. It also feels like a symbiotic relationship. Like I do stuff for them in pvp and get nothing back even when I ask.
Let me know your thoughts. I’d love to hear any advice you guys have. I just want things to be better. Thanks.
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3 RepliesWhat game? Clash of Clans?
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[quote]I just want things to be better.[/quote]Sometimes in life situations aren’t just going to get better despite your wishing otherwise. In a perfect world you would explain the situation to these people and they would understand and change, but this isn’t a perfect world. People are stubborn, and idiotic, and ignorant about how their actions affect other people, and don’t like to admit they’re in the wrong, If they won’t change then you’re the one that has to. Perhaps that means constantly calling out their -blam!- so they get the message rather than just letting it slide; perhaps that means deciding they’re not actually worth your time and cutting some of them out of your life. Exactly what shape that change takes is down to your judgment.
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Can't say anything that hasn't been said- Get over it and move on to better pastures, as well as leave the vaguebooking for Facebook, say what you mean to say or don't. I hope your clan members [i]don't[/i] see this because if anything it will hand them [b]more[/b] ammunition meant for treating you in the way they have been. Starting Social Media Drama, or stirring this forum will never give you the desired result you are looking for.
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Edited by pValue2010: 9/15/2021 4:03:08 PMAbout halfway down I realized you’re talking about online acquaintances. This makes things infinitely easier than people you have to deal with IRL, in part because you always have the option to avoid and forget. You’re under no obligation to keep the friends you currently have. There are new people to meet and better relationships to forge.
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1 ReplyEdited by big papa gayzo: 9/15/2021 8:10:34 AMF*** those people lol do you [i]need[/i] those guys or something? Leave. Find better people. There's thousands of people you can pick from. You're wasting time. You could find a way better clan anyway and you really shouldn't be stressing about this [spoiler]I fear my perfume has worn off before our meeting tonight...[/spoiler]
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4 RepliesAre you in your teens or early 20s?
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1 ReplyWell, at a certain point, forgiveness becomes allowence. Dont get me wrong, im all for second chances and even maybe even a few more than just 2 chances for those close to me. But if -blam!- [i]keeps[/i] happening again and again and again and again...well, then its probably time to get away. Ultimately, you cant change their behaviour if they insist upon acting like that, you can only change how you yourself react to it. And hey, even if its hard to do so and scary, you need to set some boundaries ya know. [i]Even[/i] if you feel like [i]youre[/i] the -blam!- for doing so. On the other hand, try to not let your anger take you over. Its ok to be pissed at them and not wanting to forgive em, I've learned that myself quite the hard way lol. But as time passes, one needs to find peace with it ya know.
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2 RepliesFunny how knowing you posted this where they may see it takes this whole thing from “going through a hard time, need advice” to “petty drama no one gives a -blam!- about”. Nut up and handle your business privately. It’s obvious you’re just hoping they’ll see this and you’ll have people on your side to show them “how bad they are”. We’re not here to validate your squabbles.
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3 RepliesIn regards of forgery, it never helps, just learn from it. I’m sorry to hear this though, wish you the best
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1 ReplyNot dissimilar to these forums, there is a certain degree of volatility and toxicity in any relationship with another person. That’s why they differentiate them from ‘partnerships’. Relationships are rocky. Relationships typically only require as much effort as is necessary to get what you want out of it. Relationships are typically temporary and disposable. Partnerships are stable. Partnerships take massive amounts of time and energy to create, maintain, and sustain. Partnerships are the foundations on which great things are built. Life, business, personal, professional,… the message is the same and the parallels uncanny. At some point in time, when you’re tolerance of the toxicity wanes,… walk away. Start anew. The only person who knows when the time is right is you. The only person who is responsible for your happiness is you. You are only ever one decision away from charting a new course for your life. It’s about the journey, not the destination. All the best!
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3 Repliesidk the solution seems kinda obvious but i’m having a really hard time putting it into words more specifically putting it into words that won’t make ur feelings >:(
