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Edited by Rhino521:
7/17/2015 12:43:46 PM
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To tired for sex!!! WHAT?
So lately my beautiful super amazing sexy wife has been telling me she's to tired for sex. Now hear me out on this.
I work 75 plus hours a week between 2 jobs then u add maintenance on the house cars and helping with are 15 month old daughter. So I'm running from the moment I wake up tell I go back to sleep. I run on a average of 3 to 4 hours a sleep a nite. My wife averages about 7 hours a nite. How can she use the excuse I'm to tired for sex if she only works 40 hours a week and when I'm not home she taking care of are daughter and picking up the house.
I love my wife dearly she does a awesome job at all she does. I know she does a lot. But we're adults with bills to pay a family to raise and a marriage to keep in tack. So how is it I can have enough energy to do all I do plus want to have some close intament time with my wife. I don't ask for it a lot I want to at least make love to my wife 2 times a week. So I don't think I'm asking to much.
All I know is I feel the I'm to tired line is bull.
So I'm a just a insensitive ahole. Or is my wife just being grumpy bc she had baby duty all nite.
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#Offtopic
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She met the mail man
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This shit should've stayed in #Destiny
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9 RepliesEdited by Britton: 7/17/2015 4:17:36 PMThree things 1) date night. Have them at least once a month with no kids. [spoiler]yes you can do it, I have three kids and I still pull it off.[/spoiler] 2) talk with your wife. I don't know how long you've been married, but the day will come when she wants some and you'll just be like "eh, id be OK if we didn't tonight." It's inevitable. The thing is, intimacy takes effort, you have to sometimes decide to stop doing something else, or ignore what you'd rather do, and be there for your partner. That sometimes means being intimate when initially you really don't feel like it. But the thing is, if you and her honestly out forth the effort even when at first you don't feel like it, you'll usually get into it. So y'all need to sit down and be honest with each other about your needs. Also, find out something she wants. Maybe she wants time alone to relax at home, so as a favor on a day off you take the kid(s?) out for a daddy day. In return she's more attnetive to your needs, and if she is happier overall she's more likely to want to make you happy. 3) DO NOT LET WORK CONSUME YOUR LIFE. You don't live to work, you work to live. Keep your families priorities in line, make sure you're making time for the important stuff. That's all I got for ya.
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You got married comrade. Why should she put out now when she's already got you in chains?
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PROOF FEMINISTS ARE FAGS
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<My girlfriend <Jetlagged <too tired for sex Is possible, higher testosterone and adrenaline levels aswell..
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If Thai has happend multiple times then she's becoming grumpy but if this is the first town of jus let be for now
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You spelled our are
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3 RepliesSo much angry CamCamm in this thread.
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2 RepliesShow her your light-up Sketchers
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How old are you?
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1 Reply[spoiler]*too[/spoiler] [spoiler]I'm sorry, but I had to. [/spoiler]
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Wine makes women fell special They like that:)
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Set up a mood. With all that is going on in your lives, do something special for her that let's her know that you still care and think about her. It is obvious you do. Do something you have not done since you first started dating.
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37 RepliesEdited by Payola: 7/17/2015 12:54:20 PMThat's pretty -blam!-ed up. I've never dated a girl without a extreme sexdrive so i don't know that feeling, but it must suck. It sounds like she is being inconsiderate of your needs. [spoiler]or maybe shes gettin it somewhere else[/spoiler]
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Edited by Trolll: 7/18/2015 12:47:13 AMJust r a p e her
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1 ReplyAll she has to do is sit there and enjoy it.
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2 RepliesEdited by savage coco: 7/18/2015 12:31:36 AMSome people don't have that high of a sex drive Edit: Also to add on that, woman withhold sex for a number of reasons. Why she is, I have no clue. If I were you, I'd talk to her and make sure she's alright. A lot of woman lose themselves after having a child & it'd be good to be there for her if she needs you. She also just might not be comfortable with herself right now, to be intimate. Remember that sex is important in a relationship, but it shouldn't be your priority. Your priority is to make sure your wife & cold are doing good, mentally & physically. You guys are a team, don't look at it as who's doing more & who's doing less.
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2 RepliesIf she doesn't want to she doesn't want to. Really as others have already stated, doing certain things isn't a passage for sex. Being intimate and showing love to the person in your life doesn't always have to be having sex. At times people simply don't want to She's not bein inconsiderate of your desires. Communicate. Talk to her [i]She[/i] will be of more reliable sources for the issues than a forum full of kids will be. You'd get better answers from a health forum to be honest. [i]Never[/i] pressure someone or guilt them into having sex. "Well I do all this and you do less than I do. I deserve it" My ideal in life is you deserve sex only when your partner feels you do. Same goes for your partner.
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13 RepliesEdited by KiNg_george19: 7/17/2015 2:43:29 PMIt makes me very sad to hear of wives being this way. It is selfish of wives to keep themselves from their husbands. I am a wife myself so I feel I have the right to say this. Maybe she doesn't understand that you have an actual physical need for sex? I am sure she's not lying by saying she's tired but at the same time it's just an excuse. Husbands and wives makes sacrifices for each other. And that is one thing I very strongly believe a wife should be willing to do for her husband. A marriage without sex is an unhealthy marriage. It breeds resentment and you lose that close physical and emotional connection. I would suggest having a serious talk with her about how this makes you feel. Make time for each other. I know that can be hard when you have kids but your marriage is the first priority. And one thing that might help your wife is to make sure she gets some time alone from the kids outside of work so she can relax. Mom's really do need time alone. I know that helps me to be able to let go of the stress from the kids and it might help her to be able to focus on you more. I wish you two the best! [spoiler]i just thought of this. If you don't already, make it a priority to have dates without kids. It will make her feel like you care about her and it will strengthen your relationship. Never stop dating each other. [/spoiler]
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2 RepliesSeriously just open up a dialogue with her. Talk about your feelings and possible frustrations and listen to her feelings and frustrations. Communication is key. She could be going through things that you don't know about that she may not want to bother you with because you're so busy, or she may have some resentment for something you didn't even know you did. You won't know unless you talk. Or...she could just be tired...
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Need to work for that sex man. Women get tired of you coming home from work and wanting casual sex. Romance her a bit bro. Dinner, some candles. Snuggling. Then make your move for the goods. Sincerely, ProStrats
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36 RepliesEdited by Tx J reddy: 7/17/2015 7:15:25 PMEvery married man has been in your shoes. She's not tired, she doesn't feel good about herself. I have two tips for you 1. Compliment the fuk outta her. I mean milk the shit man. Text her throughout the day and spout some bull shit like man idk what it was but you were looking so sexy this morning. The key to this is not be expecting sex in return for compliments, just rinse and repeat this compliment bull shit game until she finally puts out. This strategy will work but takes some time. 2. Ignore her physically. Act like not having sex isn't bothering you. Stop asking for it and beat your meat like it owes you money to subside the desires. When she's getting naked for a shower, make sure to walk by and not say shit. When's she getting dressed in the morning, don't say a -blam!-ing word, just have a normal convo without her seeing your checking her out. If yall have a night off together you say I'm going to bed first, and get your ass In there and go to bed. Eventually she will pursue you, but keep resisting. After awhile she will break down all together and ask you what it is wrong, why are you not asking for sex, why are you ignoring me. This is exactly what you say "I've just been to tired". That day you will have her bent over, easy money. I've used both strategies myself, both work equally well. Enjoy brother
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9 RepliesCould be she is having an affair. Not to alarm you but my father was a marriage counselor for 20 Years and he said that being tired excuse was more often than not an affair. Woman need companionship and attention. You mention you work a lot as well. The other possibility is that you need to get in better shape. I don't know how fit you are, woman lose attraction to their spouses as the years go on and the pounds add up. I work about 60 hours a week myself, but I try to get in the gym 4-5 times a day. If not for your health, do it to be a good catch for someone in the future. Because it can happen to anyone when you hear "I don't love you anymore." :'(
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If you want a similar physical and emotional constitution to your own, date men. ;) You can even marry one now. [spoiler]I'm just kidding.[/spoiler] Scientifically, men and women have different emotional and physical needs. Just because you aren't tired it doesn't mean that she's lying. Chances are she invests far more emotional energy into her day than you do. This is especially true with a baby. Even if "I'm too tired" boils down to "I don't want to," is that not valid at all? Should she have to do it anyway because you want it? I can tell you for certain that this will only bring resentment.
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My guesses: - She's genuinely tired - She's cheating on you - She's cheating on you - She's genuinely tired That's all I got..
