I know what you are going to think. That this is one of those posts that will post a bunch of complaints.
But its not. I loved and enjoyed Destiny. Just a little bit too much. Now I am trying to get my life back on track. Stopped going to bed late. Come in to work on time. And try to get back in shape. Read more books. And spend more time with my wife and son, if and when they take me back as I moved out to work on myself. Hopefully when I am better I can move back with my wife. Right now just going to have my son on weekends. But this goes to show you that video games can get out of hand even for 34 year olds.
Thanks for the good times.
I am also selling my PS4 and Xbox One. If anyone is interested PM me.
You can see I have some nice toons.[spoiler]i'm trying to sell it and use the money to buy something for my wife and son.
I got ton of games on it too - the black ps4 mint condition from launch and nice new chamo and white controllers , new sony gold headphones, my destiny toons are day 1 - so i have pretty much everything - veteran guardian edition with ttk collectors, witcher3, dying light, cod aw, infamous 2nd son, dragon age inquisition, warframe with tons of goodies, shadow of mordor and lots more.
Xbox one is brand new untouched 500 gig with mcc and 2 new black controllers
http://www.ebay.com/itm/Xbox-One-Halo-The-MCC-Bundle-2-Controllers-Diablo-3-Mint-Original-Box-/291620989234?hash=item43e5f72932[/spoiler]
Enjoy the game and have fun but don't over do it like I did.
Edit: quitting cold turkey is hard. But my last destiny session has been my shortest, i usually did 8 hour sessions -in case you saw me log in i did i was feeling down and i did the masks thing and bought a helmet for my hunter but i just wanted to complete my collection, im done now for good.
[b]Update:[/b] A lot of guardians have been really supportive and i appreciate that. One guardian, has stated that i should get professional help. My mom suggested that too but she might have been joking as she can be a smartass. :)
Well im going to try and deal with it the best i can, yes it would be great to get some professional help but thats very expensive , so far what helped is my family and going to health club is really boosting my mood. I also got back into reading and
And the bigger update : [b]today i was able to take my son for the weekend. [/b]
I am fighting for it, one step at a time. First step is to work on my addiction, and to be a better human being, along with addiction comes a lot of anger, at this point i cant just go back. But ive got an update, today i took my kid over so im really happy and it feels so good to hold him and want to make it right i also talked to my wife and she is upset but i know that i dont deserve to have her right now until i can maintain my new schedule for some time. It could be a month or three. Best thing is to let things cool off and to find myself. You might not realize all the factors at play but im not leaving my family. Im still financially supporting them.
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Xbox sold
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Selling my Xbox One - Any PS4 Players Interested? http://www.ebay.com/itm/Xbox-One-Halo-The-MCC-Bundle-2-Controllers-Diablo-3-Mint-Original-Box-/291620989234?hash=item43e5f72932:g:g98AAOSw6dNWT1Nr
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1 ReplyAddictions have different causes: illegal drugs (cocaine, heroin), legal drugs (alcohol, opiates, tobacco), risk (gambling, sex). No matter the "drug of choice" no matter the cause, physically they affect your brain the same. They change your reward mechanism. An example for those who have never had addiction: You've had that hard problem you can't solve immediately with your knowledge. Whether a math problem in school or a repair around the house. You can't figure it out. So you try and work at it and you solve it. You feel proud, happy, content. That was your brain releasing dopamine. It's also why we think Homo sapiens evolved into the tool using, creative, intellectuals we are. That reward mechanism (a hit of dopamine) made us want to solve problems, want to find problems to solve so we could feel good again. Now guess why everyone chased the Gjally in year 1. And why they got so excited and chased the next gun/armor after getting what they wanted. Normal people can balance the rewards of a game, or alcohol with the rewards of life. Some can't and the reasons are as varied as there are people. But the physical response at the neurons is the same: Dopamine Released -> Give me more -> Repeat Action. Bungie knows this, just like casinos do. No, they don't want people destitute and homeless, but they do want you to keep coming back. But even if you can balance the game with your life, it's still a form of dependence. You need it to relax after work, reset after a hard day, enjoy a day off. Sounds familiar right? And a little scary. The OP is doing what addicts in recovery do. Cutting all ties to the old life. I hope he realizes that also means these forums. Eventually he will start to feel good playing with his child, seeing his wife smile. If you would support someone who wants to stop drinking or using drugs, then this person should be supported to. Take his story and replace "gaming" with "alcohol/drugs" and every addict/alcoholic could relate. And to everyone getting ready to reply saying they can play just fine, what's the big deal. I ask, why do you feel the need to get defensive and explain your actions? To everyone else, thanks for your time.
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From one extreme to the other. Take everything in moderation.
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2 RepliesYou couldn't bear to delete your characters though I see ! Lol Prime example of my reason for not wanting children, call me selfish but financially I could never worry and do whatever whenever. I'm am only 24 but I have plenty of old pals with kids now a days.
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4 RepliesEdited by Unforgiven: 11/23/2015 7:22:20 PMSelling my [b]Xbox One - Halo: The MCC Bundle + 2 Controllers + Diablo 3 (Mint + Original Box)[/b] Starting bid $289 http://www.ebay.com/itm/Xbox-One-Halo-MCC-Bundle-2-Controllers-Diablo-3-Mint-Original-Box-/291620989234
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4 RepliesFor all those saying gaming is not an addiction. You are so wrong. I am an addict, drugs and video games. Both being the most enjoyment in my life besides -blam!-ing bitches. I'm so sorry you are going through this, I too would quit video games like I did drugs but fortunately I have no wife to worry about rn. (,:
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Edited by LbN SneaK: 11/21/2015 6:34:56 PMGotta sell the consoles, and delete this app. Getting in shape is also a must. Best of luck with your future.
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3 RepliesLearn how to manage your time. If you neglect your son and wife's needs for a game then that's pathetic.
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1 ReplyIf this "addiction" you are talking about it video game, you have a serious mental issue. To leave your son and wife over that? Retarded. Move back in with your life and son, and stop being an idiot.
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Edited by Unforgiven: 11/20/2015 10:38:08 PMIn case you guys don't believe that I am actually doing this http://www.ebay.com/itm/291620989234?euid=480b62ced9364639863210038d2de66b&cp=1&exe=13453&ext=34391&sojTags=exe=exe,ext=ext
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2 RepliesI thought my heroin addiction was bad. Well guess different addiction. Never been fully hooked on video games. You know a true addiction when you are actually hooked on something actually physically addictive.
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14 RepliesYour wife gets plowed while you're out with the kid. lmao ur life sucks
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I wish you luck mate, I can only imagine some of the replies your gunna get!!!! I read a post on this forum comparing the grind and repetitive nature of the game to the worst addictions!!!!! Thought it was far fetched but having read your post and the fact I keep saying "just 5 minutes more" and I'm still playing 4 hours later, it might just be true!!!
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Good on ya, bro. Glad you figured out what was really important.
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Edited by Dona: 11/17/2015 4:14:27 PM
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At least you're quitting for a good reason
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Best wishes man
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1 ReplyGood luck :)
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Guys, I don't care.
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1 ReplyEdited by R0meo4125: 11/17/2015 6:56:29 AMI hope you find what you are fighting for, and that you may resolve your issues. Good luck and take care. :)
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1 ReplyHey man! Sorry to hear that but it sounds like you could Def use a break. I probably play as much as anyone else but I never play when my wife and son are up. I stay up late but I'm always on time for work. You should never let it affect your personal life. If so, you need to take a long break for sure. Good luck bro!
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1 ReplyScrub
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1 ReplyEdited by Sanctus Michael: 11/14/2015 10:29:56 PMWow, brother. Good on you. Yeah, it's easy to get lost in a virtual world, where your problems can be forgotten. But I applaud you for taking your life back. I think the longer you can stay away from gaming, the easier it is to forget about it. Like when a tv show goes off for the summer. A person will watch or do something else. When it's back in the fall, by then you've moved on and have gotten into a new routine, so a person may ask themselves if it's worth even starting back up again in the fall. Maybe once you have a new routine and that routine becomes rooted in your life, you'll have little trouble ignoring games. May help not staying on this forum for a while. Last thing you need is to read posts about what you're not playing anymore.
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1 ReplyBasically this is a free advert for selling your consoles ;)
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1 ReplyNobody truly leaves Destiny.