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Edited by Old_Papa_Rich: 2/7/2016 3:31:43 PM
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Frustrated as a girl gamer

Hi I don't know where to begin and I know it sound awkward ... I am a girl gamer and had been playing Destiny since the day it launched. Love the game and specially Pvp ( my previous teammates like to recruit me because I am quite a killer and usually get top 2 scores in pvp) But I don't really like turning my mic on because people always mistaken me as a young kid [b]no matter how many times I told them I am a girl[/b] ...I am actually 20+ and studying oversea . My native language are not English and my friends' time zone is 8 hours earlier than mine now. Though few of them are very happy to have me as raid teammates, most of them prefer a male player (despite his skills are really bad and having bad attitude) than me. I have always been a decent raid and pvp player , receiving a lot of positive feedbacks from other players . I seldom make mistakes and I am very happy to help new players to do raids or missions...but it seems gender is more important than the person's attitude to them. Tried making new friends in the forum and joining new raid teams, sadly I felt very uncomfortable because some people just assume girls are very bad at gaming. And they would [b]put all the blame on me when something goes wrong during the raid and all I do is doing exactly what they say[/b]...I just want to have fun and making new friends in the same time zone or others. It's really sad that all I get is blaming and discrimination. It's really hard to find settled teammates now...my teammates from my former clan has been dismissed and some of them has joined other clan already. Though they would recruit me when there is a spot, as I said I am a girl, they rather ask a rude male player to join them. Was I really lack the humor of a male player or i am just not good enough to team with them. I don't do Destiny's raid or nightfalls as often as before. Mostly pvp now because I am so tired of people keep blaming me because i am a girl. I rather getting hate messages from the opposing team than discriminated . It would be nice to have friends and settled teammates who love playing Destiny like I do. [quote][b]Moderator edit:[/b] [spoiler]This thread has been moved to the #Destiny forum. [url=https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/140391030/0/0]See Cozmo's thread here[/url] for more information about the #Destiny tag and its uses. Feel free to private message the moderator who moved your post, [url=https://www.bungie.net/en/Profile/254/76974]Old Papa Rich[/url] for further clarification about why this topic was moved.[/spoiler][/quote]

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  • You should look into the Sisterhood of Guardians. They have a lot of people from all time zones and they're very nice to play with, I would highly recommend it.

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  • You should probably play a little less. You have over 2 months registered lol

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    • Played since launch, only played with 3 girls. They were always good. People are stupid to think any differently because of your gender.

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      • I'm sorry to hear you're being judged for your gender. Keep trucking, you'll make it

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      • I see these sorts of posts all the time. I've honestly never come across this when playing destiny.

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      • You need to play with adults..., no, i mean real, mentally mature adults. But then, i get to see that this women start hanging with a one specific guy and start ignoring everyone and thats why i usually dont play with chicks.

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        • Hey I'll play Destiny with you what console you play, I play ps4. But I won't be on Destiny a lot like I use to, do to school

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          • Show bobs or gtfo

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            • Tldr; summary anyone?

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              • Who cares if your a girl gamer, a gamer is a gamer. People get kicked all of the time, just because your butthurt doesn't mean it happens to other people. Honestly, if you can't take the community, then you shouldn't even be on the forums

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              • Boo hoo hoo poor "gamer girl"

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              • Understand your pain. I would battle side by side with you. No one will mess me. I'm 50 years old and has been playing Destiny since day one. My daughter has the same problem so she stopped playing Destiny. So I'm playing on her account. It is very real, Destiny has some very nasty players. Normally I played on my own PS4 account KurtPanzerNader. Recently I have started playing on her account. You should see all crap you get from them... ah At the same time there are still some very nice respectful people on Destiny you just have to find them.

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              • I feel bad for you. It's extremely rude for someone to be so sexist. If you are just as good as a guy gamer, why make fun of you? (even though they shouldn't make fun of you in the first place)

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              • TL;DR

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              • Serious advice? Keep trying. Keep talking to people. Don't lose confidence because some people aren't very nice. There are plenty of confident, loud, talkative girls playing Destiny. Many of them encounter these idiots from time to time, but the majority don't let that get them down. I think that the best advice that anyone is giving you here is to try to play with adults. I think you will find far more patience and far less temper if you are talking to people who have enough experience to not lose their mental capacity over the concept of gender. If your old friends can't cope with you being a girl - abandon them, they clearly think of you as a girl, not a gamer and somehow let that devalue you. That isn't what I call friendship. Good luck developing your English skills. You aren't doing too badly at all, I imagine that running regular raids with an English speaking team will improve your fluency no end! Hope you can find a decent team soon. One final piece of advice - when looking for a team, don't make you being a girl be the first thing you mention. That shouldn't matter to anyone. Make it clear that you are looking to play with mature players and after that just focus on your ability and experience.

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              • https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/190678251/0/0 Lmk

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              • Studying overseas? That's awesome. I'm trying to study abroad...

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              • Male or female is unimportant when it comes to games. It's who YOU are as person that counts the most. While we all have different view points on subjects revolving around our bodies, nothing changes the fact we are gamers who just want to have fun.

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              • we have a few females in our clan. last week we needed a sixth. one of them accepted. at oryx she wanted to run. we said fine. after going a few rounds, and doing well, she got killed by the ship. she was very flustered and didn't want to continue running. after some positive words from us, she kept running. that night she got her first oryx hard mode kill as a runner. all because we didn't want to see her quit, at something she was good at, after one little mistake. tl;dr not everyone are jackasses. just keep looking around. you will find people you gel with.

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                • In the current raid you need your mic on, as the team work needs to be on point. If you want to play with a less discriminatory crowd, join the clan DamesOfDestiny and SafeGamers

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                  • I would raid more often if there was matchmaking. Also, I never get hate messages. Except for one time where a team beat me at least 6 games in a row. I was trying my best, but I have bad luck like that.

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                  • I raided with a girl who wasn't comfortable using a Mic. She was below 310. Guess what? She was better then the rest of the crew. Never wiped. Even a better communicator through shooting and t bagging! If it wasn't for the other crappy players I would have seen her through.

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                  • Are you serious? Why is this even a thing tho. I havent encountered male players that bashes other players, specially females. I often play with female players and its not really that much different than playing with males. We enjoy the game together and just have fun. Some players can be just total douchebags sometimes and if this keeps happening i suggest you ditch them, they're not worth your time and effort. If you want some chill people to hang out and just have fun with you can send me a friend req if you want. I know i'll get a bunch of "hey look a -blam!-ing white knight" sort of thing but think about it people.... This sort of thing is just heartless and inhumane if that is how you behave towards other people. Treating others like shit is not how a proper human should behave. Put yourselves in other people's shoes for once.

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                    • I play destiny with girls Makes no difference to me

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                    • I have one question, how did you get a seventh column medal on your hunter?

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