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3/14/2013 9:00:33 PM
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Discomfort with one's sexuality...

You know, I hear it all the time nowadays. The stereotypical roles that men play tend to make some people think less of those who don't conform to them, right? Like, a minor example would be the double standard of admitting that a member of your same sex is attractive. Girls tend to do this all the time. They compliment each other's hair, what they're wearing... Shit like that. However, occasionally (but not always, mind), if a guy acknowledges another guy's handsome appearance, some people are quick to point out how "gay" that is. I don't have a problem with that, personally. I think many guys are handsome, and if I'm in a good mood, or I feel like just starting a friendly talk session, I'll compliment their appearance. Though I'm straight. Doesn't bother me, but I can see how it bothers some people. What bothers me is these self-righteous mother-blam!-ers... The ones who, upon hearing someone call another guy "gay" or a "fag" because they didn't conform to heterosexual norms, are quick to point out that this person must be "uncomfortable" or "insecure" with his sexuality. ...Why is that? How does thinking that homosexual behavior is, well, homosexual... How is that, in any way, indicative of someone who isn't confident with their sexuality? If anything, I think that makes you MORE confident with your sexuality. Like, I'm straight, and when I compliment guys' appearances, it's just invariably awkward and, well, homosexual. I'm not gonna let that bother me, though, and stop me from complimenting those who deserve to be complimented. But someone who is homophobic and makes fun of someone for being gay... How does that mean they're not completely sure they are straight? I don't get it. If they weren't sure, why would they show every sign of being sure. Doesn't make any sense to me.

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  • Of course there are good looking guys. Nothing gay about saying that.

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  • Dull. Unoriginal. Retarded. Vapid.

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    • Edited by Seggi: 3/15/2013 11:18:48 AM
      Because [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophobia#Internalized_homophobia]internalised homophobia[/url]. See the second paragraph of that subsection, specifically - some studies have shown a link between negative attitudes towards homosexuality and actual homosexual attractions. Anecdotally, three of the most homophobic guys at my high school all came out as either gay or bisexual in the two or three years since graduation, either by saying as much or by openly being in same-sex relationships.

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    • Edited by Demache: 3/15/2013 2:06:44 AM
      As someone that's bi, I can say its because its sort of an asinine rebuttal against homophobes. Granted, its not without some evidence, since some people who have bashed gays turned out to be gay themselves (which is really messed up if you ask me). That's probably where that whole argument started. However, I think the vast majority of homophobes are just assholes. Plain and simple. They don't have to have a good reason to have problems with gays.

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      • People who constantly comment on how gay somone is give the impression of trying to deflect accusations from themselves.

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      • Become asexual. Problem solved.

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      • All men are ugly.. And only some women are beautiful.. ^_^

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        • What did I just read? Oh, wait, it was just more uneducated garbage.

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          • Yeah this is something I've noticed too. I don't understand why guys think like this. There's nothing inherently gay about complimenting another man on his appearance. I guess it's just kind of this natural instinct of competition. Guys are naturally wired to always compete with each other for the most mates, and if you acknowledge that someone is superior to you in some way, that is considered abnormal. Usually the women are the ones who like to feel inferior to a man; they like to be dominated. That's just how it is. Holy hell I just answered my own question.

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            • I do not care what one thinks of me. If a human compliments about my body, I will return such gestures. If they are homophobic, I shall make sure they remain extra close...[i]I like it when they squirm[/i].

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            • Edited by Recon Number 54: 3/14/2013 9:04:27 PM
              Gotta love his pearl necklace.

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