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6/26/2015 9:52:55 AM
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How do I stop my addiction to this game
So I'm 15 have two best friends who like video games as well but one plays x box while the other plays PC me I play ps4. So this past year I've wasted a lot of time pretty much I realize this is just a video game but with the friends I've made online it just makes it hard to leave. But the thing is I really want to have a normal life yeah me and my friends could hang out but PC doesn't really like anything other than league of legends and X-box just wants to play x-box when ever we hang out and it just bores me when I try to get out of the house. I really just want some advice on how to stop and I know like go outside and do things but it's just so boring.
Please I realize that this is just another post on the forums but I don't know what to do anymore I have like no relationship with my family or friends of school acquaintances now and it's hard to get back into the flow of people when I don't even know if they want me there. Thanks for your time responding I appreciate any kind help
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#Destiny
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6 RepliesGirls, girls, girls... Go find one. Tell her something nice, and get her number. Whenever you have the urge to play, call her instead. Tell her you were thinking of her. Repeat until addiction is fully broken.
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First you need to realize that this game has nothing worth having. I don't mean just for the real world. I mean most guns in this game are about the same as each other. The armor also has no real value outside of raids and even then they only help a bit. As far as talking to people.... Just be yourself and ask how things have been. Just go off what they say and don't talk videogames unless they play or they bring em up.
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You're 15, don't worry so much about it, I'm 20 and I know I have a long way to go in life. The one thing I do recommend is don't try so hard to have a "normal" life, many people compare themselves to others, the thing is everyone is different. There is no right way to do something in life, yea things you do, the way you act could make you more popular and likable in school, but school isn't life. People you meet in school can become great friends, people that will stick with you through you're life, but what you are in the eyes of other's shouldn't define who you are. Popularity is kind of like the media's models, it sets standards people want to meet, lets people know what is sexy and what is successful. It honestly wouldn't be a problem, but many people feel they are not worth anything if they don't meet those standards. People end up feeling bad, hating themselves, and feeling like there is something wrong with them just because they are not "normal" or "popular". You should be trying to find what makes you happy, friends will come even if they are not into the same things as you. real friends will be there for you. The friends you have now won't leave. If video games are not making you happy then maybe you should be looking for other hobbies that will. You can play video games while trying out other things as well, try learning an instrument, join a team, football, soccer. You can try working out just keep trying new things until you find the things that make you really happy. I play like no sports (unless with friends), I was the biggest loser throughout jr. High and had no friends in high school, I was so depressed to the point all I wanted to do was find a way to kill myself (the most painless way because I was a coward too), but I realized what I was and what I was to others doesn't necessarily make me who I am. Now I spend my time playing piano, writing music. I'm also studying to be a computer engineer and build small programs and games on my spare time. I work out every day, but to try and surpass my limits not to impress anyone. The point I'm trying to make is I have found what makes me happy and went from being in a really dark place to as happy as I can be, just keep trying to find what makes you happy.
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Edited by DnVrDt: 6/26/2015 8:20:31 PMYou MUST get qn Hobby.. it helped me a lot. Go to the gym, take some karate lessons or just get interested in modelism. Belive me it will help you a lot and you will play less and do something productive fpr you and your future.. just have to find what is your hobby. I wake up every day at 6 AM and i go running to prepare myself to the next marathon and in the spare time i like to program electeonics with the Arduino.
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60 RepliesEdited by Qwaring: 6/26/2015 10:52:06 AMDestiny was designed to be addictive. You are being manipulated. Essentially, the game is set up like a slot machine, every time you play it there is a chance of it paying out and giving you a prize, and so you will always return to it in hopes of winning that awesome loot that you believe is going to drop in that next mission. Unlike a slot machine, Destiny will only ever pay out imaginary items. This gear isn't real. Walk outside of your house and none of it will matter in the world around you. It's value is an illusion. Ten years from now it won't matter to you. Ten years from now you'll have a girlfriend or boyfriend, a job, friends, and a life, and none of these fantasy items in a game will matter to you. Randomly getting imaginary items in a game doesn't impress potential dates, potential friends, teachers, future employers, family, or the hundreds to thousands of other people that will have an impact on your life. Also understand that every expansion offers higher level gear, so if you don't play the game for weeks at a time you're not missing out on anything, because when the next expansion comes out there will be gear to replace everything you could have randomly gotten in the week. Here's what I suggest you do: try going a week without it. Go do other things. Do things you used to do before Destiny came out (remember how much fun they were). Don't worry, Destiny isn't going to vanish, and you honestly don't need whatever imaginary items it offers. Go a week without it to prove you can do it. Show yourself that time without the game isn't the end of the world. You can do this. Just keep in mind that the value of this game is an illusion. There's nothing that it offers that will help you in the outside world. Destiny won't get you a date, it won't buy you your first car, it won't get you through school, it won't get you a job. It's just a game. Your life has more meaning than a game. Now you need to prove it. Stay strong, keep busy, and don't let yourself be manipulated. You can do it.
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1 ReplyPut life on balance. Gaming is only ok, as long as the rest of your life is in balance. Your body and mind are telling you you are out of balance. You have heard, but you have not fully commuted to acting. Actout in positive manor investing time into people or other activities. Time investment is what matters most, if you invest time in hanging out, invest time in learning how to be social, invest time in friends, invest time in family. Can cook, can clean, can go to movies, can ride bike, can read book, can volunteer. Whatever you invest time in, it will slowly become meaningful to you. Hence giving your life more meaning. Your doing great! Because you realize your imbalanced, now act and get more balance in your life! :)
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Break your disc, go outside and look around. Yes, OUTSIDE ! Gotta live dangerously ;)
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Everything is about balance. I get addicted to this game as well and I have a wife and kid. Limit yourself to 2 hours a day and that's it. Run a couple of bounties or NF's, maybe a PoE and be done with it for the day. Ask your parents to do something with them, go for a walk, watch a movie, something (they will appreciate it). Call your local Chamber of Commerce, or Library or tourism and ask what's going on in town. You will be amazed at what free things there are to do that are fun right in your back yard. Good Luck Guardian
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Man there's a lot of things you can do. Video games is fun and all but there are many more things that is outside video games! Learn to play an instrument. I actually just got a new ukulele not too long ago. I used to play one but stopped and now I really want to start again! Play a sport of music isn't your thing. Any sports you like? Doesn't matter if you don't know anyone, just join a team and defiantly you will meet more friends. This is the time of your life right here. At this age, you have access to a lot of things, and you will be forgiven for making mistakes. The teenage years are the years of making mistakes. This is the time where can do anything! (Obviously be safe and smart but you know what I mean) because a little older, you'll be forever trapped in a cycle call "work" and it isn't as fun as it seems. And then when you have a break from this "work" chances are all your friends are at this so called "work". So you'll have plenty of time to play video games then. But this is when your still young, you have a lot of energy, it's okay to make mistakes here, it's okay to learn new things! Don't let it go to waste man. And remember, no matter what comes at you, never give up. Failing is not falling and doing bad. Failing is falling and not getting up. :)
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Consider getting into some other interests. Learn an instrument, Drama, book clubs, sports, maybe even painball? This will expose you to more people who are also open to having new friends. Destiny's main point of addiction is the social addiction IMO.
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Try crack or get a girlfriend. They'll take all your money and time and leave you a shell of a man... But you won't be playing Destiny!
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It's is addicting and honestly the only way out is simply, you are gonna have to rip and destroy... [spoiler]deeznutz :^)[/spoiler]
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PornHub. See if your friends want to come over and hang out......maybe you could charge each others crystals...
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you are a sad person
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It's great that you're enjoying the game, even better that you've realised it's taking up too much of you're life. You're 15 so you're probably in school. Focus on that if you know you're not doing as well as you could have, that helps limit gaming time. Or if not then do some volunteering somewhere or get a part time job if you can, it helps with general life. Or just try and make more friends at school, speak to people, see if there is any common ground and get social. It may take a while but they do help to limit your gaming time. As people we are more than just gamers. I hope this helps somewhat. Have a great day!
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get a girlfriend, that shit will change real quick.
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In my experience interest in someone of the opposite sex quickly changes your priorities in life. Maybe try that.
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You play games for fun. Its a hobby. When a hobby interferes with your everyday life then there's a problem.
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The best thing you can do is get three of every good weapon and max out everything. When there is nothing left to do, you won't play anymore.
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Play a different game, any game will do, for instance I started playing fallout new Vegas to try to get achievements I missed. Unfortunately the amazing story and game sucked me back into it.
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Do a sport. You still have time to improve
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you sir need a hobby
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Buy Arkham Knight. But to be fair I have both and I still did a level 35 PoE run today
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Edited by Packis: 6/26/2015 7:24:41 PMSome things caused me to not be able to play destiny any more. After that I saw how much time I was wasting in game for that exotic. How much it made me cold to my family, and how much of an ass it made me. The game would irritate me often. But after I stopped I noticed how great life can be without this game or any game involved in your life. Playing seldom is fine, too much can numb you to a lot of things. Best advice I can give every single person here, abandon this game. It is not what it has meant to be at the moment, I heard servers for last gen consoles are being pulled in 2016 so this gives a lot of room for destiny to expand in the right directions.
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Play it for a week straight. If you're still addicted try seeing a doctor.
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