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Wow. This is really cool that you actually took the time to acknowledge how much the games are consuming your life. I used to be like you too. I had no friends, only online ones. My relationship with my family was bad because I pushed them away for video games and especially with my dad. I would play COD 4/Gears of War from 9 in the morning till 10 at night. Not even kidding. My dad broke two of my xbox consoles because of this (don't blame him) and bought me new ones because I would literally be depressed if I didn't have a console to play on. The sad part is that I was pretty okay at skating for my age. If I would have kept skating I would be really good now. Skating was my passion until I got an Xbox. After that, I literally threw it all away and never skated again. Get a job, or a new hobby (A PHYSICAL ONE), and socialize with your family and friends whether you like it or not. Tell them how you feel. It's not going to be easy going through this alone, you need help from your loved ones. Stop doing this before it's too late, you're ruining your life man. Video games are cool and all but don't let them consume your life. Also, I went from being an okay B-C student to getting straight F's in high school because of this. I also got transferred to a continuation school because my grades were so bad. I'm not saying this will be you, but these are just a few of the consequences if you let video games control your life.

Dude I played the shit out of PC games like counter strike 1.0 years ago and tribes. Even first networking adaptor kit on pS2 for SOCOM. I'm 31 and still game. It's an escape, some people enjoy swimming, some painting, you enjoy games. Why is finding enjoyment an addiction? Why are you comparing yourself to others around you? Be yourself and don't let others impose their way of life on you.

It's great to see how many people are showing this gamer some support. I'd like to add a crucial point that many might be unaware of.. You need to address addiction before alternating to other activities. You've made the first step in realizing your playtime in Destiny could result in a lifestyle decline. By posting on this forum, you've taken that step further by seeking the advice of others who can relate to your addiction. That already shows that you can look at this from a critical view. If at all possible, go to your general physician and begin an open & honest dialogue with them about what your going through; they will help guide you in the right direction. I cannot stress how important it is to utilize your family doctor in regards to any problem you are having mentally or physically. With that being said, I will aid you with some advice on what to do until then. Many are right when they say, "quit cold turkey; break the disc; delete your characters; give it away." I would suggest giving it away is the best option for the optimal candidate, but this is rarely the case. If you have an addictive personality, you are susceptible to slip back into this same behavior. Assuming you are addicted- your brain is telling you to play Destiny because of the constant endorphin rush it receives. This involves every action you take: turning on the console, picking up the controller, signing-in to your profile, starting up the game, every action you take in the game. All these actions are cause & effect. For a little effort, you get an endorphin kick. Fundamentally, our brains are use to doing more work before feeling this kick. Video games are immediate in this process- on average providing a small kick every 3 seconds vs 8 seconds with other everyday activities (ex. pressing a trigger and seeing a grenade kill an enemy vs. reading a paragraph or picking up a piece of trash and throwing it away.) Then there are bigger endorphin rushes that happen on average every 50 seconds vs a typical 3 minutes (ex. casting a super charge or finishing a patrol mission vs. finishing a short email or making your favorite sandwich). And above all, there's the super endorphin high that occurs when an accumulation of low-endorphin (+) high-stress activities result in one grand endorphin rush that happens on average every 10-20 minutes vs 1-2 hours (ex. Completing a checkpoint in a Raid, completing a strike, or winning in a Crucible match vs completing a task at work, scoring a goal in soccer, or preparing a family cuisine and seeing everyone enjoy your food). All of this has a positive and a negative to consider when dealing with your age. Because you are young, your brain is still figuring out what it needs to be. If not dealt with properly, this can become a part of your lifelong behavior, which could result in finding other forms to reach immediate endorphin highs. Most commonly abused are drugs and alcohol. Because the reward is so great for the least amount of effort, they are easily life altering substances. As dumbfounded as it sounds, that is essentially why just saying "no" to these things is highly effective- this does not apply to every personality type. Many can control their consumption and benefit from otherwise addictive substances. If you are not that type of person, it can spiral your life out of control. If someone has tendencies to addiction, they have to become responsible in not giving their brain every experience. Your brain is a powerful machine that is constantly trying to achieve the greatest reward for the least amount of effort. Unless you experience it first, your brain doesn't have a function that tells you that an unknown substance will eventually ruin your life. Its only concern is the way it feels now. Essentially, you can either hit rock bottom so that your brain begins to experience a negative effect from the activity or alter the activity to a point where it matches the effort & reward of other activities you would like to do. With this, you can have some creativity. Here's a suggestion to get you thinking: [ For anything you do in Destiny, make it a reasonable and timely objective. ] 1. Instead of grinding strikes until you've landed a legendary or acquire 30 blue engrams for the Cryptarch ~ make a list of what you are there to accomplish. - complete 3 strikes (main objective) - complete bounty #1 - complete bounty #2 - complete bounty #3 (Each time you finish something, check it off. This will give your brain a small endorphin rush. After the list is complete, reward yourself- not by decrypting engrams or heading to a new Destiny objective- instead, reward yourself by turning off the console and doing anything else you would enjoy. Look at a YouTube video, read an article on your favorite website, etc. Let your brain feel like it is striving for a reward outside of the Destiny experience.) (Now, find an activity that will improve your life that matches this checklist and timeframe.) - email/Facebook/call a friend or family member to catch-up on each other's lives. (main objective) - ask them about something you know they've been involved with lately. - talk about something interesting you did recently - plan a future activity together (Both take around 30 minutes to achieve a feeling of accomplishment with intervals of smaller rewards. And they both set you up for future engagement to do things other than Destiny.) -- The important thing to commit to is making a list and taking control of your Destiny experience. Don't let the game dictate you. You can feel like you need to complete everything in Destiny and you won't feel satisfaction until you feel a hypothetical list is complete. Find out what it is that makes you spend too much time and find ways to break it down into a main objective with few minor task. When you have your list, make sure that it can be done in a reasonable amount of time and that you understand the benefits of just completing what you deem as top priorities. Then you have a whole life ahead of you to accomplish amazing things. Important note: Refrain from putting specific time restrictions on your Playtime. You want to feel rewarded for concluding your playtime- not feel punished that it's over. This is the difference between your brain wanting to do something else vs. urging you to stay. I hope that this can help you understand what is going on internally and how you can have the best of both worlds. Destiny is a funny concept. Sometimes you can feel you have no control over it. When you decide to take control, you begin to see your real Destiny.

There is a lot of good advice here. And a lot of nonsense. You're 15. Anyone who tells you to do any kind of illegal drug is the worst kind of troll. This should be obvious, but if you think Destiny is ruining your life, drugs will completely destroy your life eventually. That said, it really depends on the person when it comes down to what will work when trying to stop an addiction. I only play games a few days per week, and that is AFTER my responsibilities have been taken care of. Ask your parents if you can get a work permit and get a summer job. Where I live, you can get one at 15 with your parents consent. You need to find a REASON not to play. A responsibility that must come first. A girlfriend can also take that role, and mine sure wouldn't stick around if all I did was play video games. If going outside is "too boring", books are an awesome way to become involved in a story and there are millions of them. Plus you can take them anywhere. Going outside and reading can keep you from getting bored. Fresh air and sunlight will do wonders to keep depression at bay, and you might actually meet other people who also enjoyed the book you're reading. Now you're making connections with people in the outside world. And it isn't boring. I have found that even after as little as a week without playing games, I start to think about things I'd rather be doing more often. I'm not saying you should quit playing games, but there is much more to life. Sometimes it can be difficult to remember that. If you make an honest effort, you will see results eventually. It can take time. And, remember, sometimes life IS going to be boring. You have to make your own fun.

https://reddit.com/r/DestinyTheGame/comments/3b01v8/pwadigys_guide_to_quitting_destiny/ [quote]1.) Start doing only one nightfall perk week. 2.) You didn't do the nightfall on your other two characters, so you may as well pick one character to play full-time. 3.) You only have one character; do you really need that massive stack of 200-2,000 Strange coins to grow? Maybe you should stop doing the heroic too. 4.) I mean, your Strange coin supply now has a finite limit, so Xur's wares shouldn't be too enticing for you. Why not check them when you wake up in the morning. Speaking of which, why don't you get your sleeping schedule on track. Try waking up at 7am. 5.) Your raid buddies all play late-nights, and you're now a morning person? Shit, you may as well cut raids down to like one-per-week with that kid in the tower who spam-invites you. Or, maybe not at all. 6.) No more raids? No more gear to level-up. Gratz, you can stop worrying about XP. Maybe save all of your bounties for when Xur finally comes with the Gjallarhorn that isn't on his drop-table. 7.) Holding your bounties? Shit, now you can't do more bounties. Oh, well. 8.) -blam!-, you've just cut your play-time in half. You start to withdraw and go to the crucible/goof off in the tower. 9.) You promptly get bored of kicking the purple ball around/waiting out Thorn DoT behind that Pillar on the burning shrine. 10.) You start sitting on top of shit, staring at the scenery. 11.) you realize how realistic it looks. Almost as real as your backyard/out your window. 12.) You start to forget why you even do the nightfall in the first place. You vaguely recall some over-sized t-shirt/confetti cannon. 13.) Your backyard looks really nice. Maybe you should take a stroll in it. 14.) Oh hey, there's your car. Why not go for a drive. 15.) Hey look, there's your phone. Why not call a friend? Or, maybe that girl/guy you've been meaning to talk to. 16.) Maybe your new-found group of friends are into something entirely different. Maybe its a different video game (witcher? Halo 5? Whatever you were playing before Destiny?). Maybe they like sports. Maybe you're out of shape. Maybe hit the gym. Maybe they're part of a cult. Shave your head. Whatever. 17.) If you've made it to this step, congratulations, you no longer care what the Taken King has to offer. You now need to be pulled in to be convinced to spend your money, rather than pushed away to not spend your money. [/quote]

If you can go cold turkey for a couple of weeks, even just playing another game you will realise you were not enjoying the grind.