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Edited by Nasty Clique :
2/20/2015 8:32:24 AM
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any advice to get over ex's
me an her were somethin quiet special. dated for two years and she dumped me 3 days after Christmas while I was on my way to her house with her presents. it's been months later and it's hard as hell. keep drinking and everytime I end up texting her something dumb. iv always been a masculine kinda guy but right now I feel like a little bitch. don't have a lot of adults to look upon so this is going to be my closest piece of advice I can get. help a brotha out?
Edit: Thank you to each person who has commented. iv been reading everyone's posts and I couldn't be more thankful. you guys are giving great advice, even the funny ones are good to.
Edit 2: going to give a little more insight because I didn't think I'd get this much advice. Job wise I have been applying to numerous movie theaters and country clubs and I haven't gotten any emails yet but I'm keeping my fingers crossed. everyone is commenting about working out, and yes I usually work out to cope with things but I actually hurt my back in 7 different places from squatting, hurt both my shoulders from benching, and I have a couple more injuries also. my problem is I go a little over board sometimes. I usually cope by playing football and baseball because I'm an athletic guy but since I'm hurt I can't do that. iv been cleaning up some baseball fields every now and then because the fields are like my second home. drinking wise, I know i have a problem. iv been drinking for a couple of years and i actually quit drinking and smoking for about 5 months until all this happened. the reason I am here on these forums right now is because I had lost my father to cocaine so I try and keep anyone in my life away from it so they don't make that same mistake but recently all of my friends have gotten into coke so iv excluded myself from them. I'm here asking for advice because I can't get that without a dad and without my friends this shit ain't easy. yes iv turned to my coaches but most of them can't really connect with me and my situation. again thanks for the posts
Edit 3: thankful for the support from this community. things will get a lot easier thanks to all of you
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9 RepliesHave you tried cocaine? It turns all your bad feelings into [i]great[/i] feelings. Give it a shot.
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Teach her a lesson! Go sleep with her sister and you'll be fine. Jk... But seriously, you're young, go find another chick and move on. Lingering is only going to make it hurt more. Good luck!
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1v1 quick-scopes on Rust for custody and property possesion.
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Join a club, meet another girl If you don't meet another girl, the club will help take your mind off the ex
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Bro, that sucks. I hope you get better, whoever she is, she's not worth it
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Start thinking about the relationship problems you had , that way you will realize it wasnt a good relationship It can also help so that you dont make the same mistakes next time
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Dude I just broke up with my girlfriend. Two years together. Apartment together. And she got a good job and was always at work and when she came home she was angry and tired. It sucks to break up man. There are studies that show that break ups have the same affects as drug withdrawal. To be honest man I try not to think about it and let sleeping pills and a beer get me through the night. We can also add video games to the mix. Take a break. Get your shit together and move on. That's what im doing. Good luck bro.
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Burn the effigy!!!!!
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2 RepliesDismantle her and see if you get anything legendary ..oh wait..
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#offtopic
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2 RepliesJust do her sister! Won't get her back but it will make you feel better.
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Was er name crota
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I really admire and appreciate the vulnerability you've shown here. This can't be easy. This kind of loss is never easy on any level. Do you read much? I might view this time as an opportunity to connect with myself and make a plan for who I'd like to "be" in life. You can never know too much about yourself. Don't settle for mere survival, you're worth and potential are more than that and worth more than any rejection can dictate to you. You've got what it takes.
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This is the destiny forums. Not yahoo answers.
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First tip drinking is not helping your situation. If she was that special she wouldn't have done that to you. Find something you like to do that takes your mind off everything. Soon you will not even think about her. Sound like your pretty young you have plenty of time to find the right one. When it is time you will know. Don't put all your eggs in one basket grasshopper! Be blessed peace!
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A job Walmart man they been good to me these last three years plus I'm about 4 months from being a salaried manager.
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My advice? Don't rush out and try to find another girl when you're clearly not over the last one, it will more than likely end up with more pain. Did it myself and ended up with someone that I clearly wasn't compatible with, which of course led to another messy breakup. Also calm the f**k down with the drinking, I mean the occasional social drink is fine, just don't become dependant on the stuff and end up drinking daily. Take care and keep your chin up.
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There is literally only one thing you can do and that's move on. I went through a similar thing 2 years ago and wasted 6 months being miserable. Not worth it. One day I decided it was best to move on and the weight lifted off my shoulders and became happy again. Fast forward two years later and I have a badass girlfriend and a house on the water. My old gf is still in her crummy apartment alone.
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Isn't this a forum about destiny? Or have I stumbled upon some lonely hearts shit?
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Get out, see friends, play some drinking games, play some video games, go for a hike. Simply put, occupy yourself
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Take my wife off me I love her to bits but the last 2 months have been really rubbish, so I'll let you take her off my hands so I can get some headspace ;)
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Make a plenty of fish account... Trust me you will forget about her in a week. ;-)
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Take the time you need to heal, drinking just stalls the process. No two pains are the same but I know how it feels. My wife left me after 13 years together, I was still all in. I guess she had a thing for a coworker, woke me up one morning and said its over, no couples counselling no lets talk it out.... Just over. It's been a year and I feel like I can hold my head up again, I have 50% custody over my son and having him around helps a lot. My best advice, feel the feelings when you need too, don't talk to her. Know that it's final and that you can do better. Seize the day, live a life worth living
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This happened to a lot of guys. I used to date that chick for close to 2 years and I thought I was happy. When she dumped me I was devastated. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep and was mad at everything and everybody. Different people have different ways of coping with problems I guess. Anyways, after a while I started realizing that I wasn't really all that happy with her. She was very controlling and everything had to be about her. I guess I didn't love her after all and I was just used to having her around. Now that I'm married to a different, amazing girl it makes me think how miserable I would be with that broad. Even worse if we had kids together. My point is that I'm sure you'll find someone better than her and end up being happier than before. Just don't give up and try to cut down on drinking. Maybe get some professional help since it looks like you have a family history of addictions. Also try to meet new people. Go out on trips, do new things that involve human interaction or try dating sites. That's my advice to you, cheers!
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Xur's here with No Land Beyond and Heavy Ammo Synths. That should do it.
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1 ReplyNumber 1 get a new a girlfriend. If you can't do that surround yourself with friends that are single and do fun things. There's 7 billion people on this planet, I promise you your experience with this -blam!- wasn't unique. You will find something better. Replace her man. And seriously, stop drinking, people will hate you for it. You don't want hate, so just drink socially. And control yourself! We are all in charge of ourselves. But I can tell you I've definitely cut people off for being tards on alcohol. You don't even realize how much of a doucje you probably are when drunk. You'll be fine
