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Edited by I joey I: 10/5/2015 1:35:52 PM
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Who else can admit they are addicted?

I have known for awhile that I was in every sense of the word addicted but I self consciously wouldn't admit it. I'm a father of a two and a half year old and step father to a 9 year old. They both suffer learning disabilities. My 2 year old is behind in speech and has early intervention out weekly, my 9 year old has adhd, disgraphiya, and some weird visual thing I can't explain without writing a book. My wife is the most sexy, intelligent, amazing person I've ever met. Thing is, I find myself thinking about destiny during, breakfast, lunch, dinner, and cannot wait until the house goes to sleep so I can play. I actually find myself getting angry when the baby stays up a little later, the 9 year old wants to hang out, or my wife wanting to watch a movie and spend time with me when the kids go to bed. I think o m g I just want s few f ing hours but I can't get it. I used to power session 8-10 hour days in gaming while single, playing destiny for 1-3 hours feels pointless. I want my 8-10 hour days back but that would mean losing my family. It all came to a head last night with my wife asking me if im addicted. Can I delete the characters, move on, play like I did before destiny. Which consisted of picking a game up a month and playing nightly got two hours until I finished it. I said honestly, no. I can't. I started realizing I physically couldn't pull myself together to wipe it off the hdd. I was a professional photographer, after destiny hit I stopped marketing, looking for jobs, and just let everything fall in my wife who has the stable job. I used to edit at least 5-10 shots a day, marketing myself, basically working full time to find gigs. Since sept 14, I have finished maybe 12 shots in a year. My $15,000 worth of gear collects dust. Why? Well cause I'd rather spend my time on destiny, and if not playing, reading about it, day dreaming about it. I am addicted, I can admit it. I've missed out on numerous other games because I didn't see the point in investing my time into another game when it could go to destiny. I've lost interest in spending time with my family. I've lost interest in my primary source of income. I think I f'd up guys. Today I sit wondering , trying to wrestle out out with myself, how to delete all content from my system. Anyone else out there feel this way?
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  • I will admit it. Now I'm a little older than the other addicted people. I'm 55 but I am single so no wife or kids to have to deal with. I have a full time job and it is not affecting that. But when I'm home all I seem to do is want to play the game.

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  • THIS IS WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT BUNGIE!!!! Can't, CAN'T play ONLY 1-2 hours a day. You can't keep up.

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    • Take a match and gas and burn ur Xbox

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      Definitely. There isn't a day that passes where I don't think about destiny nowadays. Little bit disturbing actually lol.

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    • Mate balance you have the addicted gene like half the population i have it for work which is good but do skip the odd half day to play. I have deleted the game 3 t imes swore would not buy expansion got the file then smshed it for 4 days straight. Yes addictive does it make you feel as good as winning a deal or a memorable moment .. no but need to focus gene. Gene works if you centre it on a positive money, in your case love (else she would/will run) and then balance it. Ever used excuse you would be drunk, whore chasing or gambling instead of gaming means....you dont have enough cash snort/love/gamble and play crucible (three divorce lawyers)

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    • Edited by MEGAJEFF: 10/6/2015 11:29:54 AM
      Big time. I got made redundant just as destiny came out. 6 months of destiny themed bliss until the payoff ran out...back to work. Destiny playing changed from all day until the girlfriend came home to only after work for 2 hours if lucky before she got home. She HATES destiny. Pure and utter hate. An i can relate cos i've hated it at times aswell. But i know that feeling of "please go to sleep early on the couch so i can mindless shoot shit for an hour before we eventually go to bed". I even snap netflix or now tv while playng and change the settings so that anything snapped takes the full volume...she knows what destiny sounds like...so that way she'll have a snooze thinking i'm just watching a film. Altho don't watch The Thing because the music is kinda similar. But the more you leave it the easier it gets. Tuesday's used to feel like "pleeeease dont anyone talk to me today...it's reset day an i wanna go home" but now thanks to how pointless nightfalls are it's less of a pull. I just read the post by "Brick". Imma shut the -blam!- up now.

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      • Dude I am way too addicted. This game is better than alcohol and hydrocodone. If I could shoot my destiny experience up with a needle, you would see me in a dark alley somewhere struggling to determine what is real and what's not real.... Lucky for me though I have a sense of moderation and I keep my playing time to a bare minimal maximum ;D

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      • I can honestly say I am, and I went and promised my wife I wouldn't play for 3 weeks(it got to the point she said she would leave me if I kept playing). So I'm stuck not playing for a while.....and thinking about it all the time. It's a good thing I guess, spend time with the kids and all, but I definately miss playing.

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      • Become a man and spend more time with your family. If you had to loose one or the other tomorrow, what's your choice?

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        • In my case after a discussion with my mother (she yelled and other worse things to me for come home 20:30 and I was studying with a friend...) so after that I spend all my time playing because I can't play anymore with her in home. At least this help me with the stress... So now I'm addict to this game after the discussion lol...

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        • No, only you. It's weird you care more about destiny than your family. lol

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        • Uhh yeh

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        • It's definitely a habit for me. It takes one to know one and from the sounds of it you've got it bad. Try to tone it back. Start taking an interest in the observable universe. You're a photographer. Start with doing something with the night sky. Don't let a game mess things up for you. But on the other hand, don't just quit cold turkey, just tone it back and get back into the things you were before.

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        • Dude. It's a video game. Delete your shit. Spend time with your family. Be a Man and provide for them.

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          • Ohhh yeah I'm addicted, but I'm single and 24 so I'll continue to play until I finish school at least lol

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          • Yup! Father of a 3 yr old. Addicted as hell. Before TTK dropped I woke up one day late for work, and thought the addiction has gone too far. So I woke my wife up and she watched me delete all 3 of my characters (full geared, almost every exotic). It's really liberating actually. After all this its just digital content. After TTK I came back and only have 1 character, and I'm happier. Yes, I'm still addicted, but a little holiday, time away from destiny, etc , will do much good. Makes you realize you can live without it.

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            • Addicted until fallout 4 comes out lollllz... No, really..... If you got a family, give this shit up lol... Prioritise....... Jesus Christ...

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                This is a tough one... A lot of guys go wrong when they meet a woman, they ditch what they enjoy and basically conform into being what society expects us to be which I think would be incredibly unhealthy for our own well being. Try and include your partner in your gaming ways, get her some interest so you two can share and bond. But again this information isn't perfect as I'm not married, had a couple of 2-3 year relationships but I'm glad I figured this out whilst I was single, I will not settle for less than a gaming chick haha

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              • I have a wife, a 2 year old daughter and a full time job, they ALWAYS come 1st (the job not so much as I can do it with my eyes closed, it's secure and pays well). Yes I play and think about Destiny an awful lot but only when my daughter is in bed (her life is vastly more important than any game) and if my wife needs a cuddle night or wants to watch a film, I'm there for her in an instant and will simply play when she's asleep (I'm lucky because I can function on less that 5 hours sleep a night) The thing is is you need to relax, Destiny ain't going anywhere. Your wife however, she just may do if she feels you care more about a game than her or your family!!! Don't lose sight of your priorties!

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                • My name is Lickwid elite, I'm an destiny-holic (Hi Lickwid) I have a disease and they don't know what to call it Better hide your wallet Bungie coming up quick to strip your cash Bought a pass to your content just to come and whip your ass

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                • I have a wife and a 14 year old son. I never really thought I was addicted but after reading your post, I am very similar to you. Whilst at work, like now! I'm constantly reading forums about destiny. Soon as I get home and have eaton I put Destiny on. If the wife wants to do something together it feels like a chore. All I want is to sit and play Destiny with my online buddies. You are not alone my friend.

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                • My wife would say so but I'm not, at least not to a game. I've been on opiates all of my adult life and am on suboxone now and really pretty stable. If anything gaming is my anti-drug that I used to get through bouts where I'd want to do H again. When I found bitcoin and darknet it was all too easy to order it right to your house and started back using after my dad died. Now that I'm on the suboxone and work nights I also quit smoking and am working on kicking energy drinks (never had a cavity until I started drinking them). I certainly like to play games but have never put them up my butt to get more bang for my buck. So... yeah... I wouldn't say I was addicted.

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                • I'm addicted to grannies with trannies .

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                • Edited by UncleWarrior: 10/6/2015 8:15:22 AM
                  I'm addicted.. I'll admit it. I mean I used to grind halo for hours, but destiny is different. It feels almost as like an actual job at this point. Doing daily bounties/strikes/raids for a gambler's chance for a slight edge over the millions of other players.. My obsession with succeeding in this game has dampened all other aspects of my life. I'm considering selling my account/xbone for good. There is so much more to life than staring at a monitor all day/everyday.

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                • If this post is serious then I would advise you to go and get some help from a counsellor. You have a really serious problem here and it doesn't sound like you can deal with it on your own; I think you are using the game as a way of avoiding other problems in your life. Your wife and kids need you. I know what you are going through, I have struggled to find the right balance in the past and it hurts those closest to you. Go and see someone. It's good to talk.

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                • I've known for awhile that I'm addicted and yes I have more play time then you in destiny but all told I have fewer obligations I wouldn't say go deleting everything but sometimes you do need to put the controller down and live life with those you care about try and set aside a day to power through everything you can and if you don't finish know it'll be there for you to work on later (barring stuff like black spindle that's only for a day)

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