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Modificato da Recon Number 54:
3/27/2015 5:52:28 PM
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Wife hates that I play Destiny
First off let me start with I love this -blam!-ing game, I got the PS4 bundle for Xmas and Thx to Lizard Squad didn't get to play it till January.. I'm not going to lie I been hooked like hoe on crack, I just got to get my game time on! I have 3 characters hunter 31 soon to be 32, Titan 31 and Warlock 30 soon to be 31.. Completing bounties, weekly nightfall, weekly heroic, daily heroics and now VOG and Crotas raid, for all three characters, well shit yeah is time consuming... I admit at one point I was paying more attention to the game than her, so I get where she is coming from... From my own initiative and realizing I been wrong, I have been arranging date nights and I try to play after she goes to sleep, and not when we both get home from work (lol it feels like cheating, sneaking out to the living room to play Destiny) we still -blam!- allot, but she complains that's all I want from her...I have tried to explain to her that this is something I enjoy but in no way, shape or form, I would chose the game over her, Regardless of my attempts to compromise and show her that she is 1st, she wants me to stop playing forever!!!
-Leaving no room for compromise, what is more ridiculous from her ultimatum is that she doesn't mind if I spend time doing other things besides playing the game, like if I where to spend it watching football or out in the Gym and not spending time with her, that would be totally fine.. WTF????
In conclusion I think my wife is related to Crota, that could be the only reason for all the drama, her mom definite looks like a creature from the night.. The eternal struggle between light and dark is not only a war, it is a crusade!
I don't think I'll stop playing, that is a part of me, I am willing to compromise, and I love her, but if she can't see that, I'll have to move on and find someone that I could love and be passionate about and at the same time we could share my passion for the game- I need a girl that makes me a sandwich and gives me a BJ while I play dammit! ( that line needs to be turned into a song)
Any one else having a similar problem?
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#Destiny
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Well I'm that wife that came home with another tv and ps4 last night so we could play together!
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Yes, my girl hates it too lol
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Yeah, I don't think my girl digs it too much when I play often. So I don't play much on Sunday and Monday so I can play on Tuesday for the reset... hopefully.
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I only made one guy so I didn't have to feel like I had to play all 3. I don't play very often, so this is a good fit for me. I will do some bounties, a daily event, and maybe some other random things, or I will do some strikes and that is it for the day. I don't even play every day, maybe 3 or 4 days a week.
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She's trying to put me on a schedule, I work 10 hours a day so I already don't get a lot play time.
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i play every day, but if the wife asks me to do something, I drop the game.... unless I am about to kill crota. Those are the rules.
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6 RisposteYou talk about your wife like a thirteen year old. I would never disrespect my beloved to the public. [u]Ever. [/u]
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Modificato da Geordwah: 3/31/2015 1:26:48 PMThink you've got it bad... Mine has started cheating on me.... When I got in from work yesterday there she was, I caught her playing destiny right in front of my eyes. Trouble is she's loving it, what can I do ! This is true.
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If you're really willing to leave the person your married to over a video game then you're dumb as hell. My boyfriend and I both play games. Yeah, I like attention sometimes. If I ever ask he will stop what he's doing (unless he can't stop like boss fight/strike) and come love on me. And I do the same when he asks me. I don't see how hard it is to give your wife a little attention. And yeah, she's probably jealous of the game. I mean, wouldn't you be at least a little upset if she was non stop doing... whatever... and never gave you the time of day? Hell, you'd probably just play more Destiny.... Sorry but you sound like an awful partner who has a Destiny addiction. If I was your wife and you didn't turn around soon I'd leave you. A human being with real feelings and emotions is probably more important than a video game.
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same problem with me. I just keep it to a few days a week. She knows Tuesday's are reset days and I'm gaming for the night when I get home from work. Otherwise, I just try to balance my time. Remember, balance is key. anything in excess is bad. ANYTHING. remember that and you'll be fine. take her out to a nice dinner or fix something in the house if you really feel like playing. That's what I do lol.
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Hmm. Until the end you had me thinking this could possibly be legit. Even if it is legit you already checked out on her by stating what you are looking for in your next woman.
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Destiny hates that you play your wife.
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Should have found a better woman to be your wife
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You are not worth of that woman. You are not man, you are disgrace for mankind. I am gamer, have wife and kid, i play destiny also, but also i spend my time with wife, walking, park with child, out to dinner, driving bike, go to pool, i do everything that normal families do and i don't have problems. And the most important, i make love with my wife, give her attention and love... I am taking care for my family. My wife pushing me to play and she take care for child. You need to have respect for your wife, but you are selfish bastard. You don't deserve a wife. Give a wife divorce and enjoy in your beautiful life with destiny. And if you really love her you will always have time for her.... Sorry for english its not my native language.
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Bro, sounds like there's a bigger problem between you and your wife. If she won't budge then don't either. But a good compromise is don't play on certain days. Play like 3 to 4 days a week or somthing.
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I play on weekends and my wife does other things that's our compromise. Sometimes she tries to control what I do and I understand what she thinks about it but she let's me play most of the time
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First make sure u turn off your notifications for the destiny app, cuz if she find that u posted this, you'll be cuddling up to your PS4 at night. Second understand that your wife wants to feel special, she needs to know that nothing in this world could replace her especially a videogame. So when u do go on these date nights, DO NOT jump on destiny as soon as u get home. As long as you are making sure that she is getting what she needs from you, she won't care what u do
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My wife and I agree that we each need our own away time, but she considers my away time my drive to work... It's complicated, but there are a few realities to consider in situations like this: 1. What's at stake? Would either of you really end your marriage over a game? 2. What's the real issue? Is it video gaming? Control? Attention? For my wife, it's control and we fight not only about Destiny but other things where she wants to control me because of her family. It's a battle, but ultimately it comes down to being controlling, which is not cool, and she will occasionally figure it out. Gaming rarely is the issue unless it's taking away from your ability to be a good husband. 3. Are both parties willing to work it out? At some point, all of the fighting will have to end. Too much negativity will ruin anything. Either an agreement will be reached that satisfies both of you, or it won't and you are going to end up going to a bad place. Again, all lives and situations are different, but if you and your wife really do want to keep the marriage together for love, the kids, the property, etc, you'll figure something out. If a lopsided deal is reached, then anger and resentment are going to fester like an untreated ingrown hair. My wife and I are still working things through after six months of Destiny. But she is mercurial, and only likes to remember when she was right with her argument! Good luck! To those posters who will tell you something in an effort to sound cool, hopefully you realize they are full of poo. I love the responses (while sometimes funny) are like "Tell her to get back in the kitchen!" Someone who would really do that may not be the best person to take advice from. "Dude, just leave her!" Those folks probably aren't successful in relationships. You have to be reasoned in how you approach the situation. Or you can always say "Well that's cool I guess, I'm going to the Adult Club, I need $100 in ones. We might be back by Sunday afternoon." I will give that to my wife as other options for what I COULD be doing instead of hanging out at home and playing Destiny =)
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3 RisposteModificato da twinPrimesAreEz: 3/31/2015 12:46:00 PMBro, I'm married with 2 kids. I was playing Destiny too much and she kept complaining about it but I didn't stop. Eventually I felt really guilty so I made a deal with her that I would only play Tuesdays and Fridays. I've stuck with that deal and we're happy. I suggest you try a similar tactic. Give here a set schedule of when you'll play destiny -- some people work better off that than promises and honestly it will be easier on you as well. However if you try that and she can't give you 2 days per week to game there's a problem -- there are far worse things you could be doing than video gaming.
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My wife plays with me. Ask her to play with you. At night, give it to her and make her pass out with u. That's my situation
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Nope. I'm terminally single. But knowing my luck, were I ever to get married, I would end up with someone just like this. Or worse.
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I restrict my destiny to nights after wife is asleep or out with friends. I don't play during the day so I have time with her and kids. It sucks some times because I can only get so much done on destiny playing a hour here or there but family is more important
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I play Destiny WITH the wife, she is a lvl 32 Hunter. She wasn;t really into games that much before, played a bit of Halo, but not much else. She is now totally hooked and probably plays more than me!! (She actually hit 32 before I did, has the Gjallarhorn, Thunderlord, Hunger of Crots, Oversoul Edict, Abyss Defiant, Ice Breaker AND black hammer!!!) Answer here is, get another PS4 and get her to join you!
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My wife started playing the game when i did....day 1. Last night she said something that hurt like hell....."are you ever going to stop playing that stupid game. I bet you cant go 1 day without playing. Do i need to delete your account and the game?" Wtf!!!!!!
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1 RispondiI know your pain. My wife is the same way. It's the end of the world if I'm not giving her my full attention even when she isn't home. Also to the people saying it's just a game or he/we are choosing a game over our spouse you obviously don't know what it's like to be married to a selfish troll. Women like this, my wife included, will Bitch until you spend time with them and fall asleep playing with their phones 5 minutes later. It comes down to they don't want their husbands to be happier than they are.
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Hey. Before you reach a decision, make sure you are having the argument you think you are before it goes nova. It does not sound like she's worried about the time you are spending if she doesn't care about the gym or football, so try to find out what it really is. Q1 - do you shout at the screen while playing? Does playing make you angry, or could it look that way to her? How do you feel at the end of a game session - elated or depressed? Q2 - have you dropped other commitments since you started? Are you less fit? Have you put on weight? Do friends talking about things outside of Destiny seem less interesting to you now? Q3 - Was this out of the blue from her? Could it be that she's looking to get out of the relationship, and this is just the easiest way to not make her look like the bad guy? Q4 - Does she have a history of problems with addiction? If she's been in a relationship with someone with addiction issues before, it could be she's worried you may be an addict. She may not need you to stop playing Destiny, but to prove to her that you have the willpower to do so. That way she knows you're not likely to get addicted to other more damaging things.
