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2/27/2018 8:33:00 PM
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I’ve seen a new low while watching someone Play d2
So was at my friends house and there daughter had just saved up for d2 she’s 12 she was super excited to play. She loves hunters she is a great artist and draws awesome hunters. Well I help her get started and through a few missions. She gets to the point where she could do strikes so I help her get one fired up she gets going and obviously just learning the game and never done the strike before so dosent do so well with direction or kills. But she stuck In there and kept up with her fireteam and managed to help with some dps as best as most in there first strike. Then comes a message to her Xbox the other player had more then a few choice words about her play. Swearing at her to shoot and calling her other things for being slow and making sure she knew how bad she was. It was the lowest point I’ve seen in a game. A kid crying and never wanting to play it again and she hasn’t. Way to go op. There are some real bad people out there. And that’s my biggest problem with this game. That was real low though. She even messaged saying she was a kid and she was sorry. Her mother did report the two people but it dosent stop it.
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#destiny2
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Communication is overrated #KeepItAntisocial Bin that Mic!
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Go to settings and set messaging to friends only. *flies away* [spoiler]No Ban Plz[/spoiler]
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3 RepliesGuys.. to be fair this game is rated T for Teen. No one is to blame to begin with but the adults who let their children be exposed to such environments. BUT! BUT!! You are absolutely right. To a fair degree. Profanity / Harassment is uncalled for NO MATTER what game you play. Unless it is with your buddies. Glad Xbox upped their security on messages and voice chat since the Xbox One. Even saying the word stupid to someone can land you a nice 1 week suspension if reported.
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I was on a strike the other night and one of the members kept dying on average, every 15 secs throughout the entire mission. But you know instead of raging, throwing toys or burning the nearest plushie to death I kept reviving them and moving on. Because not of all of us out there have hundreds of hours of experience and there is going to be people out there doing missions for the first time. The more time we give to help others and ourselves improves the community and the experience for everyone. All I can say to the 12yr old, is keep playing and keep trying because I was once in that same position of not knowing what the hell I was doing, hey sometimes I still don't. Peace
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It's a teachable moment for her at least.I ended up getting my 5 year old a switch for that very reason,destiny is at least better as a community in whole compared to the COD where you hear "f you ,f this you suck " racist rants and homosexial expletives every 3 seconds.
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In my experience those who send those types of messages are mad it took them an extra 20 minutes to be carried. It sucks that it happens but just gotta learn to weed out the weakest players who can't play the game themself
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At her age, the best thing to do would be to join a clan of supportive people, instead of participating in a PUG. Strikes, raids, and PVP are not for the faint of heart. Hope the young player can get over this episode. There are more vicious players in the Division, CoD, and PUBG.
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Y'all should have party invited him and ripped him a new asshole. I know I would have, cause I've been in the same situation.
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3 RepliesThat’s with all online gaming. It’s 2018. Bet it doesn’t happen on games that don’t have a recommended age higher than the kid was though Like Little Big Planet or something
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Well, if she ever wants to game, she needs to get thick skin. Women in general get treated absolutely terrible, especially in the Destiny community. I genuinely feel bad, I know how badly grown men will make fun of women just for being a women. But unfortunately that's the -blam!-ing state of this game.
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38 RepliesThe amount of people actually thinking this is ok is amazing. It doesn't matter if she was 12, or "it's the internet", or whatever dumbass excuse you think up. If you have to be an asshole to people, that's on you - not them. If you can't teach your kid not to be an asshole to people, that's on you AND them. Acting that way towards anyone is not ok. Ever. We used to teach kids to stand up when saying hello to an adult, to be respectful and shake their hand. Now we think it's ok that they treat everyone and everything like shit. Take some responsibility for your actions and stop being an asshole. And for all the people thinking you can't change this by yourself; no, but there was once a lady who wouldn't give up her seat on a bus, who is now a part of american history. So don't be so sure your actions don't count.
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4 RepliesEdited by TheShadow-cali: 2/28/2018 4:54:48 PMYes, there are some people out there that suck and this forum is proof of that on how some use choice words thinking they are better than. My 9 year old went through this on Minecraft playing battle mini game. At first he was a little bothered but got over it real quick, like within 5 min. You know why? Because I taught him to know better and realize words are just words and just because some people are rude that that doesn't mean it's who he is or what they might say is true. Edit: I always compliment him even if it's the smallest things. 2 days ago he got a Certificate of Achievement and this is what it said. I just say his name is Billy [quote]Billy is another compassionate student in room 7. He always has a cheerful attitude and loves to make people laugh with his jokes and songs. Billy finds joy in many things and his enthusiasm can be contagious. [b](Billy is also the first one there with a caring word or gesture if anyone is feeling down.)[/b] This compassion helps to make our classroom a better place...[/quote] Yes, I am very proud of him, but my point to all this is the words in bold and it impressed me because at his age being there for others and not just thinking about himself is impressive. IMO a lot of parents need to be their more often for their kids. I'm not saying your friends parents are not their for her, but I can guarantee if someone spends more time with her building up her confidence that things like this that take place she will learn to blow it off and go about her business. Even you OP can start this off just by baby steps. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying go out of your way. But, It doesn't hurt to throw in a compliment here and there once in a while.
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I'm just wondering how many people posting on this subject actually have kids. I see bashing of the parents as the easy answer, and I don't disagree, but with working class parents who spend most of their day working and under stress, this is a simple over sight. Was the console hers or a parents? Account? I barely get hateful messages if at all. What if one of the parents had her jump on their account without thinking that some other shithead was gonna blast their child? One thing that can be taken from this for everyone is that some people can be shittier than others. We may not know what caused that individual to act the way they did, but it painted a crappy picture for the kids assumption of what online gaming is. Take what you hear from people that can easily hide behind a screen with a grain of salt, but always remember that your actions always have an unforseen outcome to those around you.
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1 ReplyThis is a new low in shit-posting the game. It's terrible that happened to her if it's true, but correlating that to Destiny 2 is ridiculous. That can and does happen in pretty much every online experience with random people and as others have pointed out, where was the parental oversight to not have messaging limited to friends only? Secondly the messaging isn't done in-game. There is no way to message another player without using your consoles chat. Last but certainly not least a shout-out to all the people in the comments who think this is (rightfully) a terrible thing for a random person on the internet to do to another (let alone a kid starting out) and yet are perfectly okay with living here on the forums to shit on the game and anyone who doesn't. May the irony be forever lost on you.
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That’s why you set up child restrictions on an online experience game... ya it doesn’t excuse the behavior of the people but a smart parent takes care of that so the situation never happens. Equal blame on the parents and the dumbass
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I am sorry that happened, but not at all surprised. 1. FFS, turn off notifications when a kid is playing an online game; [i]especially[/i] a game made for older players. 2. She should have been taught to expect nasty messages, and to ignore them COMPLETELY. 3. Only let her run with your friends, after asking them if it’s alright. 4. Help her find like-minded, similar-aged Destiny players. Again, I am VERY sorry this happened, but this was a FAIL by the adults who should have been there for her while playing a game she was too young or unprepared to handle.
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5 RepliesI’m sure that not changing the privacy settings was an oversight - I can see you’re getting a few replies about that. However, just teach her that the only people who would send hatemail - after a strike 🤣 - are guaranteed 100% shite at the game.
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1 ReplyTurn off notifications and stuff for the kiddos.
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Yep, that’s online gaming for you. It’s not reallyfor people who can’t take insults
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100% didn't happen
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Marcos makes a good point sorry to him for spelling his name wrong I didn’t even think about privacy settings the message could have been blocked still dosent make it right but he’s also right. I’m just used to my own system where I don’t care about that kinda stuff so privacy stuff never crossed my mind.
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Your friends need to learn about parental controls.
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8 RepliesYou need to do your part as the adult and change the family control settings to "only friends approved by you can communicate with her". I did this before I even gave my son with his XBOX One S.
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It's not like this is just Destiny. There's a few bad apples in literally every online experience that isn't heavily, heavily moderated. If the girl is that sensitive, dude, your friend needs to turn on his Xbox child protection settings, like, yesterday. I get that it's probably a shared family device, but there's parental controls, and the adults can take the extra steps for security. No way should she have been permitted to receive messages from strangers, or to read the messages. Somebody lost their damned mind over there. Y'all are lucky ALL the jerks did was tell her she's bad at video games, and not something worse. Let the kids learn to grow a thicker skin dealing with their peers, and then they can graduate on to strangers.
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Edited by marvLy: 2/27/2018 9:41:02 PMTell her to git gud. There are also ways to block messages from random people. Parental controls FFS. online content isn’t rated, if she can’t take the heat tell her to leave the kitchen. The blame lies with the parents/ guardians.
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Yea people are assholes. I’d say just ignore the messages.
