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Can't play Destiny on the school days because of my grandmother

WARNING:I have bad grammar so just reply DAT GRAMMAR THO if you have a problem with it. So I play Destiny of course and enjoy my time on Destiny especially this week with patch 2.0 up!Sadly my grandmother has been bugging me about me being addicted for many years and not giving me a break and allowing me to play Destiny because she believes im addicted.I was addicted to Halo when I was 6 I must admit and she took my Xbox 360 away from me a few years later.I got a PlayStation 3 at 2014 and enjoyed playing Destiny but my grandmother jumped in shortly after me getting one and got scared that I was gonna get addicted again.She told me I couldn't play it on the weekend's but never cared to talk to me about it or give some good explanation why.I started going to therapy for my addiction on Xbox and continue to go there because my grandma continues to think I'm addicted to Destiny.She made some points saying how I don't get off when I'm told to because I'm doing an activity when she tells me too and I expect her to respect what im doing and say something like 30 more minutes then turn it off but she just comes in my room and tells me to lock it off and when I say "I'm almost done grandma."she begins to yell at me just for saying those words.Her only real excuses that I can try my best to point out really are- ·School ·What she says go's ·You don't get off when I tell you too! I try to talk to her about it but she doesn't care and is too ignorant to talk about games all she really is interested in are grades and I'm already doing good in school and she tells me to go pick up a book even though I'm not interested in reading books at home.So today I sat next to her and talked to her and she ignored me but I carried in talking for about 30 minutes until she actually cracked but all she said was the exact same thing she always says when I manage to get her to crack."Whatever I say go's."I talk to her saying that's unfair and not a very good decision.I'll just show you our conversation Me:Grandma can we talk about the game and why I feel as its a good idea for me to play it throughout the week?Becau- Grandma:(Cuts me off)NO!NO!NO! Me:Why is you buggin? Mom:You don't talk like that to your elders Grandma:Exactly Me:I was kidding but seriously grandma can we talk about it? Grandma:No!We've spoken about this and I've said many time whatever I say go's! Me:That's not good decision not to.give much reason on why you act like this to me Grandma.I just want to play my game throughout the weekend and I enjoy it but when I want to talk about it you just ignore me. Grandma:You understand but I don't. Me:That made no sense at all,you're basically telling me that you don't understand why I like it but I understand why I like it but because you don't understand I can't play it? Grandma:(Ignores) Me:Grandma I just want to enjoy my time and play my game and you think it wouldn't work because of school but I actually have a reason explaining why it would be a good idea!If you let me play my game I might just not be obseesed with playing it on the weekend's.You leave me without my game and I can't chill out and enjoy my time the way I would want to enjoy my time because I enjoy playing it.But I'm becoming obseesed with the game because of this and your just thinking about the bad things not the good ones so why don't you allow me to play it throughout the week so I won't be obsessed with it.You know since I know I can play it another day.. Grandma:I don't want you on that game at all because I said so.If you touch that game I will rip the cords out and throw it out the window. Me:You're being too ignorant about this grandma.You should be a better guardian/parent and just compromise with me. Mom:My head's hurting me because of you.All you keep talking about is the game Me:Well since you're my mother you should be backing me up on this and understanding what im talking about! Grandma:Just get out my face,I'm trying to watch TV Me:You never let me have my own opinion!Why can't you just be reasonable and actually compromise with me?! Grandma:Isn't this compromising? Me:*Facepalm* No... Grandma:Well this is the best you're gonna get Me:I have a family of unreasonable assholes...*Runs into room* My grandma called my father and I never really wanted to talk to my father cause he'll just kick my ass and the guy f*cking scares me sometimes.Saying that I'm worthless like my mother when I mess up something when he's angry.I talked to him and all he said was "No game on school days.Go on your phone or watch television end of discussion."So he didn't help at all and I just felt as if nothing that I say can change anything in the house.I remember when my aunt was the age I am now she gave her own opinion but I can't.I cried in frustration wishing I had a better guardian who can just compromise with me other then school but even with the game and can just respect me and respect the game even if you don't like it in a conversation Well there it is,I had to let everything out and not let it out to my therapist since she isn't helping.By the way I live with my grandmother instead of living with my parents due to my parents domestic violence.
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  • Kill them in the middle of the night

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    • Tell them you need to fulfill your destiny.

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      • Well if school is their main argument, make it null and void. If you get straight A's consistently they'll realize that games don't affect your grades and give you more freedom. Hypothetically, of course.

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        • Some of us play games as a way to cope. As long as you do ok in school they need to back off. Be respectful but Hang in there. Tell your therapist everything

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        • I hate people who say "Whatever I say goes". Just lock your door, and then later at night sneak out and lock her in her room.

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        • Edited by Brezz 22: 9/13/2015 1:49:36 AM
          Depending on your age in certain states, you can voice your opinion on where you want to live, but make your choices wisely. Your councilor/therapist may have information you need. At least my grandmother was understanding. My condolences and keep your head up guardian

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        • Have you tried telling your therapist the truth? If your grnadmother won't listen to you and she sends you to her she obviously respects the therapist. If you fully explain the situation to the therapist than maybe she might see some of your perspective. And she might be able to get through to your grandmother.

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        • Listen to what she says seeing as she pays for your internet, electricity, food, water, and so on. Don't like it then leave

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          • Your grandma sounds like a control freak, but she knows what's best for you. She's clearly worried about your self-control if it appears that you're playing the game all the time and doesn't want you to. It's difficult to understand her point of view until you have children of your own. From what you've written, it does sound like you are addicted though. Sorry. A couple of possible solutions: [spoiler]If you can play on weekends, that is reasonable. You could try to limit your weekend time and do something else to show that you are capable of self-control and maybe she will trust you enough to play weekdays. Or you could use your weekday time to actively learn about human psychology and how to communicate effectively (including how to use proper grammar). Since your mother sounds just as repressed as you, your first plan of attack is getting your mother to side with you. You can do this by backing her up, or taking her side whenever your grandma and her have differing opinions. This will in turn help your cause. It is very important not to force it though and let your mother help you without you asking for it otherwise it'll feel like she's just being used and everything will backfire. This plan would probably let you play in secret without your grandma knowing. There are other ways of psychological warfare that you can use on your grandma but it involves you learning other stuff. [/spoiler] TL:DR - Basically the more you learn and the smarter you are, the more capable you will be of successfully "negotiating" with your grandma. Try to work on your grammar first as it doesn't make your "grades are good" claim credible. It may be better to be open and speak to the therapist about it. I know it's an exciting time for Destiny, but there are more important matters in life and most of us here don't really want to mess up yours. You're a good kid. I think you will understand.

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            • Edited by arosa-gti: 9/13/2015 1:37:51 AM
              If you're NOT BAD at school you should be able to take a break and play 1 hour a day during the week or something like that, if you're good 30 minutes more.[spoiler]Before STUDYING/doing HOMEWORK[/spoiler]

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            • Dont get married, it will be the same way u less your lucky.

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            • Why do people feel compelled to bring their problems to the forums knowing full well its nothing but opening pandora's box?

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            • Used to be the same for me but now I get to play a bit and it sucks but It's how it is even though my dad thinks he's real clever but it's easy to bypass him ;P so I play when I want because [b][i][u]Dishonesty :D[/u][/i][/b]

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              • I can't play on weekdays either and I'm fking 16 I feel you bruh

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                • Join a gang. That will show them. Then when they get all mad just say -blam!- them and say my gangs my real family and go gang bangin with them. If your dad tries to intefere use the gang to beat his ass. Then get the gang into destiny and then you can play whenever and have solid group to raid and PvP with. Oh and -blam!- bitches and do drugs. Thug life.

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                  • What are your grades like? I have the same problem with my mom, but she told me if I can hold a 4.0 this year then sell let me play. Why don't you ask your grandma if you could have a reward for good grades and ask to play the game if she says yes

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                  • Kill her..... old people fall over all the time.......

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                    • First, respect your grandma. She took you in while you were/are dealing with a shitty homelife. She deserves respect, she's keeping you out of the system. Second, if things are that bad between you two, get involved with school activities. Wrestling, football, track,something. It'll keep you away from the house for a bit and it'll keep you busy so you don't even think about playing as much and it'll make the weekends come quicker. Third, shit happens. I get that you're young, but a gaming forum probably isn't the best place to air out your dirty laundry. I'm sure there are groups on the internet where you'll find more people in the same or similar boat. As you get older, you'll learn the importance of that. Good luck though buddy, hope it works out.

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                      • Titan smash through her wall and say* TO THE WALLS SKEET SKEET SKEET

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                      • Walk in while she is sleeping drop your pants and take a shit all over her sheets. Don't forget to MAKE eye contact to show your primal dominance.

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                        • I remember when I was younger video games kept me out of trouble there was so many times my friends wanted to hang out and I decided to go home and play one of my games and came to find out the next day at school that they ended up doing something dumb and got got arrested or got in a car accident . If it wasn't for video games it wouldn't surprise me if I was doing drugs or worse in jail

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                        • You live in her house, her rules. Don't like it? Ship out. Can't? Abide by her rules until you can. It sucks, but I'm not sure way you're hoping to get from posting on here. Not trying to be rude, just realistic.

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                          • Better a video game than out being a menace to the community.

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                            • Can't play Destiny during the week, because I am busy boning OP's grandma while he is at school.

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                              • 1. Why is you're grandmother living with your family, that's just a sign showing she doesn't want to do anything with her life on her own. She should be in a retirement home. 2. Why the heck does your grandmother care, I bet she doesn't know a single thing about what you're playing. I hate adults who act like 5 year olds and try to judge you on a topic they don't even know about.

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                                  "Welcome to the Prison of Elders." *Opens grandma's door* "You face the final round."

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