I could tell you’re trying to get a response because I didn’t reply to your other comment. It’s rude if you think about it, if I was speaking to him face to face, you’re approach is basically jumping between us responding to my sentence to him.
I’d rather be damned than ever ask for help if I’m able, no one is obligated to help you, that’s a fact. I’m not required to help someone who’s depressed, lonely, sad, or angry.
If someone wants to help you, that’s fine, that’s their choice. I have never been the type to force people to do something against their choice. Not everyone feels like they can do more good than harm, some people don’t get it.
Point is, the world is not your parent, I have my own issues, I got issues with people, I got my own stresses and worries. I can’t always help someone, I can’t always be patient and take care of someone. If someone is having panic attacks in my raid I’d ask them to get off the console and go find somebody, and relax. I’m removing that responsibility from the raid team because it’s unfair to drop it on random people who just hop on to play and unwind. I’ll always hear my friends and loved ones out, because theirs a mutual bond there.
I don’t go to parties when I’m depressed, I don’t drink when I’m sad, I remove myself from a situation that’s pushing me to my limit. I don’t put responsibility onto other people, i don’t blame people for the outcomes. I didn’t reach out to every friend when I was suicidal. I talked to my mom, and then I went to see a therapist.
My mom loves me, but I know she doesn’t understand suicide, I know she isn’t good with those things and I know she might’ve taken the wrong steps, I didn’t want her to feel the pressure of being the only person I was seeking help from, and if it that failed it would be on her, so that’s why I saw a therapist to help assess me so I could get better.
Sometimes things leaked and I know people will be there and say it’s okay, that’s all people should ask from loved ones, don’t expect strangers to care for you because you’re only going to hurt yourself more, a party chat is just that, a party chat. People can’t see you, most wont realize what they are doing is very real to the other person, no one knows who suicidal, depressed.
None of those things were easy to do, it sounds easy because everything sounds easy when explained. Like telling you to lift a box of food for eight hours, sounds easy, it isn’t obviously.
The only reason why I’m even sharing this is because you’ll never know my face, name, or location, so it doesn’t matter to me.
So again, get off the console, get help, and try again, strangers aren’t obligated to anything, especially the internet man, that’s a setup for failure.
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Edited by jack_zedd: 5/28/2019 8:44:22 AMSorry you had to go through that. But if you experienced that, you should be more understanding than most people about mental health issues, including anxiety. Unless you're in denial. Like I said in my other post, if you got through it by yourself kuddos for you. Doesn't mean everyone can do it. Is OK to ask for help. Nobody is asking for you or anyone else to "be their parents". All is asked is respect and patience. This is not asking too much. Nobody wants you to guide anyone through life. Just a bit of patience. BTW, I wasn't asking for you to reply to my other post. Edit: and definitely nobody is looking to get cured of anything by playing a game. Again all is asked is to be understanding and patient. Read the original op post.
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I’m glad I went through it. I’m showing you enough respect and patience by politely asking to dismiss yourself because I don’t think it’s healthy to ask strangers in a game for some help. All you have to say is “hey imma get some water, give me five minutes” breathe man, and honestly turn your console off if the game is causing you that much of an issue. You don’t eat from the same restaurant after it’s gotten you sick, if a game cause that much pain, drop it. One day I’ll wake up not wanting to play Xbox, maybe a week or two. Am I wrong if someone on there is waiting for me because they look forward to playing a game with me and some friends? Attach real people, those who actually want to be there without a question, and you are asking people to be a parent. Loving parents are only ones who will have endless patience.
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Again, all is asked is patient and respect. This shouldn't even been asked. Is common human courtesy.
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I’m only advising a safer route, go ahead and demand people. Nobody has to care.
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I don't think you got my point. I'm not saying that people should not get help. I'm saying that someone asking for patience is not too much to ask.
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I never said it was, I’m just being realistic about things. You could be more productive off console
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I agree with that! However it doesn't mean anyone who has anxiety can't do something they like just because they have anxiety.