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Edited by UngravitousMako:
8/27/2018 11:06:07 PM
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Social anxiety and strikes?
As a gamer with social anxiety, I keep finding myself wanting to do strikes and raids, but am utterly terrified to interact with people I don't know, and moreso to potentially play like a potato in front of them.
Has anyone else found their way through something like this with any degree of success? What helped you get past it? How did it turn out?
Edit: Thank you all for your responses! I've been both surprised, and frankly, a little overwhelmed by the number of replies and messages! If I haven't gotten back to you, I'm sorry! I'll try to respond to as many (productive) posts as I can before my 'fake-it-til-you-make-it' meter is critically low on reserves!
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5 RepliesI used to have really bad anxiety, and online gaming was actually a huge help. Games give you a goal that you want to accomplish, but need other people to achieve it. Just keep reminding yourself that online you’re totally anonymous to strangers that you’ll never encounter again. Judgements are one-time and quickly forgotten. This practice, along with outside confidence boosting hobbies (I learned how to fly and got my license), are massive self-esteem improvers. I honestly can’t say that I have much anxiety about anything anymore. I’m actually a pretty cocky prick these days.
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I've gone thru entire strikes not even talking to randoms in them. Tbh if you have anxiety about it just let the leader of the group know. Best thing for you.
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Hey bud clan is on ps4 very chill and relaxed don’t care about how good you are. Def send a request or add me whenever you need someone to play with.
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Just pretend they're AI
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2 RepliesIf you're on PSN, shoot me a request. Me and my clan run raids and what not on the regular. We've routinely ran first timers through normal and prestige leviathan as well as EOW. Wouldn't mind helping you
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Edited by Neo Revanuk: 8/28/2018 4:17:03 PMThe only advice I can give is what worked for me, start slowly and go from there, when in a random group just join the fireteam ingame chat, keep your mic muted if you want and then just listen, if people are speaking and you feel like you can join the conversation, then do, if not just stay muted. This is a good way to find people who you can get along with, just talk about the game and leave personal stuff out. After you find one or two people who you feel comfortable playing with just keep doing that, just play with them and see if your goals are the same, I found it much easier to go into a raid group with at least one person there that I knew in the game, It may not sound like a lot but having that one variable that is known helps a hell of a lot. It may take you some time but it can help a lot, I'm in a clan now with someone I met playing in the crucible over the in game fireteam chat, it has become easier for me to enter groups from LFG, not saying it's ideal all of the time, but I do have a bit more confidence now. I really do hope that this helps at least as much as it did for me. Keep fighting Guardian, someone out there has your back.
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1 ReplyXbone or PS4?
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4 RepliesShoot me a message on XBL if you're on xbox. My team doesn't care if you're a god or a noob when it comes to playing. name is the same as on here. well run you through nightfall or strikes or anything. don't feel like talking? sit back and listen to us ramble on about stupid crap!
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Just tell them when you start and only do callouts, I have the same problem, granted yours might be worse
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No one cares that much about you. People are not paying close attention. Chill. You gave a GT to be semi anon.
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1 ReplyHow you do get through it? You just freakin join and play. Who cares. Honestly you can’t sit there and freak yourself out so much that you don’t join. That’s how you fix your social anxiety.
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2 RepliesEdited by Gornic: 8/29/2018 8:45:16 AMGrit your teeth and take the plunge. Join a clan and get to know people, then you're not playing with strangers. Join my clan. We're all wierdo's and old knackers with it. We don't care if you chat much as long as you do call outs etc when it's required. We've got enough chat going on, it would be a refreshing change 😂 Edit: I see you're already in a clan.
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I wouldn't worry about playing like garbage in a strike. Nobody cares about them. In a raid, just watch videos and go for it. If someone doesn't like you, who cares? They're just some faceless trout sniffer in a basement somewhere anyways.
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1 ReplyIt must be bad if you can’t even talk to someone through a microphone
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3 RepliesSmoke some weed and you’ll be fine
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I have Social Anxiety as well but I just play strikes like I would do anything else normally, it's how I found my D1 raid group because they saw how I was playing just normally and wanted me to join to help them and myself for experience in those activities. :)
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Edited by ShaxxCousin: 8/29/2018 3:32:27 AMI'm in the same boat as you. I don't really initiate conversation.
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I've got some social anxiety to a lesser extent, what I do after making friends that have helped me with all the raids going back to destiny is I will learn what they want me to do in each area and stick to it. There is a lot of times I do t feel like talking and know my role and it works out pretty good. It also helps that I've known some of these guys 4 years so I'm nowhere near as bad with them anymore, but there are times when I just dont feel like talking even when doing the raid, I'll call out what i want to do in each area and let it be it. It sucks but there are great people out there who are accepting to it.
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You dont have to talk to others in strikes. Just act like they are AI helpers...that is what i do.
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5 RepliesJust get with a group that you're comfortable with. I know it will be hard at first, it was with me. Now, I'm not afraid to be a total derp in front of my clan, because they're like a gaming family to me now. I gotta say, I've raided with jerks, but they aren't all jerks. Just get with some good people and relax. It's worth it.
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All you need is one friend, after you're comfortable join someone else together. Atleast you know one guy.
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1 ReplyEdited by SmashvilleViking: 8/29/2018 7:14:40 AMYou shouldn't play games if you have "social anxiety". I have real anxiety, and still go outside and talk to people. Here's an idea... Go outside. "Social Anxiety" is non-existant. It's usually thrown around by people that have no life, and sit around all day. Get off your butt, and do something.
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2 RepliesFor quite some time I used to treat people like you absolutely terrible because I saw you as weak and not fit to be around However. I've gotten nicer in my older age. You still have one major thing to consider. If you're having this much anxiety and a video game. How the hell are you ever going to function in society or at a career or in a relationship? Rather than taking Band-Aid advice from some of the knuckle draggers here. Work on your self confidence and start reading about how to become more outgoing and then practice those habits. Trying to camouflage your issues is not going to improve your life
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Another attention seeking post.
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2 RepliesLook for keywords like chill, no mic or no exp required, willing to teach etc. It may be a slow process but eventually, you are just getting used to it
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I understand social anxiety in a real face-to- face setting, but online you are basically anonymous. Just realize you are in a group with people who enjoy the same game you do.
