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1/4/2015 3:08:36 AM
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My girlfried is going to leave me because of Destiny - AMA
There is actually a lot more to it than the usual "you play too much" story. She is against Destiny because it goes against her religions beliefs. It's more video games in general than it is Destiny. Facebook stuff like Farmville is okay, but Destiny is "one of those violent games".
I am a moderate agnostic, so I really don't care about others religious views. Also when I am around religious families I have no qualms about participating in prayers, songs, or whatever because these are typically fun and/or good natured, and there is no reason for me to make a scene. (I really dislike those people that don't believe in religions and take every opportunity to "inform" those people that do)
Anyway, for some reason I have been unable to comprehend, my girlfriend has decided to take a stance against Destiny. Her family has even called me and asked me to throw the game away.
I took a few days to carefully think about how I wanted to respond, and I have decided not to stop playing Destiny (despite its crappy RNG loot system, lol). The main reason why is that I just can't, in the long term, have a relationship with someone that would make an ultimatum against a socially acceptable hobby.
I thought that this may be interesting to people, so I decided to make a legit AMA post. If no one replies, that's okay.
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#Destiny
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Just buy a new one with glimmer and throw in an exotic shard for good measure.
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Good for you dude. Hope I see you around guardian.
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Editado por TVxShinobi: 1/4/2015 11:34:35 PMA woman who does not respect you and your hobbies should not be the person you spend your entire life with. If she doesn't respect your decisions that you've made with your life, there's no reason you should respect the decisions she has with hers.
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Listen buddy. She cant change you. Even if you stopped playing, you wouldnt change. You are a guardian. You are light. And if she doesnt see the biblical themes (assuming shes christian) in destiny, she aint too smart.
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Kid, there are many fish in the sea. Unless of course she takes it up the ole dirt road. Then I say keep her.
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Love is to accept your partner in every good and flaws that you see in him/her. There is no way that religion can dictate how you feel about your partner if he/she treats you the way someone who cherishes you will. I am happily attached to my girlfriend for four years and not once has she questioned my hobbies and the way I live my life(unless it affects our relationship in a way), and vice versa for me. Being in a relationship is all about understanding and compromising. To support each another when no one else would. Nevertheless, I hope you find serinity and peace in whatever you do OP and that you'd find someone who supports you in whatever you do. Destiny is fun. Never stop guardian!
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19 RespuestasHad a religious gf once that was the same way about halo. She said Jesus wouldn't play halo so I shouldn't. I was also religious at the time but a slightly different religion than hers and I had nothing against violent 'games' as they were just games and not real. The problem with religious people taking a stance against violent video games is hypocrisy. The bible is full with violent stories and a video game is just an interactive story. The awesome thing about this hypocrisy is the fact that in the bible it says to let he/she who is without sin throw the first stone. So these people admit they are sinners and that they need Jesus (which is fine by me) but they proceed to pass judgement on to others about how they should live their lives. Just wow. I mostly just ignored her but I regret that. I should have talked to her about that. But we are no longer together and that was at least ten years ago and I am no longer religious so not too big of a deal I guess. I am also a mild agnostic :). My recommendations? Talk with her and inform her of the obvious hypocrisy. I know logic and reason often falls on deaf ears when trying to talk with someone who is a slave to blind faith but you should try. Good luck buddy.
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It is important to remember that every one has their own beliefs and that someone should not be considered a nut job just because it differs from your own. I mean people that are not gamers think were crazy for playing games instead of going out to bars or what ever other social events they like to do. Now to answer your question. Do not approach this as a "I'm taking a stand" this me versus you attitude because that just gets everyone defensive especially her since she will feel like you challenging her beliefs and trust me your not going to change them and nor should you want to you should love her for her. You should view this as an opportunity to have a true discussion about your relationship and the boundaries of said relationship. Whats her expectations and yours where you see it going. Where you find conflict between what you want and what she wants try to reach a compromise if you cant reach a compromise then you and her will have to decide if its going to be worth ending the relationship over. Now i will say one thing atleast she seems to care and trust me that alot better then her not caring at all. I wish the best to you both.
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Other fish in the sea. If you really want a passion thrown away for someone. Think what else she might control in your life later. Pass her over as a bad loot drop. And find your a gamer chick or someone with your views.
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I'm a Jew and love this fame, your girl is just crazy or is part of a feminist cult
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5 RespuestasEditado por Jay Crimson: 1/5/2015 12:04:58 AMI think if evil aliens were trying to take over the world Jesus Christ would have a vex mytho in one hand and a Jellyhorn in the other leading the charge for ultimate glory. Because only Christ himself can have 2 exotics equipped at the same time:) Also unlimited ammo because "GOD MODE" would be activated.
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1 RespuestaI don't give a shit. Now prepare your wallet for the house of wolves dlc
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Tell her it's just a game, but if she really thinks about leaving you because gaming just happens to be one of your hobbies then she is not meant for you, there are TONS of girls who like video games who you more than likely have things in common with....
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3 RespuestasYou should send a really strong message and come home with mortal kombat.
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But she said she was lv18 I swear!
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My wife wanted me to stop playing destiny. So I said no and administered a severe sexual beating using my 12 inch gjallarhorn. She never complained again..... Result
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I know how that feels my girl does not like me playing destiny either she says it takes too much time out of my night(i dont get to play till after midnight then im up till like 3 or 4 in the morning sometimes) but anyway i told her that she needed to let me have my time to do what i want no matter what she said cause in a relationship you are suppose to be a team and make comprises she has got to learn that a gamers life is hard sometimes haha hope this helps
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Is she by chance an independent fundamentalist Baptist? This sounds like what my life was like growing up lol
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1 RespuestaEditado por niksybrahhh: 1/5/2015 1:12:40 AMAs harsh as it sounds, Its good that she left. Because in the future, she might limit what you enjoy, and today it might be destiny, but tommorow it might be something like visiting your parents or giving back to the community. When it comes to that, fights will start, and if you both get married, then the only path would be divorce. P.S Dont put up with her because she is hot etc. 30 Years down the track, her looks will go, and you will be left with that personality.
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1 RespuestaWell, if she's having her family "help" her convince you, my advice is to stop her like a herpes-infested hot potato. It's not going to end with Destiny, trust me - my best friend went through a similar situation... His ex threatened to leave him because he smoked, and she "wasn't going to be married to someone doomed to hell". Next, she took issue with his wearing shorts and short sleeved shirts. Finally, she wanted him to cease contact with all his friends and family, who - according to her, her family and church - were all hellbound. Apparently he would have been permitted friends as long as they were members of a certain church denomination (rhymes with denticostal). Almost too late, he finally bailed out. Not sure if you're trolling, but this sort of thing [i]does[/i] happen.
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I don't know if this is b8 or not, but if it's not then just get the -blam!- out of there. If she's one of those bible-thumping nuts that think Harry Potter is evil because of magic, or just controlling and wants you to live only for her, then you need to leave quick and perhaps get a restraining order. There are far more violent video games out there, so I'm assuming her issue is with the Traveller and how it's essentially God, having performed miraculous feats of a PLANETARY scale and raised humanity up. If she's that messed up with a game you're playing, imagine what she'd do if you two had children together. There's a guy out there, David Willis, who draws several Webcomics including "Dumbing of Age" that has told people what it's like to grow up in a household like that. Willis has stated that that he wasn't allowed to watch He-Man as a child because his mother told him, and I'm quoting here, "Only Jesus has the power." Don't stick around dude, just get out please. Get out for your health and safety, get out for your friends and family who care about you.
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Just -blam!- her right in the pussy. She'll come around.
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Bump for kicking that religious hoe to the curb. Religion isn't something you can force others to believe in. Find a better gf. You'll be okay
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Bump for relativity.
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1 RespuestaWhat religion is she in?!
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Give her an ultimatum with something she really enjoys, get your family to call her and back you up... See how she handles the heat
