I'll try to make this quick and painless, but without context, no one will truly understand what's going on. So our story begins...
A year and a half ago I met this girl when she was a senior in high school and I was a junior. She graduated and left for college about 3 hours away in palm beach (I'm in Orlando). Anyways, we became best of friends and started dating after awhile. About 6 months into our relationship, she said the distance was too much and broke things off. About a month later, we gave it another shot and then she said she just didn't feel it anymore 3 weeks later a day before Valentine's day.
Only problem is, I know I love this girl. She has only dated one guy before, she's extraordinarily classy, ranks sixth in her class grade-wise, and she's just stunning. I've never met anyone like her before. We text everyday from morning until bed and she says maybe one day things might change, but she knows how she feel right now. I feel so much pain that I just want to stop talking to her for a few days and just collect myself, but I know it will make her incredibly sad as she tells me every day how much guilt she has for hurting me. I mean, what do I do, guys? I'm so lost on this.
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1 RespuestaIf she's in college in you're in high school, the two of you are currently having wildly different experiences. She is literally becoming a different person -- the person she'll be as an adult. Relationships have a lot of difficulty surviving this period. If she's already broken things off with you once, there's nothing you can do to rescue the relationship, and you should not try. Continuing to talk to her is only going to draw out the pain longer. The best thing you can do is cut off all contact with her and try to move on as quickly as possible (time is the only cure for heartbreak -- nearly all of us grownups have felt it before and we all feel for you). Don't feel bad about her and her guilt/sadness if you do cut off contact. Her continuing to talk to you is the result of her not knowing how else to stop making herself feel guilty. You need to take care of yourself, not her and her feelings. The high-school-to-college relationship breakup is the oldest story in the book. It happens over and over and over again, man, and it will never stop. It's not your fault, her fault, or anyone else's fault. It's just the result of the huge changes that happen in this transition.
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Betas....
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Seriously bro, find another girl. It's not worth all if that crap for her.
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Stopped reading at "I met this girl".
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I was in a relationship kinda like the one that you are describing. I made really good friends with this girl who lived in California. I opened up to her and she didn't call me "weird" or "emo". She really saw me for who I was. Anyway, the distance became a strain on her and she started dating other people. That literally destroyed me. I remember when she told me that she was going out with another guy, I immediately fainted. I turned to hurting myself and just screaming out of sadness and the loss I felt. I'm not gonna lie, I went completely crazy. Please man, let her go.
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1 RespuestaEditado por MoonDawg: 5/27/2014 4:51:51 AMYou need to stop worrying about her and start worrying about yourself my friend. I guarantee that as soon as you stop talking to her, she will be all over you. That's just how these sorts of things play out. So my advice is to back off, stop talking to her for a few days (hell, maybe even a month to clear your head), and relax. Maybe a nice dose of Destiny Beta will calm your nerves when we roll into July! If she isn't wanting to date, then I say move on. If the only way you can move on is by breaking off contact, then so be it. Maybe she'll see how stupid she has been and will come crawling back. When that happens, the ball is in your court. Best of luck!
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14 RespuestasBrother I am not trying to be mean here I understand what your going through. That being said uhm your asking people you barely know on this site about a real life problem. I am sure there probably is some sound advice here but really? You are looking for other peoples advice on how to run your life? Again no offense to anyone here or you but I mean it is your life right? Go with what you need to man. I feel for you brother but you won't find the best help on here. The most I would even suggest to you is either tell her all this (not all but you get my point) or ride it out. Ain't nothing we can do here brother. Not like I can reach through this forum and pimp slap some sense into her for leaving a good man (wouldn't actually do that) and if I could reach through this screen to do things like that I would be to busy kicking trolls in the face with my fist. All in all brother listen to your guy then ignore it cause it is probably dead wrong and go with you're head.
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4 RespuestasIf she can't return the love you give.... then is she really worth the pain... and YOU should not be calling her a HOE if you LOVE her.
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I wish I could give advice, but I'm allergic to grills so I have no experience. Sorry, man.
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5 RespuestasFml everyone on this site has girl problems
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This is called the friend zone
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She's just not that into you.