What you are referring to is the toxicity of the Destiny community. That is no fault of the raid mechanics or difficulty. So I really don't see how changing the mechanics will all of a sudden fix that problem. I have had my fair share of LFG jerks. Yes, it sucks. I used to do a little bit of sherpa back in D1 before I had 5 people to raid with. But there are plenty of people out there who aren't like the guys you played with. And frankly, Bungie shouldn't design their game around that instance. It lowers the quality of the content for everyone else.