Feel free to ignore this post. Writing and posting this is more of a self-therapy than anything else. So my girlfriend is studying abroad in Ireland. I live in California. She is in med school and it’s extremely challenging. The first week was hell for her and I could tell she was becoming withdrawn and depressed. I did my best to support her and over the weekend we were in touch a lot and it seemed great, same through this week. . . until today. She said she has a lot to think about and won’t be in touch for awhile. That’s pretty much it. I don’t know if it’s a day a week or months when she says “awhile” and I don’t think she knows either. I of course sent messages of support, but none of my messages after the one she sent have been opened. This is the first time in months we’ve gone more than a few hours without talking texting or being in contact. Feels bad man. I don’t know why I’m even posting this other than to just get it out there. Keeping the situation inside my head just makes me ruminate and makes it less real. So writing it, posting it, helps it sink in and helps me deal with it more realistically. Update: This might sound weird to some of the people saying break up with her. We are still together. The spoiler is long and convoluted, but in case anyone is curious. . . [spoiler]She had just found out some things related to severe past trauma that sent her into a pretty bad depression and she cut off all contact with everyone for a few days. This is scary and unhealthy behavior, of course, but one of the reasons she and I were able to bond and trust each other was because of similar events in our past, and similar mindsets about what we’ve been through. So having been through a similar unhealthy emotional state and withdrawing myself to that degree at various times in my life, I understand why she needed to do what she did. I am trying to help support her and grow with her to a healthier place. Looking at the facts, the assumption that I was going to get dumped was fear based on my own insecurity, and if I hadn’t misinterpreted her message I’d not have feared she was leaving me. It’s hard to explain but part of her message said “like we talked about” and I thought she was referencing a conversation we had but she was referencing something else we talked about. This led me to thinking that she was stating she was leaving me when she intended to reference the fact that she would be negative and depressed and out of contact but would be okay after a little bit. Anyway, I’m not going to go into explicit detail because it’s way too personal, but just in case anyone is interested we are together and this has brought us closer together, and I’m sorry there can’t be a lot more detail because people genuinely offered real and helpful support which I appreciate very much. [/spoiler]