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1/5/2019 2:40:00 AM
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I’ve just been accepting/realizing that my childhood is over
TLDR: I realized that my childhood is over and that my parents aren’t gonna be around forever and the reality of all of that is seriously killing my mood the older I get.
And it’s been really bringing me down lately. Every so often I’ll think about it and it’ll make me sad. I’m about to turn 21 in a few months and it’s beginning to dawn on me that I’m not a kid anymore. My whole life I’ve lived under my parents’ wing and they’ve just always been there. But recently it’s hitting me that my life is different now and I’m never going to be a kid again. I have responsibilities and things to do. I’m going to miss going places with my mom and dad and in general just being young because I feel like my youth went by way too fast. What hits me hardest of all is that one day I’m going to have to live through my parents dying and that along with getting older in general that makes me really depressed the older I get really. I have everything someone my age could want. A girlfriend, a good paying job, friends, all the latest consoles, a monster PC, everything really; but the fact that I’m never going to be a kid again and my parents will die one day kinda just destroys all of that. Have any of you ever felt this way? Sorry if the serious tone is kinda off putting.
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Editado por OptimumEnergy: 1/11/2019 2:09:34 AMBe a child forever. When I say that I guess I mean do what you love. But still do your duty's. Do what you must.
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Wait till your friends start dying. That's a real wake up call.
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Editado por XxElementZeroxX: 1/6/2019 9:45:40 PMNonsense. I’m 39 and still a toys r us kid.
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Nothing lasts forever
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Some people act like children their entire lives. It's a matter of who you are and how you handle things that makes all the difference. As for growing out of childhood, into adolescence, then eventually going out into the world on your own is just part of growing up. Everyone has to do it, so you're not even close to alone in that department. It's what you decide to do with yourself that separates us all. I never feared growing up. I feared getting old. On my 27th birthday I had something akin to a panic attack for I realized I wasn't "young" anymore. 30 was right around the corner I was never going to be as I was in my early 20's again. But I got over it. 30 came and went. Life happened throughout it all, and I haven't been concerned about age since. Even today I don't feel that "old", though the majority of all those here would see me as such. Perspective. But what you are lamenting today will be nothing to you tomorrow. Small steps in time you'll get there. Your parents will pass one day, and you will be ok. You will continue, as they would want you to. Sure pain and loss are terrible to go through, but pain fades in time. Memories endure. Just don't worry about tomorrow, for not everything happens all at once. Life will happen. Things will change. Just do your best to make sound decisions for yourself along the way.
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Took you long enough.
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It’s all perspective, really. You may not ever be an actual kid again, but there’s nothing stopping you from, say, playing Monopoly with your parents, or all of you going to Disneyland or something. Sure, you’ll probably have to schedule it around work, but you can still have fun, and look at the world through that positive lense that a kid would. There’s no reason to be an “adult” just because you’re an adult. You don’t have to stop playing video games, or never see your parents, or anything like that. As long as you maintain your responsibilities, there’s nothing wrong with being a kid at heart. But, yes, you will most likely outlive your parents. Unfortunately, that’s something almost everyone has to go through. Sadly, I’ve got no advice here, because my parents are still alive, so I haven’t experienced this. But, I have to end with a cheesy line, so, don’t bother getting caught up on the past, or worrying too hard about the future, but instead, enjoy the now for as long as you can. Every moment is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present! [spoiler]Also, there’s a Sofia the First episode tackling this exact issue. I know you probably don’t want to watch it, but hey, it’s out there if you do! “The Elf Situation”. Second to last episode in the series.[/spoiler]
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Same boat as me. I'll be 21 this March. I've also been thinking deeply about a lot of those same things lately. It sucks, realizing your childhood is pretty much over and done with. Heck, I even miss high school of all things. In my current situation, I feel as if I'm simply drifting through life. No goal. No purpose. All these responsibilities are popping up left and right, mostly regarding money. It makes you miss being blissfully ignorant and unaware as a kid. All I can say is that you should try and recognize these good times you end up missing later in life.. but as they're happening. Most people will say they miss certain periods of time in their past, they were the good times. But.. at that moment.. they didn't view it that way usually. Take things slow, don't stress yourself out about the future. Try and just.. live in the current moment as long as you can.
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Adulting sucks. Do not recommend.
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Editado por FelifluxMadness: 1/7/2019 6:37:48 AM[i][url=https://ih0.redbubble.net/image.482248379.7634/pp,550x550.u2.jpg]"Since then, I've been seeing the past in one eye, and the present in the other. So, I thought I could only see patches of reality, never the whole picture. I felt like I was watching a dream I'd never wake up from. Before I knew it the dream was all over."[/url][/i]
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17 Same here
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1 RespuestaI'm 18, and I'm terrified of the future. But it can't be [b]that[/b] bad, can it? [i]Can it?[/i]
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1 RespuestaI always was told “at 13 you become a man” I realized many years later you aren’t a man till your parents die or you have your own children. ONLY then does your childhood end.
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1 Respuestadude I got this realization at 13
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Editado por Talk2MeToner: 1/6/2019 4:43:45 PMWelcome. You're not even hear yet dude "almost 21." Wait until you're completely self sufficient and you realize you'll never have home cooked meals unless you do it yourself and buy all of the expensive ingredients. I'm recently 26. I have my own condo/ apartment at least for a couple years now on my own and it can be rough but it's also great. No roommates. I clean up after only me or any guests I have over. Eat dinner on my couch most of the time. Work 45 plus hours a week though for the foreseeable future. Good and bad.
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2 RespuestasI miss being a teenager growing up in the 90s. I'm only 35 but I feel.....old.
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Wouldn't have a clue what your going through mate. Didn't exactly get a childhood myself, was what you'd call a child of the state. Ran away from the orphanage when I was young, so had to grow up quickly. Lucky for me where I'm from, state kids can get early sign overs to the military at sixteen. Deployed at eighteen. Nothing says pull your finger out and grow up like having bullets flyby.
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2 RespuestasYep, but the best part of life awaits you. The greatest thing in my life is raising my own family. You'll get to relive a childhood again, through your own kids. It's so much fun. I wish you the best, even though I'm some weird internet stranger. Good luck!
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I turn 23 tomorrow and I pissed away all my golden years playing video games and not having a drive to do anything in life.
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In my mind a misconception you have when you’re younger is adults are drastically different. Sure you’re a little more cautious and have responsibilities but still I’m gonna stay up all night playing the new destiny dlc or gonna learn to snowboard or whatever you wanna do.
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I'm 18 right now. I'm thinking about joining the Marine Corps or the Air Force. I need the financial aid to help my family pay bills.
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Good luck being a basement dweller.
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lol rekt
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2 RespuestasBeing a kid sucks anyway
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1 Respuesta[quote]TLDR: I realized that my childhood is over and that my parents aren’t gonna be around forever and the reality of all of that is seriously killing my mood the older I get. [/quote] You are devastated because you are confusing maturity/immaturity with adulthood/childhood. [quote]And it’s been really bringing me down lately. Every so often I’ll think about it and it’ll make me sad. I’m about to turn 21 in a few months and it’s beginning to dawn on me that I’m not a kid anymore. [/quote] You can be a responsible adult while still having your child-like wonder. [quote]My whole life I’ve lived under my parents’ wing and they’ve just always been there. But recently it’s hitting me that my life is different now and I’m never going to be a kid again. [/quote] Correction: you’re never going to be immature/co-dependent again, or at least you won’t if you plan on making it. [quote]I have responsibilities and things to do.[/quote] Your parents gave responsibilities to you as a child, correct? [quote]I’m going to miss going places with my mom and dad and in general just being young because I feel like my youth went by way too fast.[/quote] This is a sad truth. 80-90% of the time offspring spend with their parents or together as a family for that matter are during the childhood years. But you can still make the effort to spend time with them anyways. [quote]What hits me hardest of all is that one day I’m going to have to live through my parents dying and that along with getting older in general that makes me really depressed the older I get really.[/quote] Short human lifespans bless you with putting what’s important into perspective. [quote]I have everything someone my age could want. A girlfriend, a good paying job, friends, all the latest consoles, a monster PC, everything really; but the fact that I’m never going to be a kid again and my parents will die one day kinda just destroys all of that. Have any of you ever felt this way? Sorry if the serious tone is kinda off putting.[/quote] The bittersweet wisdom that is granted by mortality: Don’t waste it; make it count.
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Dude I fear nothing more on God's green Earth than the day my mother will die.
