We have a tendency to love the people we think are greater than ourselves. It doesn't matter how, maybe they are stronger or more confident, smarter or more determined, maybe even sexier or more open minded. I'd recommend you analyze the guy; or all and any guys you've ever loved, but most definitely the one that hurt you. Figure out what you saw in him you were missing in yourself, and when you do, embrace the tears and grow beyond. Because even the trees need tears to grow.