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Edited by I SLAY Z0MBIES:
1/31/2015 1:26:11 AM
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Thanks for the support. Too much negativity.
The negativity is too strong. Thanks for the positive feedback. Honestly didn't think i'd get this many responses.
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Spend time with her, then play. She is more important, but you should have time to yourself
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1 ReplyAnd this is why I am single.....
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1 ReplyBro u gotta spend time with your girl. N then play.
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Edited by Nathan Wrath: 1/30/2015 10:14:41 PMYou're an escapist from your own reality... Come back to grips with what is important, Stay strong, and be a better significant other... I don't currently have a gf but I do see a lot of girls and let me tell you, if you want a meaningful relationship with who you're with, listen to her when she says put the game down because most likely she wants to get wet! Edit: btw you ARE PUSHING HER AWAY, do care more about a meaningless video game or her, for real son... Get with it!
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Edited by Joral_96B: 1/30/2015 10:15:33 PMI'm an Army vet with 8 years under my belt (97-2004). I had PTSD and depression. I know how hard it is and I'm gonna give you some tough love: you are part of your own problem. Here me out; it sounds like your brain and mind still aren't able to cope yet. I don't know about your relationship with your significant other, but you've got to work on yourself. It comes with looking in the mirror and saying directly into your own eyes "I don't want to fell this way anymore." It took me until I was in my thirties to properly deal with it. I truly wish you the best of luck on the long road ahead of you. You'd be surprised how receptive your friends and loved ones will be to you just talking about how you feel and what's going on upstairs. EDIT: "had" not "has"
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Semper fi devil dog
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Edited by Drrtbag: 1/30/2015 10:09:48 PMI think it's all about balance. She probably feels like the game is more important to you than she is. If that truly is the case, you shouldn't be together anyways. If you on the other hand you do value her, then include her. Give her some of your time. Please take this advice with a grain of salt. After all, none of us know the dynamics of your relationship.
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Edited by possum__jenkens: 1/31/2015 8:44:59 PMi know a great bunch of guys and girls. that have the same shared experience as you. if you're interested, drop in and tell em Jack sent you. www.usmilitarygamers.com they know better than anyone on here what your going through. good luck and take care brother.
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With you all the way bro. Royal engineers. 3 tours. Just get in the crucible and kill shit. It helps!
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Semper Fi Brother 0811 here. Yut!
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Bump to all the supportive posts. You guys are awesome.
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1 ReplyI think you're doing just fine if you're using Destiny to cope instead of alcohol. Good on ya. I know PTSD must be hard to deal with. My dads in the service, so a lot of respect goes your way from me. Good on ya, brother.
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Sorry to hear you're going through hard times brother. You may be going through a lot of personal biz in that brain of yours but you also need to realize that all of that stress and anxiety is contagious. If you want it to work with your lady you need to take a little time to make her happy and make sure she knows everything is cool, even if it isn't.
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Depends on how much you're playing, are you replacing one vice for another? Is it effecting your life? Sounds like it is so maybe it's time to take a little break and evaluate how much you play and the effect it has.
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1 Replyok here is my take on this. You are doing something you enjoy. You are something she enjoys. in her mind she feels you should feel like she does.. and this is the biggest issue. Communication is the key issue. Serving for so long away from her, has trained you to communicate differently.. and the communication in the military is way different than the kind that those on the outside know. My advice is, try to explain to her that the game is fun and distracting to your disorders. You still love her, and want to make the turn around in your life, what can she do to help you? talk about it with her... the game is not competition and I feel in your post that you possibly have the situation that she has been in control for a significant time, and with you home, it has caused a hurdle in that dynamic. Being a military person, I understand the dynamics at play for returned serviceman. she needs to accept you are home... YOU need to accept you are home too. While you deserve all the rest for your service at keeping freedom alive, remember, there are people that will never understand the impact that has on a persons life. You need to now protect your loved ones from ever knowing that truth. Good luck, relationships are one of the most complicated things to deal with.. sometimes I would prefer to walk a minefield blindfolded.
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I empathize with you man. And I think you are in the right, especially since it is a method to cope. My best friend in high school used the same methods to cope and stay away from alcohol(as do I accompanied by weed) and it's worked wonders for him. So keep up with the coping mechanisms that work for YOU. And don't let your significant other take this from you if it is TRULY important for your rehabilitation and well being. Keep it up man and you'll make it through.
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As active duty myself I feel that there are worse things men can spend there time on. I tell my wife I could either spend money on bullshit, alcohol, or worse so playing a video game you dorm under 100 on isn't that bad in comparison. My father is a marine, retired but you never stop being s marine, and my brother in law is s marine suffering from PTSD. I feel you pain main. I understand your issues, but you should still try and understand that your wife has needs as well. Women need us to show them we care snd want them. Just show her you understand and care and I'm sure she'll appreciate you for it, good luck marine. I wish you well.
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5 RepliesYou jar heads get all of the Hollywood publicity : /
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1 ReplyYou'd expect more from a partner than food, rent and money to buy nice things. That's what you'd expect to get from an employer, not a partner. If you'd expect that, your partner's right to expect that too. There's 24 hours in the day. If you're spending eight of them working, that's eight sleeping, seven playing Destiny, and one left for her. Appreciate what you have; you'll miss it when it's gone.
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5 Replies-blam!- war. People who think there the best cus they've been in a war. No.
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Honestly, I'd say encourage (in a nice, but firm way) her to move on if her needs aren't being met. You need to take care of you and be happy, and she needs to take care of herself and be happy.
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Dude 7 hours? There isn't that much shit to do.
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Obviously a lot of things that go into play here. All I'm going to focus on though, is the relationship. I think you have the right of doing what you want to, or need to, do. I also think she has the right of letting you know when she feels neglected. Work out a compromise.
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Semper Fi, brother! Oo-rah!
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Edited by Raptorkid24: 1/30/2015 9:35:19 PMI don't know much about PDST, but I don't think 7 hours constantly by yourself on a game is going to help you. Moderate yourself. Make sure you have enough time with your family. Socialising helps a lot with stress.
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I feel u man my wife started unplugging our Internet on me
