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Edited by I SLAY Z0MBIES:
1/31/2015 1:26:11 AM
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Thanks for the support. Too much negativity.
The negativity is too strong. Thanks for the positive feedback. Honestly didn't think i'd get this many responses.
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#Destiny
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I was in the same boat friend. I have one tour to Afghanistan and two purple hearts to show for it. This new normal I was told about is a bunch of bs, but I'm sure you're all to aware. Destiny helps me cope by taking my mind off my problems. I explained it to my girlfriend and she seemed to understand. Hope it works for you. Good luck friend.
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1 ReplySemper Fi. When you joined the Marine Corp. you made certain promises and swore an oath. Once a Marine, always a Marine. End of service does not terminate those promises or that oath. The same applies for when you decided to marry your wife. You made promises and took a vow. You should uphold them. Buying her nice things may not be what she's asking for or what she needs from you. If you could have an honest talk with her and agree not to argue, just talk, maybe you can work out a compromise. Make an agreement to spent X amount of time together so you can spend Y amount of time doing what you want.
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Oorah brother! Sounds to me like you're still fighting the good fight against your own demons I will say this though. It's all about balance. Of course you have the right to do things that make you happy, but she is with you because she wants to spend time with you. I'm sure she wants you to be happy, but you need to make her happy, brother. Play Destiny, but find a way to balance it with the important responsibilities and relationships in your life. The people that love us are the most important thing in our lives. So get your head outta your ass Marine, put down the controller, kiss that girl, and take her to a movie or some happy crap! Thank you for your service and sacrifice Semper Fidelis
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16 RepliesEdited by S373N: 1/30/2015 10:22:08 PMFirst of all your wife should come before a video game. The fact you feel like the game should come before her just because you are using it to "cope" as you say is a HUGE problem on your end. You need to talk. About everything you can. As often and as much as you can. PTSD is serious and obviously has your priorities all screwed up. You need professional help if everything you say is true. I suggest you get it before you find yourself alone. Material things only go so far, your wife wants your affection and attention not a freakin necklace or some pointless junk. You are supposedly a marine, i think you should act like one and handle you business the right way and that will not involve a video game or a freakin bottle.
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OIF vet myself with many of the same issues. The worthless hose beast I was married to maxed the credit cards, drained the bank accounts, and ran off with one of her ex boyfriends (and everything I'd ever owned) as soon as I got home from my deployment so I don't have to contend with the bitchy spouse issue. Anyone who has EVER deployed has at least heard that story... Destiny is my stress relief. It's about all I have to look forward to at the end of the day. If I had a woman in my life she'd get time allocated to her but honestly....single life is better for me. Then again I was married to a total bitch.
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Edited by onemoretry: 1/30/2015 10:50:39 PMMy wife absolutely hates my gaming regardless of game. I make double her income drive the crap your car work on the house on the weekends and I still get s*** for planning even a two or three hours a night. Not saying it's okay but I've come to terms with the fact that women in general are needy clingy and need more attention than men. Men Like us on the other hand just need someone to support us understand us and be there when it works for both of us. If you ask me women expect a relationship to mean every waking moment together and Men expect the relationship to be a partnership to improve both our lives reality lives somewhere in the middle. Sorry for the typos and lack of punctuation I'm using voice to text while in traffic stopped
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Edited by D1V1N1TY: 1/30/2015 10:49:56 PMA canuck checking in here. One of my fire team members is a marine. All armed forces members are heroes in my mind. Shit pay, poor work conditions, little individual recognition, and putting their lives and families on hold and constant threat of death for freedom. You're incredible people for doing what you do. I don't know a lot about PTSD other than it is a direct result of the sacrifices you made for us. I don't know the intimate details of your relationship with your spouse. I do know that you need to be honest with your self, with her, communicate, and have patience and understanding for each other. Keep fighting the darkness both IRL and in Destiny, Guardian.
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You just gotta find the balance. My wife cool about it, but make sure to choose her over the game A LOT. Also designate a day that you get to play without interruption.
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You are doing everything right as I see it. You're taking care of your buisiness, and enjoying video games to cope with a few problems, there's nothing wrong with it at all.
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Im in Korea but you marines call us Airforce secfo devil pigeons lol
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You got to make time for her no matter what or she is going to leave. If you love her and care for her, it will work out. I suggest date nights, movie nights, long walks, find a tv series, etc, something you can bond over. Give her some more of your time and talk to her. Sounds like you need her in your life or you would not have made this post. Good luck, take care!
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Semper fi devil dog, I have the same thing but also I cannot work because of injuries I suffered, what worked for me was that I started spending a little more time with my wife then played also got into a really good bible based church and it is better than therapy good luck.
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You're a goddam 'Murrucan hero for serving damn it! She's taking your freedom!
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I feel you man. I have horrible anxiety and shit going on in my life. I often play to escape reality. My wife hates the game and often when I get on she will find something for me to do lol.
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5 RepliesDump her, if she can't accept you for who you are, she's not worth it, you can get another Chick you're a soldier man
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The terminator
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Your mistake was quitting drinking.
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Oorah
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With women, you are always in the wrong.
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You're a man. Do what you want . 1 life man remember that.
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As long as you work and pay the bills you should be able to do what you want. But as long as you're in a committed relationship, you need to compromise. You honestly have to decide what you value more, your girlfriend or the video game. Best of luck to you
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You have to find a balance she's with you bc she likes spending time with you and when you play all the time she doesn't get that time with you
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Dude you have every right to play as long as you like but you need to see the fact that your wife is just concerned for you and scared that you might be shutting out the real world just take some time to let her know you are ok I promise crota will still be here waiting for your return
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2 RepliesI'm married, have a 9 month old, a 6 year old, and work a full time job. It is not selfish to take some time for yourself especially someone with you circumstances. The trick is finding a balance that is fair for everyone. Make sure you are putting in the quality time your lady needs. I usually wait till everyone is in bed then game until around 3/4 in the morning. Find your happy medium brother. Game on.
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I am a corpsman, green side of course 8404. Cant say i have personal expeiernce with ptsd but i can tell you this, if she feels like your shutting her out then its going to cause friction. If it were me and girl was mad about me spending too much on destiny I would try to meet her halfway. Keep playing destiny if it gives you peace of mind and the escape we all need from time to time. However dont push her out of your life, if your going to get better your going to need support, we all do.
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Spend time with her, then play. She is more important, but you should have time to yourself
