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Edited by I SLAY Z0MBIES:
1/31/2015 1:26:11 AM
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Thanks for the support. Too much negativity.
The negativity is too strong. Thanks for the positive feedback. Honestly didn't think i'd get this many responses.
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#Destiny
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You should look into a group called Team RWB (Red White &Blue). It's a great organization for returning Vets and could very well help you. I'm not a doctor so this is just my opinion. It sounds like it's a way to substitute one addiction for another. Stop drinking, more gaming. I'm a cancer patient (CML) who use to be very active and competitive, but because of my illness and surgeries can no longer do a lot of those things I once did. To help cope I turned to gaming and it became an addiction. Making yourself step away and focus on things that really matter such as friends, family, religion, ect is a better outlet then gaming. Just my opinion though. Thanks for serving!
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Bro.. man up. Realize that you have a life partner that wants to spend time with you. Spend time with her/him, outside of playing destiny. I'm a Marine Combat Vet as well. Same issues. Same joy from playing video games. Establish a balance of work/life/fun that is copacetic for everyone in your life. 2 years from now you probably wont be on Destiny. Where will she be?
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You've gotta find your happy medium bro. I too served in Afghanistan. (Army Infantry). I love Destiny and other video games but you need to comprise with your wife. Lets say you play 1 day a week for 7 hours THEN the rest of the week you settle for 2 1/2 hours. BUT the compromise is to make sure to do something profound for your wife at-least once a week. This is exactly what I do lol. I've been married 6 years, have a 3 year old girl, and moving into my 10th year in the Army. Remember.... Compromise. As far as drinking... You've just got to quit. I had severe problems for a while but they seemed to all disappear after I quit drinking. I realized that I was drinking to feel normal but instead it was causing more problems. Just remember that the people you love suffer too when you are hurting yourself with alcoholism. (P.S. I went to school for psychology and I am my units assistant E.O. rep., if you need to talk for-real, PM me. Good Luck brother) -SSG Hicks-
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WTF is there to do in destiny for 7 hours straight?
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Thanks for your service sir :)
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Hey man I can't give you advice because I haven't stepped in your shoes. But from a party that has never done what you've done, I can step back and say she doesn't understand what you're going through. Using videogames to cope with ptsd seems a whole lot better than alcohol or passing another threshold. In my opinion, you aren't wrong.
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Listen to me devil dog, I'm a Marine Vet too with PTSD. I have to agree that gaming helps to put me in a good mood and making new friends through Destiny has been a plus. Having said that you need balance in your life, and 7 hours of non-stop playing isn't good for that balance. Plus you need to take care of your girl devil dog, if you don't she will get tired of you and let someone else take care of her. The game is not going anywhere.
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Tell her if she wants to leave then go ahead if your paying all the bills and buying her all the nice things then she'll realize that she need you more then you need her. Play on man. Cause she ain't going no where. Without you she won't be getting nice things anymore or have a place to stay since your paying the bills.
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First off thank you for your service marine. Army vet here, Just try to stay positive and take it day by day . I am not in your shoes and probably wouldn't give the best advice. But try to find a happy medium and moving forward. Things will work out just got to stay positive and keep moving forward
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i got that shit too man. it sucks. i say play the shit out of destiny and sit her down and let her know shes the one and you need her help in understanding your situation and being mad/sour to you would only make things more difficult for you. may the light be with you.
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1 ReplyEdited by Virginsoft: 1/30/2015 8:17:07 PMStep 1 point finger Step 2 grab your "package" Step 3 shake said "package" at her Step 4 loudly proclaim I have a d!ck so I make the rules Step 5 kick back relax and play destiny because after steps 3 and 4 she will have surely left you so grab ye old tube sock and brace for the coming sadness
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Edited by jmacELITE2305: 1/30/2015 8:16:13 PMJust tell her it's somthing you love doing but you do and will always love her more and put her first. Mention to her that it helps you cope with you drinking alcohol and you have worked hard for this.
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Thanks for your service. I am not trying to sound rude but 7 hours a day is a lot. Its a great coping mechanism but not a healthy one. I am married and a father. It is extremely difficult to balance everything in life. Work, money, kids, wife, video games ....... Lots going on. You have to find a good balance that works for you and your family. Being a man and provider is way more than a paycheck and food on the table. Good luck man.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with playing destiny in moderation, but you need to be careful and make sure you're not just replacing alcohol with destiny as means to fill a void. If you use it as an escape, I would encourage you to look into getting to the root of what is making you feel the need to escape. It may or may not be related to your trauma. Since you are already doing talk therapy related to your PTSD, I think you're already on the right track.
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You should do whatever makes you feel better. Research MDMA and shrooms for treating PTSD. It sounds weird if you haven't heard of it before but just research it at least.
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Thank you for your service, and I'm sorry for the baggage you had to take home with you. It sounds like you're very focused, and like to be mentally rewarded quickly. Alcohol, video games, provide an instant change in state of mind and feeling, etc. If that's what you want to do, you do have every right to do it. But doing anything for 7 hours straight is unhealthy for you, and massively unhealthy for your relationship. I think you should aim to cut a couple hours off your regular play time, maybe take a break in the middle or cut off earlier, and spend some time with your partner. Or even if you can't immediately do something with her, then do something for her so she knows that you didn't just get bored and stop playing, but you were thinking about her and wanted to dedicate some time. Best of luck.
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Invent time travel, go back in time and just don't go there. [spoiler]No one made you go.[/spoiler]
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Fiest off let me state that i dont suffer feom PTSD, but after my first pump all I did for the first 2 months was drink heavily almost every night. I decided to stop eventually because I realized how destructive it is. At the same time it's just not the same being back, and a lot of times I feel no sense of accomplishment being in garrison. that being said, I've picked up quite a few hobbies that I enjoy, such as vaping, paintballing, working on my car, and basically anything I can besides drinking and playing video games. Just shuffling it around gives you some more fullfilment. My unit also had something called "Operation Adrenaline Rush" funded through the MCCS, see if they have something like that with your guys.
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2 RepliesWhy is this even posted here?
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4 RepliesGet a hold of some Psychedelic Mushrooms & take what Terrance McKenna would call a heroic dose 3.5g or more. I know it's not the norm but for people going through PTSD or significant tragedies it can be a miracle cure to help balance out your brain. Or if you know anyone who can get some quality mdma it can do similar things in a lesser fashion. Good luck stay strong.
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First, before anything else, thank you for your service. No matter what else you take away from this post or any others, I want you to know that you have my gratitude for standing up and defending me, my wife, and my two year old daughter. Words cannot describe what their safety means to me. I also congratulate you on finding a distraction from your alcoholism. It can't be easy, especially with your PTSD. I've never served, but I've got my own share of problems ( Bipolar II and PTSD ) and I find that playing something like Destiny helps. Finding an escape [i]helps[/i]. This post comes without judgement, but as a suggestion in answer to your question. You've done well to support your family, despite the challenges you face. Seven hours of escape takes you away from them. It also takes you away from your family, though. I've run into similar issues during my darker moments. Please, never think that you are alone. The suggestion I mentioned before is this: work on changing your mind set. It's the same advice given to me by my own therapist. Destiny provides you with support and escape. Couldn't your wife provide you with her own unique ( and possibly more powerful ) brand of support and protection? Could she not be a source of safety and refuge during the darker times? I don't think you're wrong, but I don't think she is, either. A new balance, one you find together, could be a healthy and amazing discovery. I urge you find that balance. I don't know your wife, but it sounds like she cares about your relationship, and therefor you. I hope you can find that previous balance together If you've read any of these words, you have my appreciation. If you've finished this post, know that you have my gratitude for even considering what I have to say. You have my thanks and that of my family for your service and sacrifice, and no matter what your demons, I hope you can walk tall, knowing that it has not been in vain. Good luck, Marine.
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Thank you for your service, I don't have any advice, but good luck!
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As long as you make her feel like she is your first priority. She is probably feeling insecure that the game is being chosen over her all the time.
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[quote]I honestly had to sleep on the couch last night because ive been playing so much. I pay the bills. I put food on the table. I buy her nice things. If i want to play destiny for 7 hours straight I should have every right to. It is something i enjoy and i work too damn hard to have her tell me that im pushing her away by doing something I enjoy. Edit: I have PTSD and Alcohol Use Disorder. I recently stopped drinking and play Destiny (and drink caffeine) to cope. Also, i am medicated and participate in talk therapy. Am i in the wrong? Edit: To everyone who is saying i am a fake... here is short video made by my company in afghanistan on our first deployment. there is even an HBO special about the operation we took part in. its titled marjah marines and it can be found on you tube. Edit: Thank you for all the positive advice and feedback. PTSD is a powerful disorder but support from total strangers goes a long way. To the people who think im throwing a pity party, i am truely sorry you view service members with such low regards. To all my fellow vets and service members, keep fighting. Whether your in country or back at home fighting the silent fight. Semper Fi.[/quote] go to the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs for help. www.va.gov. They can help you with your issues.
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Like a few others have suggested try gaming with her. I told my gf before we got together that I gamed to destress and she mostly leaves me alone when I'm "in the zone." There are just some nights you have to take a break though, it happens. Unless shes just completely evil she'll appreciate you taking a break to watch a few episodes of something or a movie before you go back to the struggle. Thank you for your time in the service though sir. It is very much appreciated.
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Thank you for your service.
