I don't agree with a lot of things when it comes to the military and I also have no clue what ptsd is like, however you sound like you have an addictive personality, I do too...I try to guide that addiction towards multiple things, like working out, which you can do with your significant other, get some bikes and go mountain biking.. I mean if you really like this girl why not make time? You can always set a schedule like Thursday's I want to play for 7 hours straight and don't bother me, but Friday's I will be with you for 7 hours straight and won't even think about the game..

So far, im not sure why a lot of people are complaining about this guys post. Personally, this is the best post on here because its so personal. Every other post on the destiny forums is just a complete whine fest. This is just pure emotion and someone seeking help and everyone on here is supporting this guy and giving him advice and that's what a community is about and it's amazing. Personally man, u should probably talk with ur wife and give her more time, but i wish u and ur family the best of luck. I hope u cope well with PTSD and find happiness in ur marriage, and most of all, thank u for ur service, as with anyone else who was in the military.

I agree

Hey brother, I myself have gone through similar experiences. I'm out now but same deal. Multiple tours, heavy drinking, marital issues...been there bro. If you're on Xbox one and need another devil to talk to, hit me up and we can play together. I use games to cope too. It gets easier. Always beside you.

I fully support the U.S. military because without the U.S., we would only have communism.

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All advice you need is this: USE ME IN THE CRUCIBLE IF OWNAGE IS YOU GOAL...

Playing Destiny as therapy for PTSD is okay. What you need to do though is discuss that with your wife and find a good middle ground for how to balance your need for gaming to unplug and her need for her husband's presence in her life. Communication is going to be key here. And 7 hours straight is probably okay once in a while, but if it's 3-4+ days a week that's probably excessive. There does come a point where you're no longer playing as therapy and instead you're just avoiding life like if you were drinking until you passed out each night. It would probably help to sit down with a therapist that specializes in PTSD to help you and your wife hash it out. I hope you two can figure it out. And thank you sir, for your service to this country.

Tell her that your trying hard to make her happy and keep the stress off you. If your doing everything with ptsd you deserve alone time to keep that stress off... My mom was a marine in desert storm and she's got bad ptsd. Unless she gets up and help out with bills or food then she has no right to complain. Good luck man and keep pulling through :)

Brother of my bond listen enjoying the game is one thing if its stress releving but dnt use it as a crutch itll only make it worse . U need to get out wats in ur system not to strangers but to fellow soldiers. Fresh air and long walks away from people. Remain Always faithful bro

Devil dog get a hold of yourself The Gunny sends

I have been filling up my mute list......nom nom nom nom.......Oh and OP, keep fighting the fight

If this is serious: You're replacing alcohol with Destiny. Addiction is addiction. Try and set limitations, 7 hours straight is far too much. Why I doubt this is serious: I know a few people with PTSD and a game like Destiny would not be something they go to. Flashbacks would be guaranteed. If this is a troll: Die.

I'm on ps4 and if you ever need to vent bud you can always talk to me 10 year vet from navy our uniforms may have be different but we are all brothers and sisters remember your core values and never forget you are not alone Psn cjnusn Semper Fidelis Semper Fortis

I can enlist my dog in the military? What!?!?! Vet!

Fellow Guardian, I appreciate your service, brother. I think it's awesome you're finding positive outlets to put yourself into. Destiny is a HUGE stress reliever for me as well. My wife understands that ... to a degree :) If your's doesn't then tell the twat to get out of your face or get out of your house (it's not about the game ... it's about the fact she can't see it makes you happy). SIDE NOTE: Might I also recommend a healthy dose of exercise. It is by far my biggest stress reliever. No matter how hard life pushes ... the weights are always ready to push back twice as hard. They never cheat you, lie to you, ignore you. They're waiting for you right now. Go get you some gains, man. Then your wife may still not like your gaming, but she won't be able to stay mad long cause ... well ... damn them glutes!!!

A game is just a game man. It's there to enjoy yourself whenever you have available free time. Whenever it starts to effect your lifestyle or personal life, that's when you know something must be wrong. It's a good sign that you should probably stop. Good luck man! Thank you for your service.

What you suffer from is called addiction. You are most definitely in the wrong. Take it from someone who has been in the same spot as you... You need to learn to play in moderation.. Sometimes a woman needs more than "nice things".. They need the one they love to be a part of their lives... Reading what you did is exactly what someone who suffers from addiction does.. They give up one thing (alcohol) and find something else to help them cope with their addiction (Destiny). I almost lost my wife and kids over my addiction to WoW... I played 12-16 hours a day, 7 days a week, for around 18 months... It was horrible... It took her packing a bag and heading out the door for me to wake up and realize everything I was losing... Dont make the same mistake I did.. You will regret it.. I am glad I woke up before she was gone for good! You say you suffer from PTSD which means that you should be seeing someone about it.. The next time you go, discuss addiction as well. I would say that PTSD and addiction go hand in hand with each other... You experience all of that shit, come home and have trouble coping with it, so you become addicted to something to help you cope.. Talk to your counselor and have them help you out before you lose someone you love over a $60 video game... It definitely isnt worth it.. She will be around long after this game is gone... Unless you screw it up.. Then you will end up losing both her and the game eventually.

Hey man, I am an Army Infantry Vet with 2 deployments to afgahnistan. Hang in there man I use Destiny instead of drinking as well, and I'm married with two kids...it's about finding that perfect balance the family can handle. If you are on psn (don't remember if you said what console) add me.

First off, thank you for your service. My advice would be spend your time with your wife, she will be happy and allow you more time to play. Happy wife, happy life.

hey man, from a fellow brotha, stay strong. keep fighting the good fight.

First off I'd like to thank you for your service regardless of where we both might reside. I'm sorry for what you've been through and I can only imagine it's not easy. Is there no compromise here? Are you not showing her love and attention at all or is it closer to a jealousy issue. First thing I would do is talk with her. Ask her what's wrong. Try to get down to the core reason for why she feels the way she does. Once you both understand what the problem is from there you can work together on a solution. You both have to be honest or both of you will hold resentment for each other and the relationship will end anyway. So when trying to find the problem and while discussing solutions be honest. Once you've identified the problem and have discussed possible solutions, pick the least objectionable solution for both of you. Be open about stuff she might do that might bug you as well. I'm not saying stoop to her level if she's being childish or anything, but in a relationship both halves of the party have to be taken into a count, if she can't handle what you have to say then it's pretty obvious where she stands. If you feel or if your partner feels this can not be worked out and she is not budging or neither of you can compromise then I would suggest a separation (on certain terms). It's unhealthy for both parties to be in a relationship that neither want nor can work out. The only time I feel like this is not an option is if young children are involved. If that's the case I would try hardest until they are of age to move out before a separation. I hope this helps you in these times. I do not claim to be an amazing couples therapist, or that I have all the experience (currently 23). Have a good day!

First I would like to say thanks for serving in the military. Now if you should have the right to play for seven hours straight, then she should have the right to complain! Each person on earth has a jealous meter built on the inside of us and what she is trying to communicate is her needs aren't being met. Men and women are different! Men are physically immodest, while women are modest. Now emotionally it's the other way around! The top need of a women is SECURITY. She doesn't feel secure in the area of her emotions because CERTAIN needs can only be met by you. What your communicating to her is, your not my highest priority! Before you I can get to you, this comes first. Then this comes next... etc... I am a married man with two babies and one on the way. What helps me to keep my properties straight is this one statement I heard from marriage counseling. "All points dissolve at midnight." Whatever you do today cannot be used for tomorrow. Yesterday love stinks when you try and store it up for tomorrow.

Semper Fi

I was in the same boat friend. I have one tour to Afghanistan and two purple hearts to show for it. This new normal I was told about is a bunch of bs, but I'm sure you're all to aware. Destiny helps me cope by taking my mind off my problems. I explained it to my girlfriend and she seemed to understand. Hope it works for you. Good luck friend.