You have to perform one of the above acts or take on one of the above traits. But which one is the least emotionally/ physically scarring? You decide.
For all of these you would be fully awake, and with no anaesthetics or painkillers. No surgery/ therapy etc. can be had after the act.
If you don't have a child or one of the characteristics needed for something on the list, just imagine you do.
Edit: the dead relative has been dead just long enough to stink and rot (the occasional chunk of flesh will fall off), but still be recognisable. You must look at them while you 'do your business' with them.
For every time you vote and don't reply, I'll burn down a child.