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Edited by Otthild:
7/15/2014 4:09:21 AM
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Flood, it's my turn for advice
Recently I got diagnosed with depression. Things have been, for lack of a better word, hard. Since that got pinned on me, I struggle to find happiness in my daily activities. I no longer find joy in tormenting all of you and my coworkers.
As I get closer to my due date, I notice my boyfriend getting more and more distant. He won't answer my messages or hold me like he used to. Usually I'm not all touchy, feely, and all that fgt shit, but for some reason it's really starting to bother me.
Anyways, I feel forgotten and cast aside. I told my boyfriend at the start of this relationship that if he was going to pull this shit he can go find someone else. But since I'm a bit attached right now (having his kid, yadayadayada), I can't seem to leave. Don't get my wrong guys, I love the -blam!-er. I just need more... attention, affection, and hell at least some acknowledgement. I've talked to him several times about this, but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears.
What would you do in this situation?
TL;DR: Otthild's ranting and wants advice on how to deal with a negligent significant other.
EDIT: Baby is going out for adoption.
EDIT #2: Guys, I have talked to him. I've talked to him a lot. He always brushes me off.
EDIT #3: Yes, I will be going to counseling for postpartum.
EDIT #4: Thank you for the advice guys. I'll try to apply it the best I can. Also, thank you for the limited amount of troll responses.
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4 RepliesEdited by DontHateTheBest: 7/14/2014 4:05:52 PMI'm very sorry about what you are going through. You seem like an amazing person that shouldn't have to go through something like this. If you ever need anything or someone to talk to I will always provide an ear to listen and help with as much as i possibly can. I've been through hell and back, I can't say I know what you're going through but I've gone through shit most people could never handle. Stay strong and don't let it over take you. My advice for you right now is that for your boyfriend, some people will never learn how to show attention and affection towards someone. From my own knowledge from past relationships and experiences that it will not get any better. It will most likely get worse with acknowledging you. Most people always keep hoping something will change instead of reading the signs and end up wasting a huge and important portion of their life away. I don't know if the reason he could be distancing himself is due to the baby but he may be trying to send you signs that he doesn't want "this" anymore and is too scared to say anything. I'm not going to give you the treatment of say you need to talk to him because I believe that you've talked to him and I know talking to someone doesn't always work because they brush it off or don't even tend to listen.
