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Edited by Otthild:
7/15/2014 4:09:21 AM
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Flood, it's my turn for advice
Recently I got diagnosed with depression. Things have been, for lack of a better word, hard. Since that got pinned on me, I struggle to find happiness in my daily activities. I no longer find joy in tormenting all of you and my coworkers.
As I get closer to my due date, I notice my boyfriend getting more and more distant. He won't answer my messages or hold me like he used to. Usually I'm not all touchy, feely, and all that fgt shit, but for some reason it's really starting to bother me.
Anyways, I feel forgotten and cast aside. I told my boyfriend at the start of this relationship that if he was going to pull this shit he can go find someone else. But since I'm a bit attached right now (having his kid, yadayadayada), I can't seem to leave. Don't get my wrong guys, I love the -blam!-er. I just need more... attention, affection, and hell at least some acknowledgement. I've talked to him several times about this, but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears.
What would you do in this situation?
TL;DR: Otthild's ranting and wants advice on how to deal with a negligent significant other.
EDIT: Baby is going out for adoption.
EDIT #2: Guys, I have talked to him. I've talked to him a lot. He always brushes me off.
EDIT #3: Yes, I will be going to counseling for postpartum.
EDIT #4: Thank you for the advice guys. I'll try to apply it the best I can. Also, thank you for the limited amount of troll responses.
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I thought you had seemed down and distant lately. Sorry to hear things aren't going well for you. My girlfriend went through depression a few years ago. It's tough to beat, but not impossible. It just needs more than one silver bullet (and it's not a quick thing, although perhaps yours is due to your pregnancy). I'd say talking to your boyfriend would be a good first step. Hopefully he's mature enough to realize that you may be acting different, but it both may be pregnancy based and, even if it's not, it means you need help and nurturing. I'd also say you'll need to find little ways to help pick yourself up. My girlfriend used a book of inspirational quotes and motivators, and found being out and about (walking/studying) helped. (If she ever reads this, I hope she doesn't get mad that I'm disclosing this. I love you, babe!) So perhaps look for things an situations that help and try to stay in those. I'm no expert on the subject, I am just a guy who has seen somebody who he cares a lot about go through it. It's tough to get through, and tough to be on the sidelines seeing somebody go though it and see somebody you love down so often with no real way to help. Just do your best and keep fighting. You're young, have a long life ahead of you to improve things, and have people who care about you. Don't even think about giving all that up just because things are bad now.
