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Edited by Otthild:
7/15/2014 4:09:21 AM
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Flood, it's my turn for advice
Recently I got diagnosed with depression. Things have been, for lack of a better word, hard. Since that got pinned on me, I struggle to find happiness in my daily activities. I no longer find joy in tormenting all of you and my coworkers.
As I get closer to my due date, I notice my boyfriend getting more and more distant. He won't answer my messages or hold me like he used to. Usually I'm not all touchy, feely, and all that fgt shit, but for some reason it's really starting to bother me.
Anyways, I feel forgotten and cast aside. I told my boyfriend at the start of this relationship that if he was going to pull this shit he can go find someone else. But since I'm a bit attached right now (having his kid, yadayadayada), I can't seem to leave. Don't get my wrong guys, I love the -blam!-er. I just need more... attention, affection, and hell at least some acknowledgement. I've talked to him several times about this, but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears.
What would you do in this situation?
TL;DR: Otthild's ranting and wants advice on how to deal with a negligent significant other.
EDIT: Baby is going out for adoption.
EDIT #2: Guys, I have talked to him. I've talked to him a lot. He always brushes me off.
EDIT #3: Yes, I will be going to counseling for postpartum.
EDIT #4: Thank you for the advice guys. I'll try to apply it the best I can. Also, thank you for the limited amount of troll responses.
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Don't give up the bby, bby.[spoiler]I suggest doing something to take your mind off it all. Watch a good TV show like Breaking Bad, or the X-Files. Maybe play some video games? Distractions help to ease the burden at times.[/spoiler]
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33 RepliesThere are kids starving in Africa kids even starving in America. There are the homeless some of the nicest people on earth. These people don't feel depressed they don't fell sad and hate there life so quit being a bitch no one cares about your stupid boyfriend and your relationship problems.
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[quote]What would you do in this situation?[/quote]fap[quote]EDIT: Baby is going out for adoption.[/quote]: (
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Big surprise the guy who knocked you up is probably gunna skip out on you. I'm not meaning this as a direct personal attack but come on.
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5 RepliesI know you're wanting attention because you openly admit to it. But tell me. Your boyfriend also visits this site. Is it your intention for him to stumble upon this thread and see that you have enlightened the entirety of the Flood to his and your personal problems? If so, what is this supposed to accomplish? Enlightenment and advice is one thing, but there's a reason you seek that out privately and not in front of the person you need advice about. I'm just confused as to your motives is all.
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YouTube da13thsun
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1 Reply[quote]EDIT: Baby is going out for adoption.[/quote]
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Suggestion: Self Termination.
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I had this happen to me. No one ever changes back :(
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Edited by Noviscura: 7/15/2014 4:42:43 AMI'm not going to act like I know what to do, and I'm not going to make some sort of joke because I know this is a serious issue going on in your life... All I'm going to do is say a sentence and make a sad face I'm really sorry you have to go through this... just do what'll make [i]you[/i] happy :(
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5 RepliesHow long ago did you decide on adoption? Because if this was a recent decision, maybe, just maybe, he might change his mind once the baby comes and things could change.
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2 RepliesNot judging you for your choice, I'm genuinely curious, why are you offering the baby up for adoption?
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I'm terribly sorry this has all sprung upon you. :( I know I'm not as active as my fellow floodians, but I hope it means something when I say that everything will pan out ok. My closest friend was diagnosed with depression, and she didn't get treatment until a week before she took her own life. I hope you don't do the same, and I hope your other half realises that he's got something good going on for him, a chance to make a family. Good luck with your child and your depression. ^-^
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2 RepliesWhen a guy dates a girl for a while, it's exhausting to devote all the attention and compliments to the girl like when they first met. Guys tend to lay off the compliments and attention because it's pretty much implied at this point that they care about you. If you "bug" him less, then maybe he'll appreciate your more rare attempts to communicate. And I know you've tried talking to him, but have you tried to do so in a manner that is appropriate? ("(Name), recently I've been feeling really depressed and disappointed because we haven't been communicating with each other as much and aren't as intimate. I love you a lot and love every moment I get to be around you and talk to you. I was hoping we could improve...yadda yadda yadda" The video posted could be very relevant though lol
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1 ReplyLet him pee in your butt.
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I wish the best for you and your child.
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she need some love and affection dis Black Forest cake.
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Edited by Nohjja: 7/15/2014 8:48:32 AMListen to the new Volumes album. It is so [i]fu[/i]c[i]king[/i] [i]awesome.[/i] Real talk.
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As someone with depression: I have abandonment issues and cannot help you.
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Kick him out.
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Edited by Raptorkid24: 7/15/2014 3:38:55 PMEhh...I ain't got much to know... You guys wanna try and spend like a little trip together, just as a couple? Maybe talk stuff over in a more calming environment, or just kinda relax in some peaceful wood/beach/desert/ tundra/ nearest moderately isolated wilderness? Or perhaps just find something you guys both really like doing and do it more? I don't really know, but good luck with things :)
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I was the same with my wife when she was pregnant with our first daughter a few years ago. I can't explain why I became so distant with her but ultimately she confronted me about it and I got my shit together. If your man won't pull through for you than I think it will be in your best interest to ditch him.
