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1/22/2014 9:39:21 PM
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Spanking: Child abuse or discipline
I just recently read an article on the internet and it said 86% of people in the study were spanked but only 68% will do it to their children. This obviously means that people are beginning to see spanking as child abuse (or at the very least a poor way to discipline), so I'm curious to see what you think. I was spanked as a child for doing really bad things and quite honestly I turned out to be a very productive member of society. I get good grades, I go to the gym daily, I volunteer for a lot of different disaster relief trips among other things, so I don't see how it adversely affected me in any way.
Will I spank my children? Probably, but I will only do it if they are doing something really really bad. It will be an absolute last resort that I won't want to use in any way.
Also, should parents be allowed to spank their children within reason, or should it be against the law?
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2 RepliesIf you think it's abuse, you've really got to be [i]butthurt[/i].
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5 RepliesEdited by Psy: 1/22/2014 11:43:12 PMThe occasional smacked bottom doesn't hurt anyone, if you do something wrong and you mum/dad smacks you on the arse that isn't child abuse. Anyone who cries child abuse clearly needs to be hit with a paddle, belt, brick or plank of wood. [b]That[/b] is what you can consider child abuse, but only in a loose way. An open hand smack through the trousers is and should still be a perfectly acceptable form of discipline. If I got put on the naughty step and a kid I'd have laughed until I pissed myself. Time outs, Naughty Step and all the other new age bollocks is a joke and is it any wonder that the younger generations are turning out to be little shitheads? *Please don't misread that as 'Back in tha good ol' days'* It means that I have yet to meet more than three children born in the 2000s that shows any respect for their parents or authority figures. You have Yolo, Swag and attitude rather than hard work and discipline. Good one baby boomers, you all got soft after you finished shitting out children. This isn't a generalisation, but speaking from what I saw in the lower years of my school as I was leaving/heading into sixth form. The lower down the year groups you got, the worse the behaviour was. My year wasn't perfect, but the nasty sods could be counted on your fingers. The number of year 8s (13-14 year olds) that were being excluded, sent to detention and had the police sent out for was about 20-30. Bad year? Maybe, except the year below them were just as bad. And the year below that arrived after I left, but judging from the number of veteran teachers bailing out I don't think they were a class of angels. Anyway, I have rambled from the point. You should be allowed to smack your kid on the arse, just enough so it stings but not until they are black and blue. If they have a tantrum in a supermarket - wallop. Tantrum over. It's farcial to say it's child abuse and there have been a few cases of parents sent to -blam!-ing jail for smacking their kids and the poor bastards sent off to care homes. So that is them sent down the drain for the rest of their lives. A whole family destroyed by the nanny state! Good Game, Good Game. And yet, do they stop things like Baby P? Victoria Climbe? Nah, that's just unreasonable. They should get a 6 figure salary at their next job rather than being nailed to the door of the house where the child they were supposed to be protecting was beaten to death over the course of months. o.e tl;dr Spanking is fine, It isn't child abuse. It's a harsh form of discipline that should be used sparingly, not as a 'You sneezed, time to be beaten bloody' punishment [b]That[/b] is child abuse.
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I was spanked all the time as a child due to my misbehavior. Now that I'm 19, I have had no trouble with the law and have decided to better myself by working for a police department. I thank my parents for being stern as their actions molded me into a respectful and good person
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I think it is a stupid way to enforce the rules. Inflicting pain on a child to enforce the rules is downright illogical.
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5 RepliesPain != discipline. It just makes the kids resent whoever hurt them.
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Edited by Progo: 1/23/2014 3:12:50 AMIt entirely depends on the parent. Any form of discipline can be bad if it's not consistent. My parents never changed the penalties for break the rules, and being defiant after a verbal warning [i]always[/i] led to a smack on the butt. Why do I think it is important? Because some kids, like myself when I was 6, are nuts. They will not listen until they have been reminded who's boss. [spoiler]My sauce: I'm a straight A college student who has not hurt anyone intentionally since I was 9[/spoiler]
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2 Replies......
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Discipline.
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I don't agree with it but I don't view it as abuse either.
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It can be abuse if done improperly. But likewise, if done properly, it can be very beneficial to the child. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
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If you think its abuse then you're an idiot.
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If you need to spank a child, you have failed as a parent. I will always see it as abuse. I've never had to hit my brothers to teach them or gain compliance.
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1 ReplyI don't believe the simple act of spanking is child abuse. HOWEVER, I think there are better ways to raise your children than fear of physical discipline. If you've reached the point where you have to physically do something to punish your child, you're a long way down the wrong road already.
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2 RepliesIf you can't think of more creative ways to punish your kids other than hitting them, then don't ever become a parent.
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I think it depends. I certainly see it as extreme, and I'd certainly see it as abusive if it left marks, but so long as the child has done something that merits such a punishment, I don't think it's my place to interfere.
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That little bitch straightened up real quick.
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Its discipline. I got spanked when I was little and I made [i] sure [/i] that it wouldn't happen again because I was terrified of my mom. Its abuse when the parents beat their kids as if they were fighting them.
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Put them in a cage and stab them with a bamboo stick.
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I got the belt or a paddle. I won't be doing that to my kids.
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If your kid is acting a fool, spank him. As long as there is a reason. If you're spanking them for jumping around and doing what kids do then that's overboard. Not abuse but overboard, you have to let a child play and use the energy they have. If you punish them for doing that, it can damage them in the future.
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Ive felt the belt. So i see nothing wrong with it. It doesnt hurt so much that i would consider it as abuse, and the pain goes away in like 10 seconds.
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3 RepliesIs it over the skin or are their pants on? I think light taps over their clothing is fine, it will make them feel ashamed of what they have done. But hard whacks over bare skin is something that I don't like.
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Nothin wrong with that!
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7 RepliesIs this a serious question?
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Edited by Siffera: 1/22/2014 9:59:35 PMIt depends on the reasons for doing it, and how much/hard to spank them. Some kids don't listen to words or think of the consequences of their actions. To some kids, words have no weight behind them because they don't notice or just disregard how it affects them. The same can not be said for spanking. They can't just block out the pain.
