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12/6/2012 7:39:33 PM
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How a Bully Saved my Life
I used to be a pretty nerdy kid back in high school. I was into playing video games and not sports, not working out, dressing poorly and being awkward and shy around girls. Being hopeless like this of course a bully took notice of me and began to harass me. He would call me names and shove me down and push me around. It was like torture.
Anyway I got tired of his crap so I started working out, flirting with girls, getting into sports, and improving the quality of my life a ton. I began to finally live life and if not for that bully I would still probably a skinny nerd playing video games all day. I am glad that bully entered my life.
I know bullies get a lot of hate in the media when they say "oh they are killing our children" when bullies are just a normal part of life and growing up and facing adversity. So I just wanted to put a positive spin on bullying and how it builds character and toughness.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV Yes insult my intelligence and call me a troll. That makes it all better. [/quote] I shouldn't have to do this, but screw it. Let me explain what I mean. Bullies make kids feel hopeless, powerless, and desperate. When a person feels this way, they react badly to provocation. Their desperation causes them to act irrationally. So when a threatening bully comes along and provokes them, they usually do one of two things. A) succumb to it completely (due to learned helplessness) or, B) react against it decisively and preemptively (due to the fight-or-flight instinct which is triggered out of proportion to what's actually happening, again due to learned helplessness) The bully is not responsible for their victim's specific decision to slam them with a baseball bat, but they are responsible for creating the psychological conditions that led them to resort to extreme violence. This is why people do not feel bad for bullies. They are not blameless. They bring it upon themselves. Didn't your mom ever tell you not to play with fire? You never know when it might burn you. [Edited on 12.06.2012 2:23 PM PST]
