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8/19/2012 3:47:05 PM
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Who's in the right? Me or my mother?
So, not too long ago, I decided to have a pizza for lunch. I retrieved the pizza from the freezer. I put it next to the chopping board (I like peppers on my pizza). I started to dice some green peppers when my mother walks in and turns the oven on. She then said, "Hurry up 'cus the oven's on". I chuckled and said, "Well turn the oven off then". So she then responded, "Just hurry the hell up or stop being so -blam!- lazy and turn it off yourself".
I turned to her with an expression mixed between anger and confusion. I asked her what the hell was with the attitude. She shouted at me and told me not to speak to her like that. I told her to drop the damned attitude and I wouldn't. She picked up my frozen pizza, put it back in the freezer and said, "If you want pizza you can buy your own". I carried on chopping my peppers and a few minutes later she came back with the pizza and stood next to me. I turned to her and asked what she wanted. "What? I don't get a thank you for bringing you the pizza back?" was her response. I scoffed and said, "Sorry, I didn't realise I'm supposed to be grateful when you act your age".
I put my pizza in the oven with the added peppers and sat down in the living room. Another few minutes passed and she walked in and said, "No matter what we argue about, you shouldn't talk to me like that. I'm your mother". I told her, "You may be the reason I'm here, but I'm not going to inherently respect you. I am grateful for what I have but it doesn't mean I respect you at all. You argue with me, dad and gan-gan; it isn't us. You make your own stress and anger. Lose the attitude, calm the hell down and then I'll show you the respect you want".
So Flood, whose side are you on?
[Edited on 08.19.2012 8:00 AM PDT]
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Reading through alot of these replies, anyone that says OP is in the right sounds like a [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0U5R4KzHHNA&feature=player_detailpage#t=388s]brat[/url]. One big messed up generation weve got here.
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Good lord you sound exactly like my brother. Anyways it sounds like that fight was totally unavoidable. You both didn't show each other any respect. Both of you didn't help the situation.
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The OP is in the right, easily, without question. It's annoying to think that just because you're a parent, you're allowed to treat your kid anyway you want. Yes, she provides for him, but in this moment, she is being a complete illogical jerk. Parents aren't [i]always[/i] right and this is one of those cases.
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My parents are like that, except the argument (even though I'm usually the rational one) end up with threats of kicking me out of the house and going to foster care where I'll apparently get s exually abused. I just learned to stop bothering to argue with them until I move out, things go so much more smoothly.
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You're both being immature and disrespectful.
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I'm siding with your mother on this. While she may have went too far and been acting crazy, all women are crazy and she was probably in a bad mood to begin with. Your whole comment about the over in the beginning started it all and if you had just not been a smart-ass this probably would not have happened.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] gruntyII7 It sounds to me like you thought you had some pretty good comebacks and thought you'd share them on the flood.[/quote] I can't say I saw any.
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It sounds to me like you thought you had some pretty good comebacks and thought you'd share them on the flood.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] xNiGhThAwKx19 Your mother's. You sound very ungrateful. Did you ever consider that trying to provide for you is the cause of the stress? Jesus show a little a compassion.[/quote]
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I agree with what you think. But personally i would've just said "okay, thanks" when she brought the pizza back and just dropped it there. A lot of times it's just a waste of energy to get in an argument.
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Wow, TC sounds like someone who prolapsed.
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You were in the right, why would she even want to turn off the oven? Aren't you supposed to pre-heat it before you put stuff in?
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Covenant Crates [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Covenant Crates [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight She knew what I meant.[/quote] That's not the point. "Son the machine is running hurry up and put your clothes in." "Why don't you turn the washing machine off then." He knows what I mean. Doesn't mean I can say it however the hell I want to him. [/quote] How many times do I have to tell you that what I said and the way said it wouldn't be considered disrespectful in my household? [/quote] And what you said afterwards wasn't disrespectful either, right? [quote] "What the hell is your problem mother? Drop your damn attitude and I wont speak to you like this. Sorry, I didn't realize I'm supposed to thank you when you act your age. You may be the reason I'm here, but I'm not going to inherently respect you. I am grateful for what I have but it doesn't mean I respect you at all. You argue with me, dad and gan-gan; it isn't us. You make your own stress and anger. Lose the attitude, calm the hell down and then I'll show you the respect you want".[/quote] You're a brat. I'm done arguing with you. [/quote] What I said was totally justified when you consider how she acted.
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You are. Your mother sounds like she abuses her authority over you like there's no tomorrow. [Edited on 08.19.2012 1:42 PM PDT]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] xNiGhThAwKx19 Your mother's. You sound very ungrateful. Did you ever consider that trying to provide for you is the cause of the stress? Jesus show a little a compassion.[/quote]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] xNiGhThAwKx19 Your mother's. You sound very ungrateful. Did you ever consider that trying to provide for you is the cause of the stress? Jesus show a little a compassion.[/quote]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Covenant Crates [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight She knew what I meant.[/quote] That's not the point. "Son the machine is running hurry up and put your clothes in." "Why don't you turn the washing machine off then." He knows what I mean. Doesn't mean I can say it however the hell I want to him. [/quote] How many times do I have to tell you that what I said and the way said it wouldn't be considered disrespectful in my household? [/quote] And what you said afterwards wasn't disrespectful either, right? [quote] "What the hell is your problem mother? Drop your damn attitude and I wont speak to you like this. Sorry, I didn't realize I'm supposed to thank you when you act your age. You may be the reason I'm here, but I'm not going to inherently respect you. I am grateful for what I have but it doesn't mean I respect you at all. You argue with me, dad and gan-gan; it isn't us. You make your own stress and anger. Lose the attitude, calm the hell down and then I'll show you the respect you want".[/quote] You're a brat. I'm done arguing with you.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Covenant Crates [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight She knew what I meant.[/quote] That's not the point. "Son the machine is running hurry up and put your clothes in." "Why don't you turn the washing machine off then." He knows what I mean. Doesn't mean I can say it however the hell I want to him. [/quote] How many times do I have to tell you that what I said and the way said it wouldn't be considered disrespectful in my household?
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight She knew what I meant.[/quote] That's not the point. "Son the machine is running hurry up and put your clothes in." "Why don't you turn the washing machine off then." He knows what I mean. Doesn't mean I can say it however the hell I want to him.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] squirrel dude [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] squirrel dude I guess I was on your side until: [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight I put my pizza in the oven with the added peppers and sat down in the living room. Another few minutes passed and she walked in and said, "No matter what we argue about, you shouldn't talk to me like that. I'm your mother". I told her, "You may be the reason I'm here, but I'm not going to inherently respect you. [i][b]I am grateful for what I have[/i][/b] but it doesn't mean I respect you at all. You argue with me, dad and gan-gan; it isn't us. You make your own stress and anger. Lose the attitude, calm the hell down and then I'll show you the respect you want".[/quote]You acted like an ungrateful douche. [/quote] I stated quite clearly that I am grateful towards my parents.[/quote]No, you stated you are grateful for what [b]you have[/b], you did not say your were grateful for what you parents [b]have done for you.[/b] Within the context of a rant telling your mother that you don't respect her, it certainly cannot be assumed that you are grateful of her. [/quote]That's a fair point, but I doubt anyone would analyse that to such an extent during a heated scenario, especially not my mother. She knew what I meant.[/quote]Sometimes what you don't notice, your brain does, and remembers. Forever.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Covenant Crates [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight My point is that saying that wouldn't have caused an issue. Her aggressive and totally unnecessary reaction caught me off guard.[/quote] So you used up all the logic in your brain deducing that the oven should be turned off after you were done with the pizza, and you didn't have any left to realize that something may have been troubling her that at moment? I'm not saying she wasn't being aggressive and unnecessarily loud for nothing. But she [i]is[/i] your mother, and saying what you said to her after made things more unnecessary. The johnson guy above said it best. If you support logic and common sense, then man up and reconcile. This shouldn't even have made it to B.net. If you were smart enough to realize the oven shouldn't have been turned on before you were done, you are smart enough to realize this whole thing was the result of your pride. [/quote] We've established already that she was perfectly fine. And it doesn't take intelligence to realise that it'd be easier to leave it off until I'm done, than it being on and me having to hurry.
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Your mother is always right.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] squirrel dude [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] squirrel dude I guess I was on your side until: [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight I put my pizza in the oven with the added peppers and sat down in the living room. Another few minutes passed and she walked in and said, "No matter what we argue about, you shouldn't talk to me like that. I'm your mother". I told her, "You may be the reason I'm here, but I'm not going to inherently respect you. [i][b]I am grateful for what I have[/i][/b] but it doesn't mean I respect you at all. You argue with me, dad and gan-gan; it isn't us. You make your own stress and anger. Lose the attitude, calm the hell down and then I'll show you the respect you want".[/quote]You acted like an ungrateful douche. [/quote] I stated quite clearly that I am grateful towards my parents.[/quote]No, you stated you are grateful for what [b]you have[/b], you did not say your were grateful for what you parents [b]have done for you.[/b] Within the context of a rant telling your mother that you don't respect her, it certainly cannot be assumed that you are grateful of her. [/quote] That's a fair point, but I doubt anyone would analyse that to such an extent during a heated scenario, especially not my mother. She knew what I meant.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight My point is that saying that wouldn't have caused an issue. Her aggressive and totally unnecessary reaction caught me off guard.[/quote] So you used up all the logic in your brain deducing that the oven should be turned off after you were done with the pizza, and you didn't have any left to realize that something may have been troubling her that at moment? I'm not saying she wasn't being aggressive and unnecessarily loud for nothing. But she [i]is[/i] your mother, and saying what you said to her after made things more unnecessary. The johnson guy above said it best. If you support logic and common sense, then man up and reconcile. This shouldn't even have made it to B.net. If you were smart enough to realize the oven shouldn't have been turned on before you were done, you are smart enough to realize this whole thing was the result of your pride.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] squirrel dude I guess I was on your side until: [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight I put my pizza in the oven with the added peppers and sat down in the living room. Another few minutes passed and she walked in and said, "No matter what we argue about, you shouldn't talk to me like that. I'm your mother". I told her, "You may be the reason I'm here, but I'm not going to inherently respect you. [i][b]I am grateful for what I have[/i][/b] but it doesn't mean I respect you at all. You argue with me, dad and gan-gan; it isn't us. You make your own stress and anger. Lose the attitude, calm the hell down and then I'll show you the respect you want".[/quote]You acted like an ungrateful douche. [/quote] I stated quite clearly that I am grateful towards my parents.[/quote]No, you stated you are grateful for what [url=http://parentalwisdom.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/too-many-toys.png]you have[/url], you did not say your were grateful for what you parents [url=http://images.teamsugar.com/files/users/1/17470/10_2007/medfr05854.jpg]have done for you.[/url] Within the context of a rant telling your mother that you don't respect her, it certainly cannot be assumed that you are grateful of her. [Edited on 08.19.2012 1:29 PM PDT]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Saint of Taint Retaliating to an overreaction is childish as well, regardless of your age. Something may have been amiss and she may have been in a -blam!- mood. That is her prerogative. Your job as a child/teen/mooch who doesn't pay for goods is to accept the good attitudes with the bad. Making smart-ass comments to your mom gets you no where. [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] HistoryHighlight [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Saint of Taint Don't be a dick, bottom line. She bought the food and supplied the means to cook it. Be grateful and keep your mouth shut.[/quote] Again, I am grateful. Again, I wasn't a dick, initially. Again, I retaliated to her overreaction.[/quote][/quote] We've already established that my comment was in no way snide or smart-assey and she was not already in a foul mood. I'm not going to let her shout and swear at me when I did nothing wrong.
